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When your life looks perfect, but you're silently falling apart....

If you were raised to believe that painful emotions are a sign of weakness, or if being vulnerable has always made you feel unsafe, then you may have survived by creating a perfect-looking life - a life where you appear to be successful, engaged, and always there for others. The problem? You're filled with self-criticism and shame, and you can't allow yourself to express fear, anger, loss, or grief. You recognize something is wrong, but you're not sure what exactly - only that you feel trapped and alone. If this sounds like you, you may have perfectly hidden depression (PHD).

With this compassionate guide, you'll begin the process of understanding your perfectionism, identifying destructive beliefs, and connecting with emotions suppressed for far too long. You'll also find tangible tips for quieting that critical inner voice, and powerful strategies for coping with difficult feelings. Most importantly, you'll learn that asking for help isn't a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. If you're ready to stop hiding and start healing, this groundbreaking book will guide you - every imperfect step of the way.

©2019 Margaret Robinson Rutherford, PhD and Jennifer Marshall (P)2020 New Harbinger Publications

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  • Kimberly Davis
  • 27-10-20

Amazing

What fulfillment and healing this has brought me! I’ve been listening to your podcasts for years breaking the cycle of abuse and seeing my worth thank you from the depth of my soul Dr. Rutherford!

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  • Brenda M.
  • 30-09-20

Life Changing

This book is life changing. It asks and answers so many questions that I didn’t know I even had. It makes me think deep, re-evaluate and give myself grace along with looking at narratives of my life with a fresh look.
I highly recommend this book.

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  • Bill Weaver
  • 01-06-20

Comprehensive & Well Written

Are you hard on yourself, with a driven, and determined personality, but you simultaneously struggle by being sad, anxious, and worried? This informative guide could help to lead you towards a much happier life. Find out if you have a hidden perfectionist trait that is causing you unhappiness. Learn solutions to a more satisfactory, happier and fulfilling life. I gained self-insights, and highly recommend this book.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 24-01-21

informative

This book provided me with a lot of information that helped, and answered many question that I had regarding depression.

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  • Alen
  • 19-01-21

This Book Changed My Life!

This book gave me an entirely different perspective on how I define and view perfectly hidden depression. It helped me to see how I was closing myself off from people to an extent and keeping them at a distance. The simple exercises in this book helped me to slowly but surely open myself up more to others. It also helped me to be more aware and compassionate with others when I notice Perfectly Hidden Depression in them. Thank you so much to Dr. Rutherford for writing this book. :)

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  • czarina
  • 16-10-20

This book can save lives

I like how this book was so clear and easy to understand. There are some very helpful activities in here that will help build insight whether you are a clinician or an individual who thinks you’re struggling with perfectly hidden depression. This book differentiates perfectly hidden depression from all other disorders. It’s a great book for anyone to read.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-06-20

Heartwarming

Both the writer and the narrator are excellent. It has been warming my soul listening to these two ladies, who, despite the serious work this journey requires, are able to plant bravery to the listener in a very gentle manner. I am glad I found this audiobook, thanks to one of my mistakes, showing me in itself, what perfection lies in imperfection ;).