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From one of the sharpest Christian voices of her generation and host of the podcast Relatable comes a framework for escaping our culture of trendy narcissism - and embracing God instead.

We're told that the key to happiness is self-love. Instagram influencers, mommy bloggers, self-help gurus, and even Christian teachers promise that if we learn to love ourselves, we'll be successful, secure, and complete. But the promise doesn't deliver. Instead of feeling fulfilled, our pursuit of self-love traps us in an exhausting cycle: As we strive for self-acceptance, we become addicted to self-improvement.

The truth is we can't find satisfaction inside ourselves because we are the problem. We struggle with feelings of inadequacy because we are inadequate. Alone, we are not good enough, smart enough, or beautiful enough. We're not enough - period. And that's okay, because God is.

The answer to our insufficiency and insecurity isn't self-love, but God's love. In Jesus, we're offered a way out of our toxic culture of self-love and into a joyful life of relying on him for wisdom, satisfaction, and purpose. We don't have to wonder what it's all about anymore. This is it.

This book isn't about battling your not-enoughness; it's about embracing it. Allie Beth Stuckey, a Christian, conservative new mom, found herself at the dead end of self-love, and she wants to help you combat the false teachings and self-destructive mindsets that got her there. In this book, she uncovers the myths popularized by our self-obsessed culture, reveals where they manifest in politics and the church, and dismantles them with biblical truth and practical wisdom.

©2020 Allie Beth Stuckey (P)2020 Penguin Audio

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Too religious.. Was excited to read but as an atheist soon as I heard Jesus mentioned I lost interest completely.

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Full of jem's and nugarts of wisdom!

listened a few times and each time I take away something new, highly recommend, for yourself, your children, everyone.

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Great Book!

Great read especially for young Christian women as they start their journey through adulthood, work and marriage.

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Unreal!

One of the best books I have ever “heard”!!! I could not recommend it enough!

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  • Danielle Hamlin
  • 10-09-20

I’m Not Christian

I’m not even Christian and I loved this book. I started to sense something was not right with the self-centered/ self-love movement a good chunk of months ago. I’m a spiritual person and I believe in God but it’s been a different God from the Christian God. Since starting Allie Stuckey’s book, I’ve also picked up the Bible. I’ve always been open with God and humble enough to let Him show me the way of truth. I’ve been sensing that Christianity has been making its way in to my life. Allie’s book was the nudge that solidified it. Thanks, Allie!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 06-01-21

Sigh of relief

As someone who has read and heard plenty of Christian self help messages but was still internally unsettled,this book came as a RELIEF. I’m not enough and never will be? My worth is found in Jesus and not in this treadmill of figuring out what it means to love myself (and subsequently placing myself firmly at the center of my own universe)? A warm blanket from the dryer.
I also knew this was exactly what I needed as I started listening to this is in the middle of a closet clean out😅 if you know,you know

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  • Patricia Callahan
  • 15-04-21

I wish I read this book in my 20s Give it to every young person you know!

This book is one of the best books I’ve ever read. Allie outlines so relatably the reason we are not enough. Focusing on self love as out culture promotes will always ultimately lead to disappointment. She has wisdom beyond her years that can only come from God. I already want to reread it.

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  • Esther Bautista
  • 16-08-20

Not What I Thought It Would be.

Overall, I want to say she did a good job writing and narrating her book. She was funny at times. I was off put by the title and didn't really want to listen to this, but I did. I agree with a lot of what she said, but to me it was a little confusing and seemed to jump around with the topics. I guess I was expecting or would have liked a more fleshed out version of why I am not enough and a Biblical view of how to relate to myself and reassurance of God's love. Although, it may be true to say that I am not enough, saying or reading that sentence makes me feel really bad. I didn't really enjoy this book that much. But others may find it helpful.

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  • Carolina
  • 25-02-21

ABSOLUTELY AMAZING

I’d like to start by saying that I am Allie’s biggest fan. I truly mean that.
Ever since I started listening to her podcast I quickly realized that I love absolutely every content she puts out. What an incredible and wise woman. A role model to me and so many others.
This book was nothing short of mind blowing and amazing. A gift to anyone who reads/listens to it.
I loved that it was narrated by Allie herself. It just made it that much better and feel like I enjoyed it more than if I had read it.
This book made me cry and laugh and convicted me in so many ways. It’s packed with so much truth and encouragement - a must-read for all women.
Allie has a gift with words and she expresses everything so beautifully and eloquently.
Grateful for the work God has accomplished through her and look forward to reading all the books she writes in the future.

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  • Magdalena
  • 29-12-20

Every woman or man needs to read this book

While this book was written with women as the target audience, every woman and man would benefit from reading it as both have been impacted by the lies of the self love culture.

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  • Tiffany Nicole Rowling
  • 19-08-20

Amazing!!!!

I love Allie’s podcast “Relatable” and I was so excited for her first book to come out!! This is an amazing book! It’s encouraging and uplifting! Every young girl and women needs to read this.

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  • Christina Gavilondo
  • 21-07-21

I'm not enough but that okay

I'm not enough but that is ok for the lord my father. He made me who I am. I am blessed to know that. something I love for the book and share is: It’s God’s ever-replenishing love that gives us all we need to care for those around us (1 John 4:19). While “the thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy” in the name of self-love, Jesus came that we may have abundant life through him (John 10:10). His way leads to joy, to peace, to wisdom, to comfort, to steadiness, to purpose—to all the things you’ve been told to look for in yourself but haven’t been able to find. You’re not enough. You’ve never been enough. You never will be enough. And that’s okay. 😊

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  • Allison Harrington
  • 19-07-21

Solid

Allie shares so much wisdom and truth! I’ve enjoyed her podcasts, but this was even better.

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  • BRIAN HUTCHINSON
  • 16-07-21

Intentional look at principles, very relatable!

I love that this is full of relatable stories, though none quite my own the experience of being lost, trying to fill the void the wrong way, finding the true answer... God, experiencing motherhood and marriage, the way God uses it to grow us.... just so relatable. I also loved how although allie wasn't quoting scripture... I could just hear it all right under the surface! She's been marinaded in the scripture, and that flavor is on her world veiw, the way she speaks. It's so nice!

I did wish I could look at the words, but I think that's just audible... this is my first book here.