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Why Isn't Everyone Doing This? with Emily Fletcher

Why Isn't Everyone Doing This? with Emily Fletcher

By: Emily Fletcher
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Welcome to Why Isn't Everyone Doing This with Emily Fletcher. Each week we’ll explore some of the most spine-tingling, potent modalities that can give you the kind of bliss and pleasure that is your birthright. No topic is off limits: We’ll dive into everything from breathwork to psychedelics, from meditation to BDSM. Join Emily in conversation with scientists, doctors, healers, and innovative thinkers to reveal the tools that have radically changed their lives, and that very well may change yours, too. We can’t wait to hear which one has you asking, “Why isn’t everyone doing this?”2023
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  • 131. Why Isn't Everyone Removing Their Invisible Obstacles? with Emily Fletcher

    131. Why Isn't Everyone Removing Their Invisible Obstacles? with Emily Fletcher
    Jul 1 2026
    What if the thing standing between you and what you want isn't strategy, timing, or circumstance, but something operating in a realm you've never been taught to access? In this solo episode, Emily Fletcher shares the insight that has become the cornerstone of nearly two decades of teaching: that most of the obstacles blocking what we most desire are invisible. Not because they're imaginary. They are very real. But because they're happening at a different state of consciousness. Emily introduces the concept of invisible cages: the accumulated stress, inherited beliefs, unfelt feelings, and intergenerational trauma stored at the cellular level that quietly set the upper limit on what we allow ourselves to receive. And she makes the case that no amount of strategy, goal-setting, or external change can dissolve them, because you cannot remove a cage you cannot see. The solution, she argues, is access to the unmanifest: a verifiable fourth state of consciousness, distinct from waking, sleeping, or dreaming, where the body receives rest five times deeper than sleep and begins spontaneously releasing the backlog of stress that creates the cages in the first place. Emily shares a student's story, a profound piece of sculpture from Burning Man, and a discovery about the Egyptian goddess Nephthys that reframed her entire body of work. In this episode, Emily explores: Why the real blocks to manifestation are invisible, and why that's actually good news The "I'll be happy when" syndrome and what it reveals about how most people are trying to manifest How 99.999% of knowable reality is invisible, and what that means for how we approach change The Burning Man sculpture that shows two adults stuck back to back while their inner children desperately try to connect Isis and Nephthys: the twin goddesses of manifest and unmanifest, and the lightbulb moment that tied Emily's work together What happens in the body when you access the fourth state: rest, release, and rising frequency Why the benefits of accessing the field compound over time, just as the harmful effects of stress do One student's story of unexpected income, career clarity, and the emotional courage that emerged Key Moments: 00:00 – The thing keeping people stuck is rarely what they think it is 01:42 – Who this episode is for 03:52 – Trying to solve invisible problems with visible tools 05:09 – The Burning Man sculpture and invisible cages 07:37 – The "I'll be happy when" syndrome 08:06 – External reality as an outpicturing of internal architecture 09:26 – Once you access the field, you get access to more 10:13 – We cannot remove what we cannot see 11:24 – Isis, Nephthys, and the unmanifest 13:25 – Rest five times deeper than sleep 15:30 – The compound effect 17:38 – Cheryl's story 19:10 – Magic Maker: free, three days, July 16 ✨ Magic Maker is officially open for registration. Three days. Totally free. July 16, 21 & 23. Join Emily live for the event she's been building toward all year: three days of activations, tools, and community designed to help you access the unmanifest, release your invisible cages, and start becoming a frequency match for everything you're calling in. Register free: magicmaker.zivameditation.com 🔗 More from Emily & Ziva: Learn Ziva Meditation: preview.zivameditation.com Free masterclass: learn.zivameditation.com Get 15% off with promo code WHYTHIS: whythis.zivameditation.com Follow us on Instagram: @zivameditation
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    21 mins
  • 130. Why Isn't Everyone Healing with Heat and Light? with Connie Zach

    130. Why Isn't Everyone Healing with Heat and Light? with Connie Zach
    Jun 26 2026
    Most people know sauna is good for them. Far fewer understand why, or why the difference between a generic infrared sauna and a precision-engineered one can be the difference between feeling good and genuine transformation. In this episode of Why Isn't Everyone Doing This?, Emily Fletcher sits down with Connie Zach, co-founder of Sunlighten, for a science-grounded, story-rich conversation about the healing power of heat and light. Connie traces the origin of her 25-year mission to her brother's recovery from mercury poisoning, and the cardiovascular research she was quietly encountering while working in pharmaceutical development at Procter & Gamble. What she found convinced her that infrared sauna was one of the most underutilized healing technologies on the planet. Together, Emily and Connie break down the four wavelengths of the infrared spectrum, why each interacts with the body differently, and why Sunlighten's patented approach to separating and delivering those wavelengths produces results that general infrared products don't. They also share the transformation stories that have fueled Connie's work for decades: Leanne Rimes managing severe anxiety with what she calls her "happiness in a box," a woman named Jerry who went from being unable to climb stairs to moving freely again, and elderly patients who dramatically increased their exercise capacity through passive infrared therapy. Emily shares why infrared sauna is one of only two wellness practices she would take with her to a desert island, and what it feels like to combine daily meditation with consistent sauna use for nervous system support. In this episode, they explore: – The four wavelengths of the infrared spectrum and how each one interacts with the body – Why far infrared is the foundation of all infrared therapy and how it triggers cardiovascular conditioning – Near infrared's deep penetration capacity, and why Dr. Glenn Jeffrey at University College London says it does 90% of the heavy lifting in light therapy – Japan's Waon therapy: a first-line treatment for congestive heart failure showing a 50% reduction in hospitalization and death – How infrared sauna mimics passive exercise by increasing circulation, heart rate, and blood flow – The link between stagnant circulation and disease, and why consistent heat therapy keeps the system flowing – Connie's brother's recovery from heavy metal toxicity and the pharmaceutical research that changed everything – Why all infrared is not the same, and what to look for in a sauna if transformation is the goal – Leanne Rimes, chronic anxiety, and "happiness in a box" – What changes on the planet when more people have access to this level of recovery Key Moments: 00:00 – Why isn't everyone understanding the magic of heat and light? 05:09 – Introducing Connie Zach and Sunlighten 06:51 – The infrared spectrum: four wavelengths, four different effects 10:40 – Near infrared vs. red light: what actually penetrates the deepest 16:05 – Connie's origin story: her brother's healing from mercury poisoning 18:27 – Cardiovascular research that changed Connie's path out of pharma 20:23 – Infrared as passive cardiovascular conditioning 21:41 – Waon therapy in Japan and the 50% hospitalization reduction 24:15 – The elderly exercise capacity study 27:36 – Emily on circulation, stagnation, and disease 35:00 – Deathbed slideshow: the transformation stories 37:22 – Leanne Rimes: "happiness in a box" 41:10 – Dr. Jeff Spencer and the Sunlighten Solo 44:57 – What changes when a billion people use heat and light About Connie Zach Connie Zach is the co-founder of Sunlighten, a precision infrared sauna company with over 25 years of research-backed innovation. Her patented SoloCarbon technology is the only clinically studied full-spectrum infrared available. This episode is sponsored by Sunlighten. Save up to $2,100 + free shipping at get.sunlighten.com/zivapodcast 🔗 MORE FROM EMILY & ZIVA: Learn Ziva Meditation: preview.zivameditation.com Free masterclass: learn.zivameditation.com Get 15% off with promo code WHYTHIS: whythis.zivameditation.com Follow us on Instagram: @zivameditation
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    1 hr and 14 mins
  • 129. Why Isn’t Everyone Crying Out Loud? with Laura Berman

    129. Why Isn’t Everyone Crying Out Loud? with Laura Berman
    Jun 23 2026
    What if the feelings you've been most afraid to feel are the exact ones keeping you from the pleasure, the magic, and the life you most desire? In this episode of Why Isn't Everyone Doing This?, Emily Fletcher sits down with Dr. Laura Berman, PhD scientist, sex and relationship therapist of 30 years, and author of 10 books including Sex Magic and her newest, Crying Out Loud: A Path Through Grief into Life Reimagined. Dr. Berman's story is one of the most remarkable Emily has ever shared on this show. After losing her mother to breast cancer and developing the same cancer in the same breast within a year, Laura recognized the connection between unexpressed grief and physical illness. Then, five years ago, her 16-year-old son Sammy was killed by an accidental fentanyl poisoning sent to him through Snapchat. What happened next, a week alone in the Redwoods, a voice at the beach, and a complete surrender into the pain, led to the discovery that changed everything: there is a bottom. It takes about three minutes. And going all the way into grief does not take you under. It sets you free. This conversation directly illuminates what Emily teaches inside Ziva Magic: all feelings come through the same channel. When you suppress grief and rage, you suppress pleasure and ecstasy. The willingness to stretch your emotional capacity is the same thing as stretching your capacity for magic. In this episode, they explore: – Why all feelings come through the same channel, and what you lose when you block the ones that hurt – The science of emotional inflammation and its direct connection to physical illness – Quantum entanglement and why the people closest to you energetically match your state in real time – The "home frequency" of coherence, how to recognize it, lose it, and return to it – Why going all the way into grief does not break you, and what waits on the other side – How Dr. Berman continued a relationship with her son across the frequency divide after his death – What spiritually bypassing grief actually costs us, and what embodied alchemy looks like instead – The grief retreat model she built for other parents and the Grief Healing Collective she runs today – Why one person holding a higher frequency counteracts 70,000 people in darkness Key Moments: 00:00 – All feelings through the same channel: the conversation begins 01:53 – Introducing Dr. Laura Berman 04:10 – From 3D relationship work to quantum and metaphysical 07:37 – Her mother's death, breast cancer, and the reawakening 09:13 – Quantum entanglement and real-time energetic matching 12:51 – Home frequency: what it is and how to return 19:13 – Reality expands and collapses based on state of consciousness 24:25 – Why we resist grief 29:06 – The science of emotional capacity and the single channel 31:07 – Sammy's death and what came next 33:23 – The voice: "Do you want to live or die?" 35:29 – Into the Redwoods: discovering there is a bottom 39:28 – Raising her frequency to meet her son in the middle 43:16 – Writing the book and building the retreat model 48:37 – The fear of opening a bottomless pit 51:15 – There is a bottom. Three minutes. You will not lose yourself. 54:45 – Why we apologize for crying and what Crying Out Loud reclaims 01:01:40 – One person holding higher frequency counteracts 70,000 01:04:30 – Where to find Laura and how to get the book About Dr. Laura Berman Dr. Laura Berman is a PhD scientist, sex and relationship therapist, researcher, and author of 10 books. Her newest, Crying Out Loud: A Path Through Grief into Life Reimagined, is available for pre-order now and releases October 20. She runs the Grief Healing Collective and grief retreats for parents, and her free resources are available at healwithlaurea.com. Social Media: @drlauraberman and @griefhealingcollective for grief healing related content Pre-Order Dr. Laura’s book: Crying Out Loud If this conversation moved you, the work of feeling it to heal it, of alchemizing emotion into fuel rather than suppressing it into static, is what's opening this summer at Ziva. Get on the list to be first to know. 👉 zivameditation.com/pages/magicmaker-priority 🔗 MORE FROM EMILY & ZIVA: Learn Ziva Meditation: preview.zivameditation.com Free masterclass: learn.zivameditation.com Get 15% off with promo code WHYTHIS: whythis.zivameditation.com Follow us on Instagram: @zivameditation
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    1 hr and 1 min
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