If you’re exhausted, overwhelmed, and wondering where it all went wrong — this book is for you. When children explode, withdraw, or seem impossible to reach, we’re often told to be firmer and more consistent. But for families living with trauma and neurodivergence, those approaches can make everything worse. Because the problem was never the behaviour. Trauma-Informed Parenting in Action brings together the core content of the Trauma-Informed Parenting workshops delivered by the SCIO charity of the same name, created by Suzanne Scott to share information that changed lives.

Grounded in lived experience and shaped by Bryan Post’s Stress Model, this book offers a different way — one rooted in safety, connection, and compassion.

The stories and examples shared throughout this book come from experiences involving different children and families who have been part of our lives. To protect their privacy, names and identifying information have been omitted, and some details may have been changed or combined. The examples remain faithful to the experiences and learning they are intended to illustrate.

This is not about blame.

It’s not about fixing children.

It’s about understanding what sits beneath behaviour — and discovering that connection, not control, is where real change begins.

For parents, carers, and professionals who know there has to be another way.