We’ve all been in those seasons where marriage feels a little more like a foreign language than a dance. Maybe you feel like you’re the only one putting in the effort, or perhaps you’ve discovered your spouse’s love language, but your efforts still seem to be missing the mark.

Today, Gabe and Rebekah sit down with a true legend, Dr. Gary Chapman. You know him as the author of The 5 Love Languages, but in this interview he takes a step deeper into his newest project, The Love Language That Matters Most. He shares how understanding the unique dialects of love can be the key to finally making your partner feel truly seen and known.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Love as an Attitude: Why biblical love begins with a choice to enrich your partner’s life rather than waiting for a specific feeling.
• The Power of Influence: Understanding that while you cannot change your spouse, you have the power to influence them every single day through your own actions.
• The Six-Month Experiment: A powerful real-life story of a marriage on the brink of divorce that was completely restored through consistent, one-sided love.
• The Three Transformative Questions: The practical habit Gary used to save his own marriage: What can I do to help you? How can I make your life easier? How can I be a better spouse to you?.
• Learning the Dialects: How to move past the basics of the 5 Love Languages to discover the specific nuances that make your spouse feel most seen.

Whether your marriage is thriving or you’re in a hard season of feeling lost in translation, this episode is filled with the practical grace and wisdom we all need to fight for one another well.

Resources:

• Buy Gary’s New Book: The Love Language That Matters Most
• Website: 5lovelanguages.com
• Instagram: @5lovelanguages
• Get The Fight for Us book and curriculum: The Fight For Us
• Join us November 19-20 for our Emotional Health Retreat in Franklin, TN. Register now and save $200 when you use the code EH200. http://rebekahlyons.com/ehretreat
• Take the THINQ Assessment: https://thinqassessment.scoreapp.com/
• Create a free THINQ Account: Access more trusted content at thinqmedia.com

Welcome back to this brand new season of the Rhythms For Life podcast! Freshly thawed from the ice storm that hit Nashville a couple weeks ago, Gabe and Rebekah welcome their longtime friend, global speaker, and prolific author, Christine Caine. As she approaches her 60th birthday, Christine shares her inspiring 60 at 60 challenge: committing to 60 new experiences to keep her brain and spirit thriving.

This conversation dives deep into the heart of Christine’s new book, The Faith to Flourish, which explores the profound spiritual symbolism of the olive tree. Together, they discuss how to move from a season of "languishing" to one of flourishing, drawing wisdom from the life of David and the resilience of the sacred olive trees in Athens.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• The 60 at 60 Challenge: Christine’s recent adventures in Alaska, including sleeping in an igloo and dog sledding, and why novelty is essential for a thriving brain
• The Sacred Olive Tree: The moment in Athens that shifted Christine’s perspective on faith and endurance.
• Flourishing in the Cave: How David’s words in Psalm 52:8 provide a roadmap for staying positive and fruitful even when life feels like a crisis.
• Overcoming Languish: Addressing the post-COVID mojo loss and how to reconnect with a rhythm of life that leads to spiritual health
• Patient Endurance: Why the slow growth of an olive tree is a beautiful picture of the long-term faithfulness God requires of us.

Resources:

• Buy Christine’s Book: The Faith to Flourish by Christine Caine
• Christine’s Website: ChristineCaine.com
• Follow Christine on Instagram: @ChristineCaine
• Learn about A21: A21.org
• Join us November 19-20 for our Emotional Health Retreat in Franklin, TN. Register now and save $200 when you use the code EH200.
• Get The Fight for Us book and curriculum: The Fight For Us
• Take the THINQ Assessment: https://thinqassessment.scoreapp.com/
• Create a free THINQ Account: Access more trusted content at thinqmedia.com

More from the THINQ Podcast Network:

• UnderCurrent with Gabe Lyons: https://www.youtube.com/@gabe_lyons
• The InFormed Parent with Suzanne Phillips: https://www.youtube.com/@InFormedParent
• NextUp with Grant Skeldon: https://www.youtube.com/@GrantSkeldon
• NeuroFaith with Curt Thompson: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/neurofaith-with-curt-thompson-md/id1613240148
• THINQ Podcast with Gabe Lyons: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thinq-media-podcast/id1072608281

Gabe and Rebekah close out 2025 with the final episode of Season 12. Fresh off celebrating their 28th wedding anniversary in New York City, they reflect on a year filled with honest conversations about marriage, rhythms, and real life.

This episode is a heartfelt recap of the season’s highlights, a celebration of breakthroughs readers have experienced through their book The Fight for Us, and an invitation to invest even deeper in your marriage in 2026.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why the end-of-year holiday season is the perfect time for reflection and taking inventory as a couple
• The four simple questions Gabe and Rebekah ask every year to evaluate their marriage and family life
• Personal stories from their anniversary getaway—including a magical evening of live jazz with Chris Botti
• Powerful reader reviews and testimonies from couples and small groups using The Fight for Us and the new curriculum
• Exciting details about two upcoming opportunities to go deeper with Gabe and Rebekah in 2026

Resources:

• Download the free Year-End Inventory Guide (What’s Right, Wrong, Confused, and Missing) in the show notes
• Get The Fight for Us book and the new small-group curriculum
• Join Gabe and Rebekah for the intimate Beach Marriage Intensive, February 9–12, 2026 (limited spots remaining) at https://rebekahlyons.com/intensive — use code RFL500 for $500 off
• Save your seat for the Marriage & Parenting Retreat, May 14–15, 2026 in Franklin, TN at https://rebekahlyons.com/retreat — use code RFL200 for $200 off
• Dwell offers several Bible-in-a-Year plans to match how you want to journey through Scripture - whether by theme, by story, or by order of the books themselves. Head over to dwellbible.com/thinq and find your perfect plan!
• Unlock the THINQ Summit 2025 All-Access Pass before it’s released to the public: https://thinqmedia.com/access25/
• More from the THINQ Podcast Network:
  • UnderCurrent with Gabe Lyons: https://www.youtube.com/@gabe_lyons
  • The InFormed Parent with Suzanne Phillips: https://www.youtube.com/@InFormedParent
  • NextUp with Grant Skeldon: https://www.youtube.com/@GrantSkeldon
  • NeuroFaith with Curt Thompson: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/neurofaith-with-curt-thompson-md/id1613240148