In this episode of Go Find Less, I’m sharing the story of being diagnosed with ADHD as an adult — and how that diagnosis made so many pieces of my life finally click into place.

I talk about what I was like as a kid: constantly talking, getting in trouble at school, feeling like I was always “too much,” and growing up believing that parts of my personality were things I needed to tone down or fix. I share how that followed me into beauty school, my career behind the chair, motherhood, business ownership, and even the way I’ve learned to cope with everyday life.

I also get into the moment a friend casually told me, “It’s because we both have ADHD,” and how that one conversation sent me down the path of finally getting evaluated after years of therapy, anxiety, stress, overwhelm, insomnia, and feeling like my brain never shut off.

I talk honestly about what the diagnosis has meant for me, why I’m not currently choosing medication, the coping systems I use now — including my “open tabs” notes list — and how much relief I’ve felt simply understanding that my brain works differently.

This episode also gets into motherhood in a really vulnerable way. I talk about emotional regulation, seeing parts of myself reflected in my daughters, wanting to advocate for them if they ever struggle in the same ways I did, and learning how to apologize, regulate, and grow alongside my kids instead of expecting myself to be perfect.

More than anything, this diagnosis has helped me stop trying to shrink myself to fit into rooms that were never made for me. I’m learning to work with my brain instead of constantly fighting against it — and to give myself a little more grace in the process.

If you’ve ever felt scattered, overwhelmed, overly emotional, too loud, too talkative, like your brain has 10 tabs open at once, or simply like you’ve spent your life wondering why certain things seem harder for you than they do for everyone else, this episode is for you.

Because maybe you were never “too much.”

Maybe you just needed to understand yourself better.

And if you are too much for someone? They can go find less. 🤍

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