Ready to do the relational work — not just the individual work? Mike and Courtney's 2:2 couples container holds both of you, tracks the patterns in real time, and wires you toward connection.💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWhat if the most well-intentioned support you're getting is quietly wiring you further from your partner?In this disruptive, deeply honest episode, Mike and Courtney challenge one of the most common beliefs in the personal growth world: that doing more individual work will fix what's broken in your relationship.It won't. And they've both lived it.Courtney spent the first several years of her career as a therapist watching the same thing happen over and over: the more she affirmed each person's individual pain, the more separation grew. Mike worked with his first couple using 15 years of coaching skill — and things got more volatile. Both of them kept hitting the same wall: individual support, without relational training and advocacy for the relationship itself, doesn't heal the we. It erodes it.Research backs this up. Studies show that therapists without relational training will pathologize the absent partner, affirm boundaries that create distance, and push individuals toward personal empowerment in ways that quietly chip away at the bond.In this episode:Why individual work and relational work are completely different skill setsThe three pieces of bad advice most commonly given by therapists not in relationship: more boundaries, take more space, they're not readyWhy "take a month apart" in rupture is often the worst possible advice — and what the nervous system actually needs"Neurons that fire together, wire together" — and why hearts and nervous systems are no differentThe three phases of relational consciousness: Me, You-Me, and WeWhy interdependence is not codependenceA real script for teaching even single friends to hold the sacred weThe honest report card for every support person in your life: is it leading to more connection?"You have to go through it to grow through it." This episode will challenge you, orient you, and give you a new lens for every support relationship in your life.Ready to do the actual relational work? Mike and Courtney offer 2:2 couples containers, Courtney's Mapping Your Imprints 1:1 private container, and her upcoming Masterclass. Links in show notes.We love you. Turn towards each other. 💛Curious about Mapping your Imprinting with Courtney?If something's pulling you toward this work, let's talk. Book a free, no-pressure call to explore whether it's the right fit for you and your partner - Book Your Call →Tune-in Call with Courtney👉Sign up Courtney’s Masterclass: https://www.courtneywren.com/mapping-your-relational-imprint-sales-page👉Sign up for our couples list HERE: https://www.sacredrelating.com/thesacredwe👉 Learn more here: https://www.sacredrelating.com/⭐💛 Work with Mike & Courtney 2:2 → https://www.sacredrelating.com/sacred-relating-couplesWork with Mike → https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coachingWork with Courtney → https://www.courtneywren.com/rebirth📺Subscribe to our YouTube Channel → https://www.youtube.com/@thetogetherpodcast🏹Join the Initiated Man Waitlist→ https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/initiated-man-waitlist💎 Join the Waitlist for The Holy Mama Membership →https://www.courtneywren.com/holymamawaitlistDonation link 👇🙏🏼❤️🌏https://www.paypal.com/donate/?hosted_button_id=VWHABJWZ749X4Email:transform@itsmikeelliott.comrelating@courtneywren.comWebsite:www.itsmikeelliott.comwww.sacredrelating.comwww.courtneywren.comInstagram:@MikeElliott.Relating@courtneywren.sacredrelating**MINDFULMEDS MUSHROOM PRODUCTS: **https://mindfulmeds.io/Promo Code: TOGETHERTHE SKIN DEEP CARDS: https://shop.theskindeep.com/collections/allPromo Code: Together15
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