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Stella's Lived Experiences ❤️‍🩹

Stella's Lived Experiences ❤️‍🩹

By: Stella Bordoloi
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 Currently sharing the chapters of my Memoir (Phoenix of the Northeast) exclusively for you guys in audio form-

✨ A Little Bit of Everything ✨
Life’s a wild mix of lessons, late-night thoughts, quiet breakthroughs, and small joys. Here, I share raw reflections, bite-sized wisdom, inspiration, mindset shifts, and little journal entries from the heart—each one crafted to soothe, spark, or stir something in you.
From navigating everyday chaos to dodging negativity, from solving inner puzzles to chasing self-betterment, this space is a gentle nudge to pause, feel, and grow.
Perfect for winding down, realigning, or just feeling seen. One thought at a time.Copyright Stella Bordoloi Social Sciences
Episodes
  • Episode 20, Breaking the cycle

    Episode 20, Breaking the cycle
    Jan 8 2026
    In this episode, I explore generational abuse through a trauma-informed lens, not as isolated incidents, but as a family system shaped by unresolved patterns of control, anxiety, and emotional insecurity.

    I reflect on growing up in an environment where emotional safety was limited, where rest and disagreement were not easily available, and where my role as a child gradually became managing the emotional states of my parents rather than being supported in developing my own identity.

    This episode discusses why some children are treated differently within controlling or dysregulated family systems. It looks at how awareness, emotional sensitivity, and the ability to question patterns can unintentionally disrupt these systems, often leading to increased pressure, blame, or scapegoating.

    I also speak about the process of leaving a harmful system. Going no-contact was not a sudden or impulsive decision, but the result of prolonged internal conflict and reflection. I share an important realization: parents cannot give what they themselves did not receive, and understanding this does not require self-sacrifice.

    Breaking generational cycles does not mean labeling parents as evil. It means acknowledging harm, refusing to normalize it, and choosing not to repeat it.
    This is a quiet, reflective episode about grief, clarity, and self-preservation. It speaks to the reality that healing can be lonely and misunderstood, but it can also be honest and stabilizing.

    If you have ever been judged for protecting your boundaries or choosing distance for your wellbeing, this episode may resonate with you.
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    15 mins
  • Episode 19- Breaking the Lineage

    Episode 19- Breaking the Lineage
    Jan 2 2026
    🎙️ Stella’s Lived Experiences | Episode: 19 Breaking the Lineage

    In this episode, I share my lived experience of growing up in a control-based family system, migrating abroad, navigating emotional and financial pressure, and ultimately choosing no-contact as an act of survival.

    This is not a story about blaming parents or seeking sympathy.
    It’s about understanding coercive control, parentification, cultural expectations, and what happens when independence threatens systems built on obedience.

    I talk about:

    Growing up without emotional safety

    Being treated as “the strong one” from a young age

    The difference between support and control

    Migration, job struggle, and pressure tied to dependence

    Why walking away was not cruelty, but self-preservation

    What it really means to break a generational pattern


    This episode is for anyone who has had to choose themselves without being understood, and for those learning to trust their own clarity after years of self-doubt.

    Content note: discussions of emotional abuse, family estrangement, and mental health.

    This is my truth.
    This is my voice.
    This is Stella’s lived experience.
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    15 mins
  • Episode 18- The Power of Lived Experience

    Episode 18- The Power of Lived Experience
    Sep 28 2025
    Experience, when used wisely, is a gift. Used recklessly, it can blur boundaries. The art of social work is not simply about having lived experience, but learning how to translate it into practice responsibly, ethically, and compassionately.

    At its heart, social work is about humanity. And humanity is not found in textbooks or manuals; it is found in stories, scars, resilience, and the countless ways people survive. Lived experience is the most honest reflection of that humanity. It is not just another tool in the toolbox; it is the heartbeat of the work.

    What makes lived experience so valuable is simple: it cannot be replicated, faked, or replaced. It is lived. And because it is lived, it carries an authenticity and power that transforms practice from being a service into being a relationship.

    When social workers learn to honor lived experience of their own, their clients’, and their communities’—they don’t just become better practitioners. They become more human. And it is our humanity, above all, that heals.
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    15 mins
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