In this conversation-based episode I invite another main character in the story… my wife. Or perhaps I’m “her husband”. Either way, Anya Vero is a super talented painter and anthropologist (www.anyavero.com), a great mother and a tolerable (or tolerant?) wife.

In 2024, Anya and I found out I’m not our daughter’s biological father. I tell the story of our open marriage, describing in forensic detail how we ended up in this unusual situation and pausing along the way to explore bigger topics around polyamory: conquering jealousy and relationship fear, balancing rules, trust and freedom, and managing communication with other people.

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[Music: “Known Unknowns”, “The High-Line”, “Enter The Hero”, “Gentle Words”, and “Other Shores” by Ned Stranger]

In this episode I explore my fear of Anya falling in love with someone else and leaving. Is this a valid fear? Does an open relationship increase the risk of this happening? And what does it have to do with attachment theory and stoic philosophy?

Books mentioned:

Polysecure (2020) by Jessica Fern

Epistulae Morales ad Lucilium (Letters From a Stoic) by Seneca the Younger (translated by Robin Campbell)

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius (translated by Robin Waterfield)

In 2024, my wife and I found out I’m not our daughter’s biological father. I tell the story of our open marriage, describing in forensic detail how we ended up in this unusual situation and pausing along the way to explore bigger topics around polyamory: conquering jealousy and relationship fear, balancing rules, trust and freedom, and managing communication with other people.

If you enjoy the show, please share with friends, leave us a 5* review and join the Poly Risk Reward community on Substack: polyriskreward.substack.com

[Music: “Known Unknowns”, “The High-Line”, “Enter The Hero”, “Gentle Words”, and “Other Shores” by Ned Stranger]

In a sort of experimental fishing expedition, looking for questions for the podcast, I took to Reddit and the Ask Me Anything thread… some of the comments I got were very offensive, others very thoughtful. On this week’s episode I read out and respond to a selection of them, throwing forward to the 2026 programme for Poly Risk Reward!In 2024, my wife and I found out I’m not our daughter’s biological father. I tell the story of our open marriage, describing in forensic detail how we ended up in this unusual situation and pausing along the way to explore bigger topics around polyamory: conquering jealousy and relationship fear, balancing rules, trust and freedom, and managing communication with other people.

If you enjoy the show, please share with friends, leave us a 5* review and join the Poly Risk Reward community on Substack: polyriskreward.substack.com

[Music: “Known Unknowns”, “The High-Line”, “Enter The Hero”, “Gentle Words”, and “Other Shores” by Ned Stranger]