Sometimes the biggest breakthroughs are the ones you never saw coming.

In this episode of Sip & Stim, Toni and Kate are joined by Kayla for a conversation about the moments when children surprise us, exceed expectations, and remind us why their future should never be defined by where they are today.

They talk about recognizing progress that may not show up on a treatment plan, why natural learning can be so meaningful, and how a child’s interests, motivation, relationships, and environment can reveal abilities that might not appear in more structured settings.

They also get into a question many parents know well: why will my child do something for a therapist, teacher, or caregiver, but not for me? Toni explains why that difference does not mean you are failing and why every relationship with a child comes with its own history.

And when it comes to the future, no one can know exactly what a child will eventually be capable of. Sometimes the most important thing we can do is leave room for growth, self-advocacy, interests, and possibilities.

Because what looks small to someone else may be huge to your family. And that deserves to be celebrated.

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CHAPTERS
00:00 Welcome to Sip & Stim
00:36 Meet Kayla
02:43 Leave Room for Your Child to Surprise You
03:18 When Your Child Does Something You Never Expected
11:04 The Different Ways Kids Surprise Us
16:28 Motivation, Interests and Showing Their Potential
17:39 Don’t Miss the Progress That Wasn’t on the Plan
18:09 Why Natural Learning Moments Matter
25:07 Every Season of Development Can Look Different
27:10 We Can’t Predict Where a Child Will Be Next Year
27:53 Making Room for Your Child’s Own Goals
28:52 Don’t Let Today Define Their Tomorrow
36:03 Why Will They Do It for Someone Else, but Not Me?
36:25 If They Do It for Someone Else, You’re Not Failing
39:00 What Professionals Need to Understand About Parents
39:35 A Clinician Should Never Make You Feel Like a Bad Parent
42:18 What Good Support Should Ultimately Lead To
45:17 Finding the Right Fit for Your Family
48:23 Advocating for the Right Person
49:17 What Looks Small to Others Can Be Huge to You

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CREDITS

Hosts:
Toni Toole: LinkedIn
Kate Martin: LinkedIn

Guest:
Kayla

Producer:
Mike Axe: LinkedIn

Editor:
Derek Kedell: LinkedIn

Theme Song From:
Derek Martin: LinkedIn