Being triggered in relationship is inevitable. Staying stuck in it isn’t.

This episode explores how unhealed childhood wounds show up in intimacy — and how shadow work in partnership turns triggers into trust, depth, and pleasure.

CHAPTERS

1. Why Avoiding Shadow Work Creates More Pain in Relationships
(shadow work, relationships, avoidance)

2. Getting Triggered Is Inevitable — Here’s Why Intimacy Brings Up Childhood Wounds
(triggers, childhood trauma, intimacy)

3. When Small Moments Create Big Emotional Reactions
(emotional triggers, disproportionate reactions)

4. The Trauma Narratives That Keep You Stuck in Dating and Partnership
(trauma narratives, dating patterns)

5. “I’m Unlovable” and Other Unconscious Beliefs Running Your Love Life
(unlovable belief, attachment wounds)

6. Why You Keep Attracting the Same Relationship Dynamics
(relationship patterns, attraction)

7. Shadow Work in Partnership: Healing Without Blame or Collapse
(shadow work in relationships, accountability)

8. How to Stop Personalizing Triggers and Start Creating Emotional Safety
(emotional safety, regulation)

9. Somatic Healing: Letting Emotions Move Through the Body
(somatic healing, emotional processing)

10. Why the Purpose of Relationship Is Pleasure — Not Just Healing
(pleasure, conscious relationship)

11. Choosing a Partner You’re Willing to Do Shadow Work With
(conscious partnership, intimacy)

12. Receiving Boundaries Without Spiraling Into Rejection
(boundaries, rejection triggers)

13. How to Heal Without Losing Yourself in Relationship
(sovereignty, codependency)

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Chapters

• People Pleasing as a Survival Response
• What a Boundary Really Is (Not a Rule or Barrier)
• The Five Core People Pleasing Narratives
• How People Pleasing Damages Trust and Desire
• Why Boundaries Create Safety and Connection
• The Risk of Authenticity and Fear of Rejection
• How to Begin Healing People Pleasing Patterns

LINKS

• Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠consciousrelating.org⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Upcoming Events: consciousrelating.org/events

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• Couple's Coaching: consciousrelating.org/coaching

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• If you're new to lesbian dating, you're likely struggling with the question: "Who makes the first move?!"

• It's a queer right of passage that most females go through when transitioning from dating males to dating females

• This episode teaches you a framework to move through the awkward "Who makes the first move?" dilemma so you can date with confidence

Links

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• What does your reaction to Charlie Kirk’s murder say about your love life?

• What blind spots might it reveal about how open your heart and mind is for towards your partner?

• How might your reaction to his assassination reveal what could be holding you back from transitioning from 3D to 5D?

• And what would it take to make the leap?

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Links

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• What if sex wasn't the only way to feel secure in your relationship?

• • I vulnerably share my sexual shadows, how I learned to find safety outside of sex-- and how this brought me deeper connection, pleasure, and freedom.

  
  

  
  

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• Every relationship has its own culture. Is yours intentional?

• What’s actually informing your relationship culture?

• Where are you getting stuck?

• • What framework can you use to create conscious agreements?

  
  

  
  

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• Where does people pleasing come from?

• How can it slowly kill your relationship?

• And what can you do about it?

Links

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Original Song: Courage to Love

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Music Credits

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• What if conflict didn't have to be a fight?

• What can you practice to move through conflict more quickly and gracefully?

• War culture didn't teach you conflict skills, but you can still learn!

Links

Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠consciousrelating.org⁠⁠⁠⁠ to learn more about the ⁠⁠⁠⁠Conscious Couple course⁠⁠⁠⁠:

www.consciousrelating.org/the-conscious-couple

Music Credits

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