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  • Rewire How You Think in Six Weeks with REBT
  • By: Daniel Fryer
  • Narrated by: Max Dinnen
  • Length: 7 hrs and 30 mins
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (64 ratings)
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Summary

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Whatever life throws at you, learn to deal with it in a healthier and more rational way.

When it comes to destructive emotions and unhelpful behaviours, you are your own worst enemy. Rather than people or situations driving you to depression, distraction or doughnuts, all too often it’s your own unhealthy beliefs and thought habits that hold you back and f--k everything up. But, what can you do about it? 

Highly experienced REBT (rational emotive behaviour therapy) psychotherapist Daniel Fryer can stop these thoughts from messing up your life using a simple but effective model. 

In The Four Thoughts that F**k You UpAnd How to Fix Them he reveals the four unhealthy beliefs that hold you back (Dogmatic Demands, Dramas, I Can’t Copes and Pejorative Put-Downs) and shows you how to replace them with four healthy beliefs (Flexible Preferences, Perspectives, I Can Copes and Unconditional Acceptance) - in as little as six weeks. Yes, you read that right: just six weeks to a new you.

Developed in the mid-'50s by psychotherapist Albert Ellis, REBT is known as the first form of cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT). Not only is it an effective therapy, but it’s also an excellent philosophy for everyday life. With this model, Daniel will help you identify a specific personal challenge and then reframe how you react to it, leading to a calmer, happier you. This approach is especially helpful if you struggle with stress, anxiety, depression, anger or self-doubt, or if you want to improve your relationships with family, colleagues and peers or, simply, yourself.

When you free your mind from the thoughts that f--k you up, you’ll never look at anything the same way again. Want to get started?

©2019 Daniel Fryer (P)2019 Penguin Audio

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I cannot recommend this book highly enough

Thoroughly enjoyed both as an integrative counsellor and a human being with a brain which has had a tendency to depression and anxiety. Enjoyed the audio version so much that I also bought the paperback / it will enhance my use of CBT (and REBT) with clients. Although I think the paper copy loses something as the narrator is marvellous. There was nothing new here for me but it’s all about the presentation and accessibility. Personally, I rarely swear (or give reviews) but it was fitting here as was the humour. (Also check out Dan’s paper on humour in psychotherapy).

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Incredibly informative in a concise and easy to understand format as well as being really well narrated

I hadn’t heard of Daniel before but the book summary looked good so I gave it a go. It is incredible how well Daniel sums up the underlying issues that affect most of humanity to varying degrees. His explanation of the four main distorted thought patterns are really easy to see in yourself and others. He clearly takes you through the process of understanding yourself clearly and how to make changes for the better. His teachings are grounded in REBT and are very much aimed at giving individuals the tools to obtain understanding and personal development. I found this book really down to earth and the narration is excellent. Probably the best self book I have ever read.

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Good advice—but you know it already

Not bad advice, by any means, but simplistic and somewhat self-evident. I nodded along, but I didn’t pick up anything new I could apply.

Also, having “f**k” in the title is attention-seeking, over-used (and passé).

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Mostly useless, sometimes dangerous

I bought this book hoping to learn how not to be... upset with some situations or people, and the same time not to lose good standards however the author doesn't offer any real help. Following his ideas, I would probably arrive too late for the plane, bus or important meetings, not to mention decrease the quality of delivered services. Great narrator is the only reason why this book is not utterly rubbish.

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Mediocre at best

agree with another reviewer who said the book was not useful. I gave up because a lot of it was nonsense, a lot was common sense and most was not really that relevant.

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A great, accessible REBT book, really enjoyed it !!

I’m a GP up north of 15 years experience and in no way connected to the author.
This book is absolutely great.
I like that it is safe as it states and reiterates other options and seeking help if your not sure.
There’s no wild claims. He’s modest and “offers” this as a tool rather than a magic fix.
There’s another review saying unsafe which offends me professionally as I see nothing of the sort.
I have and will recommend this to patients I feel suit the therapy.

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made sense, easy listen

really enjoyed this book and the narration. easy and engaging to listen to. will relisten and buy paper copy

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Definitely worth a read

I bought on a whim, but I ended up really thinking it was a worthwhile read.

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Excellent!

Such a great book which has been so useful. I will come back to this again and again!

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So true

Daniel fryer voice is a plus. Really enjoyed it I would recommend it to anyone

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