Dr Wendy White was out running when a cyclist called back, ‘Careful, there are runners coming.’ Wendy looked behind her. And when I called her a swimmer after she’d swum three kilometres in the sea? She was quite sure she wouldn’t call herself that.

I loved those two moments. They got me thinking about how long it can take for a word to catch up with who we already are, and how freeing it can be to try something, be glad we did it, and leave it there.

In this week’s Life, Love & Legacy Insights, I’m reflecting on my conversation with Wendy, an NHS GP, runner and writer, and what her stories reminded me of in thinking about identity and possibility.

In this episode

• What Wendy means when she calls being an author her ‘new runner’.
• How a video about vaginal dryness became a way to make people laugh, feel less alone and get information they can trust.
• Why I call my first coaching conversations possibility calls.
• What a stick of rock has to do with being in flow and feeling more like yourself.
• One small way to try something you’re curious about and see what you discover.

And this time, the question I ask every guest is yours to answer. Who are you now, and who are you becoming?

If you missed my full conversation with Wendy, you’ll find it in Episode 37: Taking a wiggly route.

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OPPORTUNITIES TO WORK WITH SUE:

Coaching and Self-affirmation ceremony: Celebrate YOU!

Legacy exploration and coaching: The Eulogy Gap

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PODCAST RESOURCES:

Download your free copy of Legacy Notes - now available for Seasons One & Two!

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CONNECT WITH SUE:

Website: https://www.suerevell.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/

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Substack: https://substack.com/@suerevell1

Sue Revell is a personal leadership coach, independent celebrant and the founder of Life, Love & Legacy. She helps people navigate defining moments, express what matters most and create lives and ceremonies that feel unmistakably their own.

Through meaningful conversations, personally crafted ceremonies and her I Gotta Be Me coaching work, Sue explores identity, belonging, purpose and the legacy we create while we’re still living.

You can spend years getting on with life before realising that something doesn’t quite fit. You’re doing what’s expected, perhaps even doing it well, but there’s a difference between managing the life you’ve built and feeling comfortably yourself within it.

In this week’s Life, Love & Legacy, I’m joined by Dr Wendy White, NHS GP, writer, runner and a woman whose wonderfully dry humour regularly makes me laugh out loud.

Wendy describes her route through life as “wiggly”, and our conversation follows some of those turns. From returning to her childhood ambition of becoming a doctor to coming out and feeling more comfortably herself, she shares what she’s discovered about finding a life that fits.

We also explore the unexpected identities that come with trying something new, why “no thank you” can become easier with age, and how a small kindness might travel further than we’ll ever know. And there’s a moment involving Dawn French that had us both rather excited!!

Highlights include:

• Returning to a childhood dream after being told it wasn’t possible.
• Coming out and feeling that life finally fitted.
• Why we’re sometimes the last to recognise who we’ve become.
• Facing a three-kilometre sea swim, then finding something scarier.
• Saying “no thank you” without preparing a defence.
• Making someone’s day, and never knowing where the ripples end.

It’s a conversation full of laughter, with plenty to reflect on about who we are and who we’re still becoming.

To connect with Dr Wendy White:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drwhitetalksabout/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61579077523570

Substack, The Midlife Edit: https://substack.com/@drwhitetalksabout?utm_source=feed

Pre-order Wendy’s forthcoming book: https://www.penguin.co.uk/books/487622/the-glp-revolution-by-white-dr-wendy/9781785047275?

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OPPORTUNITIES TO WORK WITH SUE:

Coaching and Self-affirmation ceremony: Celebrate YOU!

Legacy exploration and coaching: The Eulogy Gap

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PODCAST RESOURCES:

Download your free copy of Legacy Notes - now available for Seasons One & Two!

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CONNECT WITH SUE:

Website: https://www.suerevell.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/

Blue Sky: https://bsky.app/profile/suerevell.bsky.social

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/suerevell

Substack: https://substack.com/@suerevell1

Sue Revell is a personal leadership coach, independent celebrant and the founder of Life, Love & Legacy. She helps people navigate defining moments, express what matters most and create lives and ceremonies that feel unmistakably their own.

Through meaningful conversations, personally crafted ceremonies and her I Gotta Be Me coaching work, Sue explores identity, belonging, purpose and the legacy we create while we’re still living.

Can the darkest moments in our lives become sources of extraordinary light? And what might help us find that light, even when the world around us feels increasingly dark and divided?

In this week's Life, Love & Legacy Insights, I'm reflecting on my conversation with Kat Applewhite, and two moments that have stayed with me.

The first was Kat's beautiful observation that times of great darkness can become sources of extraordinary light, if we give ourselves space to find it.

The second was her description of the person she's trying to become: someone with the courage to stand for what they believe in, the humility to recognise they might be wrong, the curiosity to keep learning and the wisdom to disagree well.

Together, those reflections offer us something hopeful to consider. Not that suffering is necessary for growth, or that every difficult experience has a positive lesson waiting to be discovered, but that we can all develop qualities that help us bring a little more understanding, compassion and possibility into the world.

In this episode, I explore:

• Why courage doesn't always require certainty.
• How humility can change the way we see others and ourselves.
• What curiosity makes possible when we look beyond the obvious.
• Why learning to disagree well might matter more than ever.
• How sharing our experiences, at the right time and in the right way, can strengthen our connections with others.

And perhaps, as Kat reminds us, making a difference doesn't always require grand gestures. Sometimes it's enough to leave things a little better than we found them.

What quality might you nurture in yourself that could bring a little more light into someone else's life?

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OPPORTUNITIES TO WORK WITH SUE:

Coaching and Self-affirmation ceremony: Celebrate YOU!

Legacy exploration and coaching: The Eulogy Gap

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PODCAST RESOURCES:

Download your free copy of Legacy Notes - now available for Seasons One & Two!

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CONNECT WITH SUE:

Website: https://www.suerevell.com

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lifelovelegacy/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/suerevell_lifelovelegacy/

Blue Sky: https://bsky.app/profile/suerevell.bsky.social

LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/suerevell

Substack: https://substack.com/@suerevell1

Sue Revell is a personal leadership coach, independent celebrant and the founder of Life, Love & Legacy. She helps people navigate defining moments, express what matters most and create lives and ceremonies that feel unmistakably their own.

Through meaningful conversations, personally crafted ceremonies and her I Gotta Be Me coaching work, Sue explores identity, belonging, purpose and the legacy we create while we’re still living.