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We Were Toxic — Now We're Trying 1:2

We Were Toxic — Now We're Trying 1:2

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Most leaders underestimate what it takes to identify—let alone fix—a toxic culture. Lars and Paulina reveal how fast a once high-performing team can spiral, and exactly what mistakes turn small issues into full-blown crises.

You'll learn concrete indicators of toxicity: what passive-aggressive emails, credit hoarding, and silence actually reveal about a team's health. They break down powerful frameworks like radical candor and how the fear of admitting mistakes accelerates decline. Plus, get their no-nonsense playbook: the deliberately destructive behaviors that foster toxicity—and how to avoid them.

This conversation is a must-listen for founders, HR leaders, and managers serious about building resilient, high-performing cultures—before it's too late. Whether you're navigating growth or trying to course-correct, you'll gain insights on spotting trouble early, addressing it head-on, and ultimately transforming toxicity into trust.

  • The early signs of a toxic team and shifting energy
  • The impact of rapid growth on company culture
  • Behavioral indicators of toxicity from outside and inside a team
  • How unchecked praise, sarcasm, and silence erode trust
  • The role of leadership mistakes in fostering toxicity
  • Recognizing and addressing your own contribution to dysfunction
  • The critical importance of authentic feedback and psychological safety
  • Practical steps to intentionally create or inadvertently foster toxicity

Culture Code Foundation https://www.culturecodefoundation.com/

Paulina on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/ccf-paulina-von-mirbach-benz/

Paulina on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sceptical_paulina/

Lars on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/larsnielsenorg/

Lars on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/larsnielsen_cph/


00:00 - Introduction to the episode and its focus on toxic cultures

03:13 - The influence of external scrutiny and media attention

04:22 - The ripple effect of watching a team decline into toxicity

05:02 - Building a high-performing, human-centered culture amid challenges

06:38 - Common misconceptions about organizational culture

10:32 - Leaders’ tendency to ignore or delay addressing problems

13:06 - A personal story of toxicity from inside a fast-growing tech team

14:59 - The shift in team energy as size and outside influence increase

16:49 - What a toxic team looks like from the inside, despite outward performance

17:46 - Behavioral signs: interrupted conversations, fear of ownership, escalation of small issues

19:24 - Toxic behaviors: Sarcasm as a management tool & credit hoarding

21:45 - How loud voices dominate and silence quieter but valuable team members

29:00 - The importance of open dialogue and recognition of early warning signs

29:41 - The painful realization of a team’s breaking point and an employee’s resignation

33:54 - Personal reflections on leadership failure and learning

36:24 - Self-awareness: How leaders can unintentionally foster toxicity

38:33 - The danger of rewarding poor behavior and the importance of living core values

41:36 - A satirical “playbook” for intentionally creating toxicity (and why not to follow it)

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