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Codependency - "Loves Me, Loves Me Not"

Learn How to Cultivate Healthy Relationships, Overcome Relationship Jealousy, Stop Controlling Othersand Be Codependent No More
Narrated by: John Malone
Length: 1 hr and 28 mins
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If you've had difficulty with starting or maintaining relationships or issues with feeling jealous and possessive, or find that your connections with others are more sources of distress than anything else, this book is for you.

By teaching you ways to be more mindful throughout the day as well as exercises in improving your communication skills, this book will show you how to have relationships that are calmer and more stable and compassionate.

We'll begin with a look at the phenomenon of codependency, what it has traditionally meant in the psychological realm, and how these traits and patterns can be traced back to issues of self-worth, compassion, and more deliberate action. We'll examine how mindfulness can be the magic ingredient to getting a hold of the codependency cycle and some of the characteristics of happy, mindful relationships. Finally, we'll explore a model for mindful communication and ways that you can begin to implement immediately in order to make a commitment to stronger, more compassionate relationships with others.

©2014 Simeon Lindstrom (P)2016 Simeon Lindstrom

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Potentially life-changing view of relationships

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

I would definitely recommend this book to friend and have already recommended it to a few people. It present a clear, concise model for healthy, mature, adult relationships which is refreshing, even revolutionary. It opens up a world where the romantic ideal of being completely intertwined with one 'soul mate' is turned on its head and what emerges instead is the possibility for continuous growth both independently and interdependently; the book reminds us of our capacity to change and learn new ways of communicating and of seeing ourselves and those around us. It reminds us of the beauty of every human relationship and reminds us of our tendency to take people for granted. Although it focuses on more on intimate relationships, I have found it applies equally to friendships.

What was one of the most memorable moments of Codependency - "Loves Me, Loves Me Not"?

The list of typical codependent behaviours early on the book was a welcome wake up call to the fact that my future relationships do not need to be the way my past relationships have been.

Have you listened to any of John Malone’s other performances? How does this one compare?

I have also listened to 'Stop worrying and start living' which I found very helpful and 'Mindful eating'. The narration is good on all of them.

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

Yes, and I have listened to it more than once. It contains so much helpful information that I am planning to listen and make notes.

Any additional comments?

Thank you Simeon!

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  • P Townsend
  • 13-12-17

Good read

If you could sum up Codependency - "Loves Me, Loves Me Not" in three words, what would they be?

Concise, relevant, effective.

What about John Malone’s performance did you like?

Pleasant and comforting tone. Well spoken and effective tempo.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

Parts made me realize many troubling confusing issues I face in relationships have an explanation and it has to do with the person I’m looking at in the mirror.

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Nicely done! Not to long to lose my interest but long enough to get the main points across. Thank you!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 28-03-18

Wow!! never realized how co dependent i really was

this really woke me up!!! now it's up to me to change the way I think.

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  • Klutzz
  • 30-09-18

way more information in other books

I've read a few books on this topic and this is a very short summary. it's a good quick introduction, but I would encourage people to find other sources for more in depth.

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  • Kara
  • 30-09-19

It has great points BUT..

While this book has a lot of great one liners and statements, it says and gives no insight on how to move or take steps beyond identifying codependency. Just states what it is, you are left there with no clue of the next step.
I wouldn’t have purchased if I’d known it was a collection of wit and no implementation opportunity.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 29-06-18

loved it!

Great insights and a helpful model of what a functional healthy relationship looks like. Loved the insights on relational styles child, adult and parent and such realistic examples of each! Helpful meditation on how to cultivate love for those around us, regardless of their behavior. Been struggling with the whole bless your enemies...thx!!

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  • Andrea Leon
  • 05-02-20

Give it a try. Nothing to loose

I found the book a good audio to help reflect on our actions in relationship and how it affects us. I enjoyed that it was an easy book to understand.

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  • Antoinette Altman
  • 30-08-19

Wow! This book packs a lot into a short amount of time

This book is great! Solid concepts without all of the BS and fluff. Concise and to the point. It was great!!

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  • Chanda_V
  • 09-07-19

No beating around the bush

I love the way Simeon gets you to the point very quickly. It’s perfect summary of codependency accompanied by guidelines on how to work through it to create mindful relationships with yourself and others. One word of warning you have to be in a place to take responsibility for your life. If you are ready to take action this is definitely a great place to start.

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  • Dick
  • 10-06-19

think better

life can be so much more if you understand what you're doing but if you don't think about it actually comprehend it take it in to have sex for the first time things can get better which start listening to yourself Civic norms it's right but you can do better say some things go just like sauce to be continued

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  • Nunya Beeswax
  • 31-07-18

Shockingly helpful

I can't believe how much I learned from this one hour book. I will be relistening regularly. I can see how my actions have been the source of my own pain at times. really good advice that I plan to implement today. I wish I had found this 20 years ago.