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Summary

In Love Is a Choice, best-selling doctors Robert Hemfelt, Frank Minirth, and Paul Meier walk you through their 10 proven stages to recovery from codependency that results from external circumstances. Humans are susceptible to codependency because of our sinful tendency to use defense mechanisms to fool ourselves. In codependent relationships, deceitful games are played, and important Christian principles are often taken out of context and abused. God wants us to have healthy relationships with a balance between being dependent and independent.

The doctors describe how the most effective means of overcoming codependent relationships is to establish or deepen a relationship with Christ himself. They describe the causes of codependency, pointing out the factors that perpetuate it, and lead listeners through their 10 stages of recovery.

©1989 Robert Hemfelt, Frank Minirth, and Paul Meier (P)2017 Tantor

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poor narration

narration sounded electronic, not a natural flow of narrative. It was quite irritating and interrupted my enjoyment.

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  • Jeff
  • 15-03-18

Great book, horrible Performance

Sounds like a robot reading. Christopher’s voice is good, But there is a staccato cadence that makes it seem as though it must’ve been recorded and edited word by word. It is literally frustrating to listen to

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  • Andrew F.
  • 06-03-18

Great content... Awful Narration

Great content with Christian msg. I'll admit that the Christian message may be distracting for those outside the faith but I can say that I was able to look past its insistence on the relationship with Jesus to see through to the heart of the message of the book. The narration was the worst I've heard on audible... It needed to be sped up in order to be listenable and was probably the largest hurdle to clear in order to listen and enjoy this book.
That said, I've been able to heal myself and many of my relationships as a result of the material covered in this book and would gladly recommend it to others trying to escape the clutches of codependency.

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  • Hank
  • 02-09-17

Personal Emotional Help

The authors have a Excellent track record. This book provides a practical review of Codependency. it's great prep for personal councling.

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  • Jerilyn Harder
  • 28-03-19

Great book. Terrible narration!

The content of the book is incredible, but the person reading it is worse than a computer voice. I had to order the paperback to read it again so I can really get the full impact of the author’s intentions.

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  • 01-01-19

insightful

An outstanding insight into family dynamic as it pertains to dependency and co-dependency. The authors hold the delicate balance of psychological modelsand Biblical truths.

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  • Allison Castille
  • 18-05-22

A MUST READ!!!!

My therapist recommended this book to me and the first 2 chapters punched me in the throat in the best way possible. It really opened my eyes to how love IS a choice! It taught me me things I didn't realize about myself, unhealthy behaviors, and how to not take away someone's responsibility for them. This book has saved me and I'm more excited to read it a second time and take notes!

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  • J. R. Edmisten
  • 18-05-22

A very revelatory read, a tool for healing.

It's focus on the symptoms of and reasons and means for overcoming co-dependency and how to avoid causing it by poor choices in the next generation was incredible. I found myself initially recognizing elements in others at varying degrees and them some in myself. Priceless. I'm ordering the print version now!

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  • d gilmore
  • 10-05-22

Robotic reader, very triggering

This book doesn't take into account the existance of any other belief system outside of Christiantiy. Some of this information may help Christians but would almost be repelling to those who are not. Still has a patriarchal tone, Christ may have thought women equal but his followers clearly do not and this has never changed. Puritanism, patriarchy, and guilt are at the root of most of our problems and for me Christianity is ripe with these concepts and will never facilitate true healing because it continues to use codependency and magical thinking rather than action and accountability. It was difficult to sit through.

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  • Elizabeth Tefke
  • 04-05-22

I can't listen to this robot voice!!

The audio is awful. 5 minutes is all I could stand. I don't recommend.

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  • Sara
  • 01-04-22

Great Book

Great book I highly recommend , it's very easy to understand and to follow. I'll be using this book with my clients in particular with codependan relationships.