Episode 7: Why We Should All Quit Being Selfless (and how this benefits everyone)

Introduction

Hello, listeners! Welcome back to this week's episode of The Hilary Silver Podcast. In today's episode, titled "Why We Should All Quit Being Selfless (and how this benefits everyone)," we take on the notion of selflessness and its impact on our lives and those around us. We often hear that being selfless is virtuous, but could it be causing more harm than good? Let's explore how embracing a more self-centered approach can lead to healthier relationships and a happier, more authentic life.

Episode Highlights:

• Understanding selflessness and its hidden costs.
• The difference between being selfless and being centered in oneself.
• Interviews and discussions with my Creative Director about real-life experiences and professional insights.
• Practical advice on shifting from selflessness to being self-centered in a healthy way.

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00:00] - Introduction to the topic and its importance.
• [00:01:15] - Hilary shares personal stories and insights on selflessness.
• [00:15:00] - Discussion with guest Jess about societal expectations and personal experiences.
• [00:30:00] - Practical tips on how to start prioritizing oneself.
• [00:45:00] - Q&A session with listeners, addressing their struggles and questions.

Listener Takeaways:

• Self-Centered is Not Wrong: Understanding that prioritizing yourself is not selfish but essential for your well-being and the well-being of others around you.
• Reevaluate Personal Values: Encourages listeners to reconsider what they've been taught about selflessness and to understand the positive impacts of being more self-centered.
• Practical Steps to Change: Offers actionable advice on how to shift from a selfless to a self-centered mindset without guilt.
• Empowerment Through Self-Prioritization: Highlights how taking care of yourSELF without resorting to negative coping mechanisms or internalization (which leads to dis-ease) leads to a more authentic and fulfilling life.

Resources

YOU Really Are The Center of The Universe

Episode 6: Why We're All Emotional Eaters (and what we can do about it)

Introduction

Hello, Listeners! Welcome back to this week’s episode of The Hilary Silver Podcast. Join me as I dive into the world of emotional eating, where I share both my personal journey and family history with food along with my professional insights. Today, we're exploring how our relationships with food are deeply intertwined with our emotions, shaped by everything from family dynamics to societal pressures. We'll uncover practical strategies for aligning your eating habits with my signature self-centered approach that emphasizes true self-love, steering clear of temporary fixes through food. Get ready to reclaim control and foster a genuine connection with yourSELF.

Episode Highlights:

• Understanding the distinction between eating for fuel and emotional eating.
• Insights into the misuse of food as a response to emotional needs.
• Hilary's personal journey and professional experiences related to food and body image.
• Practical advice on how to confront and change emotional eating behaviors.

Episode Breakdown:

• [00:00] - Introduction to emotional eating.
• [03:00] - Personal stories and the impact of family habits on eating behaviors.
• [10:00] - The role of medications like Ozempic in managing weight and why they’re only temporary fixes.
• [20:00] - Strategies for recognizing and altering emotional eating patterns.
• [30:00] - The "five-minute meditation" tool for dealing with cravings.
• [40:00] - Closing thoughts and takeaways on self-awareness and food.

Listener Takeaways:

• Awareness is Key: Recognizing when you are eating to fill emotional voids rather than physical hunger is the first step to change.
• Strategies for Change: Techniques such as the "five-minute meditation" can help pause and reconsider our choices before succumbing to cravings.
• Empowerment Through Education: Understanding the psychological triggers that lead to emotional eating can empower us to make healthier decisions.
• Embrace the Self-Centered Approach: Learn to navigate your emotional landscape without resorting to food, alcohol, or shopping as coping mechanisms. This episode underscores Hilary's signature message: caring for yourSELF is the cornerstone of wellness. By staying true to yourSELF and loving yourSELF, you can make choices that genuinely nourish both your body and soul, leading to lasting happiness and health.

Resources

• The 5 Minute Pre-Meal Ritual

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Episode 5: Your Questions Answered! Narcissism, Romance, Therapy & More

Introduction

Hello, listeners! Welcome back to The Hilary Silver Podcast. Today’s episode is a special one—it’s our very first BONUS Q&A session! We’ve been receiving so many insightful and thought-provoking questions from you all, and it’s time we dive into them. From dealing with complex relationship dynamics to uncovering the hidden roots of anxiety, we’re covering a range of topics to give you the clarity and tools you need. So sit back, tune in, and let’s get started on this journey of discovery together. Remember, this is not just about finding answers—it’s about empowering you to take control of your life and relationships. Let’s join the conversation with Hilary and her Creative Director, Jessica Lynn.

Episode Highlights:

• First ever BONUS Q&A episode with listener-submitted questions
• Deep dives into anxiety, narcissism, and relationship challenges
• Practical advice on recognizing and dealing with gaslighting
• Insights on choosing effective therapists or coaches

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 - Introduction: Kicking off our first Q&A session

00:26 - Anxiety Insights: Exploring deeper issues beyond anxiety

15:42 - Narcissism and Relationships: Strategies for dealing with toxic behavior in relationships

37:15 - Handling Gaslighting: Effective approaches to address and confront gaslighting behavior

52:50 - Therapy and Coaching: Choosing the right help for personal growth and healing

Listener Takeaways:

• Understand how deeper issues might manifest as anxiety and what you can do about it
• Learn to identify and respond to narcissistic traits and gaslighting in relationships
• Gain tips on selecting a therapist or coach who can provide not just support, but practical steps toward improvement
• Empower yourself with the knowledge and confidence to address personal and relational challenges effectively

Resources

• Boundaried
• Ready For Love

Disclaimer: The Hilary Silver Podcast The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed are the speaker’s own and do not represent the views, thoughts, and opinions of anyone else. The material and information presented here is for general information purposes only.

Reference to any specific product or entity does not constitute an endorsement or recommendation by the host. The views expressed by guests are their own and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them or any entity they represent. The content here should not be taken as medical or psychiatric advice. The content here is for informational purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical or psychiatric questions. Contact information: media@hilarysilver.com