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The Mask of Masculinity

How Men Can Embrace Vulnerability, Create Strong Relationships, and Live Their Fullest Lives
Narrated by: Lewis Howes
Length: 6 hrs and 42 mins
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Standing between you and the man you can be is one thing: The Mask of Masculinity.

Lewis Howes grew up as an athlete. He was a two-sport All-American, played almost every sport in high school, and went on to play football professionally. Howes then transferred his competitive nature from sports to business, building his podcast, The School of Greatness, into a global phenomenon and becoming successful beyond his wildest dreams. But his whole identity was built on misguided beliefs about what "masculinity" was: dangerous, false ideas learned from teammates and coaches in locker rooms and stereotypes in the media. Like so many men, Howes grew up to be angry, frustrated, and always chasing something that was never enough.

At 30 years old, outwardly thriving but unfulfilled inside, Howes began a personal journey to find inner peace and to uncover the many masks that men - young and old - wear: by asking for advice from some of the world's best psychologists, doctors, and household names like Tony Robbins, Alanis Morissette, and Ray Lewis. That journey created this book - a must-listen for every man, and for every woman who loves a man.

In The Mask of Masculinity, Howes exposes the ultimate emptiness of the Material Mask, the man who chases wealth above all things; the cowering vulnerability that hides behind the Joker and Stoic Masks of men who never show real emotion; and the destructiveness of the Invincible and Aggressive Masks worn by men who take insane risks or can never back down from a fight.

He teaches men how to break through the walls that hold them back and shows women how they can better understand the men in their lives. It's not easy, but if you want to love, be loved, and live a great life, then it's an odyssey of self-discovery that all modern men must make.

©2017 Lewis Howes (P)2017 Lewis Howes

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Insightfull

As a female teacher, I know how to talk to girls in order to build them up. This book has helped me reflect on how I should talk to the boys in the classroom and the men in my life. I also like the fact that I find parallels with my life, in the sense that both sexes suffer when language is repeated, and not properly processed, in communicating expectation. Thank you for writing it.

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very good

great listen. refreshingly honest and made me realise a lot about myself that I wasn't even aware of

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Excellent content but narration is boring

after buying the book for a Male friend I got this for me. However the narration put me off and I have not finished it. Then.. I heard Graham with 5 love languages and there is a huge difference as a receptor. Wish Lewis did an improved reading version as the content is great!

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amazing

Incredibly deep yet practical and useful suggestions for self development of your masculine side, wow

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Complete unexpected!

Oh wow! The Joker and The Know It All masks just blew my mind away! This is a must read for both men and women!

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  • Kary Oberbrunner
  • 31-10-17

Time for an entire gender to be unmasked

Everybody wears a mask at some point in his or her life. According to studies, over 80% of adults struggle with the imposter syndrome, right now. The personal growth industry and self-help subculture can sometimes cloak the raw, honest, reality that haunts us all. Feelings of worthlessness, not measuring up, and pretending...these emotions infect everybody—including successful entrepreneurs.

I love what Lewis does in this book. He starts out, by unmasking his own journey. He doesn't stop there either. Using his own life as the example, he unmasks masculinity as a whole. He dares to address stereotypes, myths, and facades that many men hide behind. Dissecting this book helps us all understand the pressures, stressors, and stakes for being a true man. Thanks Lewis for taking yet another risk, the risk of digging deep inside ourselves.

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  • Jana
  • 04-08-18

MUST READ FOR MEN AND WOMEN

I’m a female, and this was the best, most enlightening book I’ve read in a long time. For me, I gained an understanding for men and tips with how to help them become their best. For men, I think this gives true insight into becoming their most authentic self. Must MUST read.

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  • AwJeez
  • 27-06-18

Nothing new for anyone over 35

I discovered this author by watching the YouTube channel "Impact Theory" and expected a lot more. The first listen thru, I thought maybe I spaced out and missed some important information. I went and gave it a second listen and that really comes down to there isn't a whole lot of meat in this sandwich. This might help your average 25 year old fresh-out-of-college teeming with testosterone, but anyone over 30-35 is really not going to get anything out of this book unless they have matured very slowly.

Who is this book for? That's a hard question. If you're in your 30s and still getting into fights in the bar or the court, maybe. If you're 40+ and still trying to pick up chicks at clubs full of college kids, most definitely.

I hate to dump on this author, he seems nice and genuine. But this book just didn't hold much value for your average adult male.

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  • M. W
  • 24-07-18

Here's What's Wrong With You - The End

I really loved the idea of this book. What is here is great, but it's missing a few final chapters: the solution, and resolution. He does a great job telling us what's wrong but then the book ends without giving any actionable tips!?

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  • james dempsey
  • 01-11-17

A must read for all men.

I really liked this book. I think Lewis did a great job in Pointing out the different mask. I myself have wore more than one mask as a teen and young adult. I noticed after high school how the way I acted and behaved was very much like different masks in this book. I wish I could have read thus when I was 18. 28 years old now now I have taken off some mask. This books tells it like it is from boys in the locker room to on the field. Men as a society have been conditioned to wear these mask and limit there full potential. As a father, I would recommend all dads read this and begin to understand how we can expose these mask and raise a more compassionate, honest, loving society of Great men.

Thank you Lewis & team

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  • Nicola Siso
  • 31-01-18

A must for women too!

I learned sooo much about how and why a man operates the way he does. This is absolutely essential for women in or looking for a relationship. Will clarify SO much!

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  • A. Hill
  • 20-11-17

Pure Greatness! I have been a School of Greatness

I have been a school of greatness podcast listener since the summer of 2016. No amount of words can tell you how valuable this book is to whomever is a fan of Lewis Howes work. Even if you've never gotten a chance listen to anything of his you owe yourself a favor and buy this audiobook. I heard about his new release through his podcast and just the way he descibed what he was going to talk about in his book, I knew it was going to good but not this good. As soon as I turned in on and heard his voice it was as if I was listening to Lewis's podcast, but more storytelling like. Like he says in the preface this isn't a self help book by any means. If I was to describe it as anything I would call it a self healing book, looking at where you are in life, what type of life you've lived or are living, and how to fill in those how did this happen moment's. All men and women really do need to read about this book that explains in depth how everyone wears masks for the greater of good and evil. We all have worn a mask at some point in our life or are still wearing one to this day. The question is which mask will you take off after reading this book?

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  • Dan
  • 15-11-17

Perspective we all should start adapting.

I loved the audible in the car while driving to and from work. Really helped me through a rough patch. Just hearing Lewis read his own work really provided that level of relating to what he has found and the information he is trying to convey. Totally recommend for every adult in this day and age.

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  • NewYorker
  • 10-11-18

A great study on the value of taking off masks

Lewis identifies masks men can be prone to wear with anecdotal examples from both Lewis's and others lives.  Lewis does a good job of explaining that while those masks can help you achieve, or protect, or be seen a certain way, they can also harm oneself, one's loved ones, and society.  Mainly it shows the value in removing those masks and the gift of leaning into vulnerability and authenticity.   As a female reader I appreciated his thoughts on how women can support men in taking off the masks.   As a mom of a boy it helped me understand what pressures and challenges he may have to put on these masks.  In our #metoo era I'm very interested in coming into deep understanding of both sexes.  Without deep understanding it will be more challenging to truly change our culture.  Bravo Lewis Howes on this deep dive.

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  • RhinocerosX
  • 01-11-17

Wow!.. Great Book Lewis!..

Wow!.. Great Book Lewis!.. I could really relate to several masks I have worn at some time or another and think it's awesome that someone that I admire has chosen to write about it and Lewis has done so in a very brilliant and life changing way!..

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