You would do anything for anyone. You are the loyal friend, the one who goes all in. And somehow people keep walking away, and you cannot see why.

Nick Davis sits down with Justin Williams, who grew up on a mission compound in the Philippines and spent decades in relationships that moved fast and ended hard. Justin calls himself an emotional porcupine: loyal, big-hearted, and quick to hurt anyone who touches the wrong spot. He talks about the belief that drove him, "If it's from God, I need to move quickly or the devil will steal it," what he and Nick worked through together, and what he can see now that he could not see then. Nick also walks through the published symptoms of borderline personality disorder, which Justin recognized in himself. That is Justin's own recognition, not a diagnosis. Nick does not diagnose anyone.

In this episode:

- What an "emotional porcupine" is, and why people may keep their distance from one
- How the belief "I need to move quickly" shaped Justin's relationships
- How someone who loves to help can end up managing another person's emotions
- How a deep fear of rejection and abandonment can drive an "I love you, I hate you" cycle
- What Nick means by "positive trauma," a term he came up with
- Why it can be so hard to see your own part in a pattern
- How to bring this up with someone you love, and what not to say
- Why Justin asks you to listen when a trusted friend says the hard thing

Justin's story is his own experience, not a promise of results, and nothing here is medical advice. Nick does not diagnose or treat any condition. Please do not stop or change any medication without talking to your doctor. If you are thinking about harming yourself, in the US you can call or text 988 at any time.

If this reminds you of someone you love, listen to the end first. How you bring it up matters. To reach Nick or Justin, start at anxietywise.com.

Anxiety Wise helps people overcome trauma and build healthier, more peaceful lives, with particular care for veterans, first responders, and the families who carry it with them.

https://anxietywise.com

If you can Feel it we can Heal it!

You can know you are forgiven and still walk into church carrying all of it. You can know the bill will get paid and still feel your stomach knot in the grocery store. Knowing something and feeling it are not the same thing.

Nick Davis sits down with Karen Meese: a military spouse of 19 years, a mother of three, and now someone who works alongside Nick helping others through the same process she went through. Karen describes years as "the watcher," always scanning for threats and feeling everyone else's pain as her own, and what changed when two memories she could not stop replaying finally went quiet. Then they turn to faith: how a Christian can approach this work with discernment, and why Karen leads people to the cross.

In this episode:

- What constant hypervigilance can look like for a military spouse
- Why Nick treats trauma and emotion as two different things
- How a painful memory can shift from reliving it to simply observing it, in Karen's experience
- Why fear about money can stay intense even when the bills are covered
- Why you cannot always reason your way out of an emotional loop
- Why people are often afraid to let go of an emotion, and whether anyone wants it back
- How Karen approaches this work as a Christian, and what "no take backs" means at the cross
- What "be slow to anger" has to do with your testimony

Karen's story is her own experience, not a promise of results, and nothing here is medical advice. This conversation speaks to Christians in particular; Nick works with people of every belief and shapes the process around what is comfortable for them.

If this episode reaches someone who needs it, send it to them.

Anxiety Wise helps people overcome trauma and build healthier, more peaceful lives, with particular care for veterans, first responders, and the families who carry it with them.

https://anxietywise.com

If you can Feel it we can Heal it!

When your child is struggling, everything else waits. The appointments, the research, the six hours a day in the car. Your own weight goes in the backpack and you carry it, because that is what parents do.

Nick Davis sits down with Christine, a mother who spent years fighting to get her son help after a PANS diagnosis and severe OCD left him barely able to leave the house. What she did not expect was being told that the family had to heal too, or discovering how much she had been carrying without ever calling it anxiety.

In this episode:

- Why a child's healing can stall if the household stays in survival mode
- What OCD actually looks like day to day, from a parent who lived beside it
- How people can carry years of stress without ever recognizing it as anxiety
- Why difficult experiences can stay active in the body long after the event
- How the language parents use, "you need to" versus offering a real choice, changes what a child hears
- Why a diagnosis can quietly become an identity, and what Nick suggests instead
- What Christine would say to someone who is afraid that opening things up will make them worse

Christine's story is not a formula and nothing here is medical advice. It is one parent describing what changed for her family, in her own words, including the parts she did not see coming.

If this episode reaches someone who needs it, send it to them.

Anxiety Wise helps people overcome trauma and build healthier, more peaceful lives, with particular care for veterans, first responders, and the families who carry it with them.

https://anxietywise.com

If you can Feel it we can Heal it!

Family conversations can go from calm to heated in seconds. But small changes in your tone, body language, and word choices can completely change the outcome.

In this episode of Anxiety Wise, Sarah and Nick share practical communication tools they’ve learned through marriage, parenting, personal growth - and plenty of mistakes.

Discover how to lower the emotional temperature during disagreements, help people feel heard, communicate more effectively with teenagers, and build a family culture rooted in respect and understanding.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why children model their parents’ communication
• How tone and body language affect every conversation
• Why saying “you need to” often creates resistance
• How reflecting someone’s feelings can calm a conflict
• How to use “how” and “what” questions effectively
• Ways to respond to sarcasm and passive-aggressive comments
• How consistency helps children feel safe and secure
• Why self-awareness is essential for healthy communication

No family communicates perfectly. These simple tools can help you create more peace, connection, and emotional resilience in your home.

Which communication tool will you try first? Share it in the comments.

Anxiety Wise exists to help people overcome trauma and build healthier, more peaceful lives.

#FamilyCommunication #ConflictResolution #AnxietyWise

If you can Feel it we can Heal it!

Can unresolved trauma and deeply rooted emotions contribute to ADHD symptoms?

In this episode of the Anxiety Wise Podcast, Nick and Sarah sit down with Ernesto Pinder (Mr. Network) for an honest conversation about his journey through anxiety, ADHD symptoms, therapy, EMDR, self-sabotage, emotional healing, and finding lasting freedom.

After years of struggling with focus, stress, and mental health challenges, Ernesto shares how discovering and addressing deeply rooted emotions transformed his life. He discusses his experience with Anxiety Wise, improvements in sleep and mental clarity, and why his relationship with ADHD symptoms changed dramatically after working through unresolved emotional issues.

This conversation explores:

✅ ADHD symptoms and emotional health
✅ Anxiety and trauma recovery
✅ Self-sabotage and limiting beliefs
✅ EMDR and other mental health approaches
✅ How the subconscious mind influences daily life
✅ Emotional healing and neuroplasticity
✅ Peak performance, focus, and clarity
✅ Faith, purpose, and hope

Whether you've been diagnosed with ADHD, struggle with anxiety, or simply want to understand how unresolved emotional wounds can affect your life, this episode offers a thoughtful perspective and an encouraging conversation.

Learn more about Anxiety Wise: https://anxietywise.com

If you'd like to schedule a discovery call with Nick, visit the website above or contact the Anxiety Wise team directly.

If you can Feel it we can Heal it!

In this heartfelt episode, Nick Davis sits down with Michelle and Andy Colbert to discuss their family's journey through grief, anxiety, and healing. They share honest insights into how emotional trauma can be addressed rapidly and effectively, offering hope and practical advice for others facing similar challenges.

Key Topics Covered:

• How Nick’s unconventional approach helps disarm deep-rooted trauma without reliving every detail
• The power of unconscious processing in healing emotional wounds
• Michelle’s personal story of grief after her husband's loss and her progress with anxiety
• Andy’s experience with longstanding anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts, and how intentional work shifted his perspective
• The significance of emotional roots, with specific examples like feeling left out or worry around money
• The process of disconnecting trauma from memories and how emotional shifts happen instantly
• How grief can be managed in a healthy way, allowing family to honor loved ones without being overwhelmed
• Practical tools like gratitude journaling to foster positivity during difficult times
• The legacy of Rob Colbert: a life of impact, connection, and living without regrets
• Navigating medication with the understanding that rapid trauma work can influence the need for pharmaceuticals
• Encouragement for listeners to reach out and begin their healing journey

If you can Feel it we can Heal it!

Discover how faith, forgiveness, and emotional healing can transform lives. Bob Romeo shares his profound journey through grief, trauma, and spiritual renewal, emphasizing the power of forgiveness, humility, and divine intervention.

In this episode:

• Bob's powerful story of losing his son and finding peace through faith and the work he’s done with Anxiety Wise (AnxietyWise.com)
• The impact of disconnection from trauma and how to reconnect and heal
• How dreams and divine signs can offer comfort and clarity
• Practical steps to address guilt, shame, anger, and trauma.
• The importance of humility and love in healing relationships and discovering purpose
• Personal stories of reconciliation, divine encounters, and acts of kindness
• Insights on the role of sleep, brain health, and trauma recovery
• How to incorporate God’s teachings into everyday life for true healing

Resources & Links:

• Quest Haven Lodge
• The Bible – James 4:1-10

Note: This episode emphasizes holistic healing - combining faith, mental health strategies, and personal stories for transformation.

If you can Feel it we can Heal it!

Join Kirk and Steph Mattson as they open up about their personal and professional journey from chaos to clarity through faith, emotional mastery, and strategic business changes. Discover how understanding emotions, leveraging assessments like Kolbe and the Why Institute, and aligning with faith can transform life and business.

Main Topics Covered:

• The impact of emotional awareness and therapy in personal growth
• How faith and spirituality influence business and family life
• Rebranding and refining business strategy for better client fit
• The significance of understanding personality and motivation assessments
• Practical advice for business owners balancing marriage, family, and growth
• Lessons learned from overcoming childhood trauma and emotional triggers
• The power of intentional living and trusting God's plan

Resources & Links:

• Scribe GC - Kirk and Steph’s remodeling business
• Kolbe Index - Helping individuals perform at their best
• The Why Institute - Most assessments tell you how you operate. This one tells you why.
• Bible - The Book of Luke
• Revelation Study

Connect with Kirk and Steph:

• Business Website

This episode offers profound insights into how faith, emotional mastery, and strategic clarity can profoundly transform both personal and professional life. Whether you're a business owner, a spouse navigating growth together, or someone seeking spiritual connection, there's actionable wisdom here for everyone.

If you can Feel it we can Heal it!