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The Lie

A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out
Narrated by: Will Damron
Length: 8 hrs and 16 mins
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Summary

A candid memoir of denial, stolen identities, betrayal, faking it, and coming out.

Do you know me?, the email began, sparking tremors of fear that turned into a full quake of panic when William Dameron discovered that his selfie had been stolen by strangers. On social networks and dating sites, his image and identity - a forty-year-old straight white male - had been used to hook countless women into believing in lies of love and romance. Was it all an ironic cosmic joke? Almost a decade prior, William himself had been living a lie that had lasted for more than twenty years. His secret? He was a gay man, a fact he hid from his wife and two daughters for almost as long as he had hidden it from himself. 

In this emotional and unflinchingly honest memoir of coming out of the closet late in life, owning up to the past, and facing the future, William Dameron confronts steroid addiction, the shame and homophobia of his childhood, the sledgehammer of secrets that slowly tore his marriage apart, and his love for a gay father of three that would once again challenge the boundaries of trust. At the true heart of The Lie is a universal story about turning self-doubt into self-acceptance and about pain, anger, and the long journey of both seeking and giving forgiveness. 

“Candid and compassionate, the book celebrates truth and honors the redemptive power of forgiveness and love…Uplifting.” --Kirkus Reviews

©2018 William Dameron (P)2018 Brilliance Publishing, Inc., all rights reserved

Critic reviews

“Compelling…Darkly animated…Tamps down the tall grass of untold experience.” - New York Times

“Candid and compassionate, the book celebrates truth and honors the redemptive power of forgiveness and love…Uplifting.” - Kirkus Reviews 

“At once brutal and beautiful, William Dameron’s memoir unearths layers of secrets and decades of deception in startling, vivid prose. The Lie could not be more honest.” - Augusten Burroughs, New York Times bestselling author of Running with Scissors

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  • Jackie
  • Gravesend, United Kingdom
  • 07-08-19

honest journey shared ....thanks

in some ways, while a journey thru soul-searching and coming out, it also reaches out to other later life discoveries and why we are and how to find self acceptance...thanks!

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  • Lisa Villa
  • 25-08-19

Beautifully written

William Dameron is a very talented writer, it was emotional and powerfully written. He has a way with words that makes it easy to listen and feel his meaning in depth. He did an excellent narrative as well.
I felt this memoir helped me-a married mother in a heterosexual relationship-understand the life of a gay man. Not only a gay man but a closeted gay father in a long term marriage. I enjoyed and learned much from this book even though I cannot say I am 100% in agreement with his decision making it did help to open my mind and to be empathetic.
The only reason I did not give this book 5 stars is because as difficult as it must have been to leave his marriage I did not feel that there was not alot of reflection on his part as to the aftermath his ex-wife and two daughters would and continue to endure. He seemed quite focused on getting in tune with his authentic self that it seemed to overshadow his families journey. He touched on it here and there but I felt as if it weren't as important to him as finding himself. I guess as a mother it made me sad, I don't know if I can ever shift my focus from my children to myself. I really feel my parental obligation trumps everything. And when I say that I dont mean that he shouldn't be honest with himself and his family but that he should hold off from dating and getting serious until his children have all the love and emotional support they need while they are growing up. It's hard enough to endure a divorce, but to add in the truth of sexuality and then dating-thats alot for a young person to process. As I said earlier this is the reason I didn't give 5 stars, because I could imagine his girls reading it and feeling their heartbreak. If I were them I would probably choose not to read, in some places it could be heartwarming while others it could devastate them.
As far as the quality, top of the line in writing capabilities and in audio performance. Sheds light on the topic and is helpful for our society to understand. I hope this book helps others in the closet to avoid his hardships in the future.

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  • David Nale
  • 31-10-19

Beautifully Written

You live his life. All the ups and downs - and learn from every step.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 04-10-19

good true story

Good story, I could relate to several parts to his struggle. poignant and heart felt.

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  • L. Ford Ballard, Jr.
  • 23-09-19

Excellent portrait of a transition

Sadly that these situation still happen, but an uplifting story of a gay man's finally coming out and acceptance of self. Well narrated.

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  • tammy
  • 16-09-19

Misleading

I thought this book was more about internet scams and catfishing but it's really more about Will coming out. I really wanted to love this book but was just left feeling disappointed.

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  • Mark Walde
  • 10-09-19

This book is so needed!

At first, I picked this book up because the topic is so needed. We have very few coming-out stories of people who came out later on life, and who had to come out to their spouses and children. But then I was completely pulled in by the beautiful writing. Dameron describes every scene so well that it felt like I was reading a movie.

There is so much emotion in this book. I admire how much insight he gained over his his journey. I love how he strings all the different chapters together. It’s a beautiful work of art that honors all the difficult experiences he has been through. You’ll cry, and cringe, and sigh and hold your breath.

I highly recommend this book. Loved it!!

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  • Julia
  • 13-08-19

Well written memoir

Written from the heart, great memoir writing. The perfect length for the story. Makes reader feel like they know the author and his struggles.

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  • BHosk
  • 29-07-19

Wow

What a great book, amazing and heartfelt story. Very much relatable to all stages of coming out.

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  • Camellia
  • 18-07-19

Beautiful, heart-wrenching, and full of hope

This is the first memoir I've listened to on audiobook and it was stunning. I cried. I laughed. William Dameron's life story and gorgeous and insightful writing took me on an incredible journey. Writing about coming out as a gay man late in life -- and with a wife and two daughters -- Dameron doesn't shy away from the hard moments. He writes with both brutal honesty and deep compassion about what this meant for him and his family. The pain lying to himself and about himself caused -- but also the way that owning and living a new truth ultimately created even stronger family bonds. Dameron's memoir takes us from lies to truth, from darkness to light in a way that is so personal and yet so universally human. This is the kind of book that sticks with you long after the last chapter.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-07-19

informative

if one has an open mind, this story enlightens one on how hard it would be to come out and be your true self in a world so prejudice. hopefully, one day , a person won't have to go through so much anguish to be their true self.