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Kitty and Miles share their beautiful journey from being high school sweethearts to eventually getting married and, more recently, opening their marriage after nearly 20 years. They reflect on the many ways they've grown and changed over the years, including Kitty's decades-long process of deconstructing and healing the shame, expectations, and dogma of her Southern Baptist upbringing while discovering what she truly wants for herself.

Opening their relationship wasn’t easy, but through honest communication, patience, and a tremendous amount of work, they've continued to find their way together, growing closer while navigating new relationships, kids, careers, and life. Their story is a powerful example of what can happen when you keep showing up for each other, question the rules, and intentionally build the relationship you actually want.

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We’re thrilled to share this conversation with Kiki! She’s an Australian sexologist who’s spent more than a decade helping people explore sexuality, relationships, and pleasure while also breaking down stigma and shame. Join us as she shares her own journey of untangling shame and confusion around her desires, particularly her complicated relationship with arousal and cheating, and how discovering ethical non-monogamy helped her find a path toward greater honesty and understanding.

Kiki also talks about the evolving relationship with her husband and how they’ve navigated opening and closing their relationship multiple times, renegotiating agreements, and finding a balance between meeting each other’s needs and honoring their individuality. Along the way, we explore the messy realities of honesty, boundaries, jealousy, and the difficult question of when full transparency helps—and when a little softening might be kinder. We hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we do.

Kiki Maree is a queer-inclusive somatic sexologist and intimacy educator with over 14 years of experience, specializing in trauma-informed, somatic and science-backed approaches to desire, boundaries, kink and relationships.

She is the author of four children's sex education books and founded an international training school in 2016, where she has trained aspiring sex coaches from around the world. She also spent a year in China teaching thousands of women about pleasure, desire and consent.

Known for her engaging stage presence, critical thinking and compassionate approach, Kiki creates shame- and judgement-free spaces where people feel safe to explore sexuality, ask honest questions and have meaningful conversations.

Learn more about all of Kiki's work on her website: www.yonilicious.com.au

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We’ve known Dr. Liz for nearly a decade, and we’re so excited to finally have them on the podcast! We have a powerful conversation about their lifelong journey of navigating the tension between who they were expected to be and what felt truly authentic to them. From following the conventional path of marriage to embracing solo polyamory, Liz shares how they’ve learned to honor their own needs and build deep, meaningful relationships outside traditional relationship scripts. Along the way, they share so much wisdom about accepting people as they are, recognizing when a connection isn’t the right fit, and navigating relationships within community with care and compassion. It’s a beautiful conversation about creating a life rich with connection, friendship, and joy while approaching ourselves and others with greater kindness, respect, and grace.

Dr. Liz believes that great sex can change the world. They are the author of Building Open Relationships, a sex educator, podcast host, and licensed psychologist (CA 27871, OR 3068) specializing in queer, kinky, and non-monogamous relationships. Dr. Liz has helped folks of all kinds become more confident in who they are and communicate more effectively with their partners. You can learn more about Dr. Liz and all of their work on their website: drlizpowell.com

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It’s been four years since we first talked with Rainy and Paco way back on Episode 262. They’re back today with an update about how their relationship and approach to non-monogamy has evolved and what it’s meant to more fully embrace who they are. They talk about finding freedom in being fully themselves, building chosen family through deep friendships and shared experiences, and embracing their version of non-monogamy which doesn’t fit neatly under any one label. We also explore how ADHD, Autism, C-PTSD, OCD, and their different approaches to sexuality all shape the way they navigate non-monogamy and how they embrace explicit agreements and rules to approach everything as a team. These two are such a delight and this conversation is a beautiful and heartfelt look at the freedom that comes from knowing yourself, communicating openly, and creating relationships on your own terms.

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In this episode, we talk with Trixie, a non-binary genderqueer sex educator, coach, and activist, about their journey to embracing polyamory and overcoming the shame and societal expectations that once made it difficult to express who they were. We explore their expansive approach to love and relationships, where partners, metamours, and deep friendships all have a place, and why honest communication and finding community have been so transformative along the way. We also talk about their gender liberation work, the importance of building inclusive spaces, and what it means to embrace all the ways we can love, connect, and show up authentically.

Trixie Lamonte (Ariel) is a professional coach with an expertise in poly, sex, relationships, communication, desire, gender, sexuality, confidence, self-love, BDSM, transformation work, and radical expression. Trixie is a professional workshop facilitator, educator, writer, consultant, performer, public speaker, and ritualist. Trixie is also the founder of Gender Blender, a community dedicated to trans and nonbinary liberation and is proud to be poly, kinky, queer, and a gender rebel. Trixie is well known for hosting hot play parties, gogo dancing, MCing, and poly joy! For more information about all of Trixie's work check out www.polyexcellent.com.

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In this episode, we speak with Steve about life after a 25-year marriage and how seven years of dating and exploring relationships have changed the way he thinks about connection. He shares stories of friendships that became romantic and then returned to friendship, relationships that moved between exclusivity and openness, and the lessons he’s learned about being clear and intentional about what he wants. We talk about the possibilities, and challenges, of fluid relationships, including his current long-distance, non-monogamous relationship and his experience of briefly trying monogamy again before realizing how much pressure it placed on the relationship to become “everything.” Steve also reflects on his belief that relationships are kind of a “final frontier” for learning about ourselves, and his desire to explore that possibility without feeling bound by the societal scripts and expectations of the relationship escalator.

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This week we talk with Victoria about her relationship history and the different paths that led her to non-monogamy, from early experiences with infidelity to exploring swinging and an open marriage with her ex-husband. She takes us through the complicated evolution of that relationship, including the challenges of secrecy, boundary-setting, and discovering her needs for affection, desire, and connection that weren’t being met. Since her marriage ended two years ago, Victoria has been on a journey of figuring out what kind of polyamory works best for her, learning new communication tools, and becoming more comfortable exploring relationships without feeling the need to seek permission. We also talk about her current solo poly life, non-hierarchical polyamory, anchor partners, jealousy, and the many things she continues to learn about herself along the way.

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