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  • E64- After Disclosure: The Partner Impact Statement and the Emotional Restitution Letter w/ Ellen Drews

    E64- After Disclosure: The Partner Impact Statement and the Emotional Restitution Letter w/ Ellen Drews
    Sep 25 2026

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    Steve O’Connor hosts Episode #64 of the Catholics Fight Porn podcast with guest Ellen Drews to discuss the “After Disclosure” phases of the Full Disclosure process: the Partner Impact Statement and the Emotional Restitution Letter. This marks Ellen's 4th appearance on the show. Check out her other episodes [15, 23, 26].

    Framed by recording on the the Memorial of Our Lady of Sorrows, they connect disclosure work to grief, empathy, humility, and restoration.

    Ellen explains why guided disclosure helps break denial, create shared reality, and stabilize safety.

    She outlines what impact letters cover (physical, psychological, financial, spiritual, sexual, social/professional, and family effects), what makes restitution letters effective, suggested timing, and how structured, supported sessions help couples grieve losses and rebuild trust.

    Ellen who holds a Master’s in Theology and Pastoral Ministry and is a Certified Partner Coach (APSATS), certified Brainspotting practitioner, ICF-Certified Life Coach, Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (ITAP), Full Disclosure Guide through Kintsugi Recovery Partners, and an Inner Child Model Recovery Specialist trained through Dr. Eddie Capparucci.

    Welcome
    01:09 Our Lady of Sorrows
    03:11 Meet Ellen Drews
    05:46 Who Ellen Helps
    08:09 Three Phases of Healing
    11:23 Why Guided Disclosure
    13:42 When to Start Impact
    20:06 Impact Statement Basics
    21:31 Impact Categories Breakdown
    27:19 From Pain to a Roadmap
    29:54 What Changes After Writing
    30:41 Making Space for Pain
    31:33 Compassionate Witnessing
    31:49 Safe Containment for Truth
    34:27 Empathy as a Muscle
    35:07 Restitution Letter Guidelines
    37:22 Partner Phase Two Healing
    41:10 Processing and Sharing Letters
    44:45 Humility and Deeper Recovery
    46:04 Overcoming Letter Resistance
    51:41 United Against Addiction
    54:25 Closing

    📌 RESOURCES & LINKS:

    • Visit Ellen's website: www.ellendrews.com and book a Complimentary Consult Call with her to discuss your situation and next steps
    • Join Finally Free - CFP's group coaching program for Catholic men: catholicsfightporn.com/groups
    • Book an intro call with Steve: catholicsfightporn.com/introdiscoverycall
    • Daily CFP Boost texts — text SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or visit catholicsfightporn.com/dailytext
    • The Freedom Letter - a daily email newsletter - sign up at catholicsfightporn.com
    • Full Disclosure support - Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process. Email Steve for more info: steve@catholicsfightporn.com
    • Covenant Eyes accountability software - Get 30 days free at covenanteyes.com | Promo code: CFP
    • Wisephone - a safe, locked-down smartphone that's not a flip phone - techless.com/CFP | Promo code: CFP saves $25
    • Instagram: @catholicrecovery

    If this episode helped you, please leave a five-star review on Apple Podcasts. It costs you nothing and helps other men find this content when they need it most.
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    58 mins
  • E63 – The Undivided Heart: Catholic Parts Work w/ Jared Schiemer

    E63 – The Undivided Heart: Catholic Parts Work w/ Jared Schiemer
    Aug 19 2026
    Send us Fan MailEpisode #63: The Undivided Heart: Catholic Parts Work with Jared SchiemerSteve O’Connor opens the episode by introducing the saint of the day on recording, St. Clare of Montefalco, and connecting her inward, Christ-centered self-examination to “parts work” as a path to healing. He interviews Jared Schiemer, a certified life coach trained in IFS-informed parts work, who explains how he discovered the modality through somatic-based sessions, therapy, and training with IFS founder Dr. Richard Schwartz, describing it as faster and more experiential than traditional talk therapy. Jared outlines core IFS concepts (Self and parts such as managers, firefighters, and exiles), emphasizes “No Bad Parts,” and discusses regulation, validation, and meeting needs to reduce shame, compulsions, anger, and relapse risk. They address Catholic compatibility through Scripture and Dr. Gerry Crete’s Litanies of the Heart Book and the Souls and Hearts Community, then announce a 16-week Catholic men’s group, The Undivided Heart.00:00 Welcome 01:06 Saint Clare Spotlight02:24 Parts Work Invitation03:34 Meet Jared Schiemer05:30 How Jared Found IFS10:24 What Parts Work Is17:51 Self Leadership and Needs21:32 Firefighters and Regulation25:18 Is IFS Catholic28:19 The Self and Shame34:14 Sobriety, Anger + Empathy39:12 Undivided Heart Program43:38 Info Night and ClosingFREE INFO SESSION - Monday, August 24 at 8PM ETCurious about the Undivided Heart Program? Join Steve and Jared for a FREE, live info session on Monday, August 24 at 8PM Eastern. This is your chance to ask questions, get a feel for the work, and find out if this program is the right next step for you. Spots are limited for the group. Email Steve directly to get the Zoom link: steve@catholicsfightporn.comAbout Jared Schiemer: Jared Schiemer is a certified Life Coach, trained through the Robbins-Madanes Training Center, with additional training in NLP, Human Needs Psychology, and IFS-informed Parts Work. He is a certified FOCCUS pre-marriage and marriage Facilitator and continues his study of Internal Family Systems through the Souls and Hearts Catholic community and IFS Institute.He is a graduate of Franciscan University of Steubenville where he obtained a degree in Business Management and a minor in Psychology. At Franciscan, he deepened his Catholic faith, formed lifelong friendships, and strengthened his relationship with his now-wife, Claire, who is also a graduate of Franciscan University and now works as a mental health therapist and coach. He and Claire have been together for over 14 years, since high school, and have been married for the past seven years.Jared has also walked his own path through Parts Work, in both therapy and coaching, and experienced what it's like to watch emotions and triggers he'd carried for years dissolve rather than just get managed. That's why he does this work, he's not only trained in the method, he's lived what it can do.Jared brings a steady presence to men doing this work, meeting every part of themselves with curiosity and compassion. His coaching specialty is connection: helping clients reconnect to themselves, to the people they love, and to their God-given purpose.About the Undivided Heart Program: The Undivided Heart is a 16-week Catholic Parts Work group for men, co-facilitated by Steve O'Connor and Jared Schiemer. It is built for the Catholic man who has tried everything and is ready to go deeper. Rooted in IFS-informed Parts Work and Litanies of the Heart by Dr. Gerry Crete and fully integrated with the Catholic faith, the Undivided Heart helps men identify the wounded parts driving their behavior, build a relationship with those parts and lead with the innermost Self, and experience a kind of freedom that is not white-knuckled but real and tangible.Starting September 2026. Spots are limited for the group.To learn more or reserve your spot, email Steve: steve@catholicsfightporn.com📌 Resources & Links:Free Info Session - Undivided Heart Program: Monday August 24 at 8PM ET. Email steve@catholicsfightporn.com for the Zoom linkJoin Finally Free - CFP's group coaching program for Catholic men: catholicsfightporn.com/groupsBook an intro call with Steve: catholicsfightporn.com/introdiscoverycallDaily CFP Boost texts — text SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or visit catholicsfightporn.com/dailytextThe Freedom Letter - a daily email newsletter - sign up at catholicsfightporn.comFull Disclosure support - Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process. Email Steve for more info: steve@catholicsfightporn.comCovenant Eyes accountability software - Get 30 days free at covenanteyes.com | Promo code: CFPWisephone - a safe, locked-down smartphone that's not a flip phone - techless.com/CFP | Promo code: CFP saves $25Instagram: @catholicrecoveryIf this episode helped you, please leave a five-star review on Apple Podcasts. It costs you nothing and helps other men find this ...
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    47 mins
  • E62- Steve Gets Interviewed by Tom Weaver w/Come to the Table Ministry: a 12-Step Empathy Angle, Connection, and Emotional Sobriety in Recovery

    E62- Steve Gets Interviewed by Tom Weaver w/Come to the Table Ministry: a 12-Step Empathy Angle, Connection, and Emotional Sobriety in Recovery
    Jul 30 2026

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    Steve O’Connor is Interviewed by Tom Weaver of Come to the Table Ministry.

    They discuss emotional sobriety, connection, and an empathy angle related to the 12 Steps.

    01:03 Welcome and Retreat Info
    03:11 Steve's Story Recovery and Coaching Story
    12:47 Why Empathy Matters
    14:09 Sobriety Versus Recovery
    19:03 Defensiveness and Patience
    22:10 Scripts and Being Prepared
    24:19 Connection and AVR Practice
    26:40 Daily Check In Calls
    27:18 Connection Beats Defensiveness
    28:04 12 Steps + Empathy Angle
    35:00 Emotional Sobriety Defined
    37:52 Call Up Stick With Winners
    42:31 Keep Recovery Simple
    44:42 Make The Call
    47:38 Build Your Recovery Team

    HELPFUL LINKS:

    Tom + Michele Weaver at Come to the Table Ministries:

    -Website here.

    -Retreats + Conferences here.

    -Their Podcast here.

    -Email: info@tableministry.com

    CATHOLICS FIGHT PORN:

    -Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.

    -Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337

    -For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at: https://www.covenanteyes.com
    PROMO CODE: CFP

    -Get a sweet, safe, locked-down phone [that's not a flip phone] - Get a Wisephone! Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 -- https://www.techless.com/CFP

    -Join the Finally Free Coaching Group: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help

    -Book an Intro Discovery Call with Steve: https://www.catholicsfightporn.com/contact

    -Email: steve@catholicsfightporn.com

    -Sign up for the email newsletter at the bottom left of catholicsfightporn.com

    -Connect with me on Instagram @catholicrecovery

    -Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process for those looking for full truth in their relationship. Email Steve for more info.
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    50 mins
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