Have you ever noticed the moment it happens?

You meet someone, you’re fine… and then suddenly you really like them and you start editing yourself. You become agreeable. Overly available. “Easy.” And it feels like you’re being kind… but something about it is quietly costing you.

In this episode, Matthew breaks down the switch that flips when someone becomes “important,” and why the urge to be extra nice is often just high-stakes fear in disguise. He explains how people-pleasing doesn’t create closeness: it creates blandness, resentment, and relationships where you can’t be yourself.

If you’ve ever felt yourself shrinking to keep someone, this episode is your reminder: real love requires you, not your performance.

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I hear this all the time: “Matthew, they’re wonderful but they won’t let me in. The conversations stay shallow. They deflect when things get real. And no matter how safe I try to make it, they just . . . won’t go there.” Sound familiar?

Here’s the thing: I’ve been on both sides of this. I’ve been the man who shut down, and I’ve been lucky enough to experience the moment that cracked me open. This episode is personal. I’m telling you two stories: one where vulnerability went horribly wrong, and one where it literally led to my marriage. If you want to understand what’s really happening when someone won’t open up—and what to do about it—you can’t miss this.

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We often talk about how the right partner will elevate your best and soothe your worst. But what if you secretly feel like your best isn’t good enough . . . or that your worst will be “too much“ for someone? When we carry that fear, we tend to overcorrect. We try to impress. We hide parts of ourselves. We delay vulnerability. And in doing so, we block the very connection we want.

In this episode, Matthew shares how to stop looking at yourself through a lens of self-judgment and self-loathing, and instead develop real self-compassion and self-empowerment. You’ll learn how to reveal vulnerability in a healthy, attractive way, build core confidence, and create relationships rooted in acceptance rather than fear.

If you’ve ever worried that someone wouldn’t love the “real“ you, this episode will change the way you see yourself.

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