Why is dating broken?

Why are young men flooding back to church?

In this conversation, I sit down with Patrick Coffin: Catholic broadcaster, close-up magician, and host of The Patrick Coffin Show. We go deep on the real reasons relationships are falling apart: and it goes back further than you think.

We cover: → Why dating is a failed concept (and what humans actually need) → The 3 "divorces" that broke Western civilization → How your image of God shapes your attachment style → Why empaths and narcissists can't stop finding each other → The difference between emotional permanence and emotional impermanence → What the Traditional Latin Mass has to do with secure attachment → Why "spiritual but not religious" is code for "I don't want to be challenged" → The biochemistry of feeling loved (oxytocin, vasopressin, and cortisol) → How to repair after conflict: the skill most families lost 120 years ago Plus: Patrick performs a live magic trick that lands.

This is the intersection of faith, neuroscience, and attachment theory: the stuff that actually changes how you bond.

🔗 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Patrick Coffin's Podcast: https://patrickcoffin.media True North Community: https://patrickcoffin.media

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Dr. Chris Lee opens with the truth most people avoid: men are dying from loneliness.

In this conversation, Adam Lane Smith and Dr. Chris Lee break down the science of emotional regulation, why your amygdala hallucinates up to 340% more threats if you have insecure attachment, and why scheduling your feelings might be the most counterintuitive (and effective) thing you ever do.

About Dr. Chris Lee: Neuroscience researcher, consultant, father, homeschool parent. Lost his father to suicide at 22, had his daughter two weeks later. Built his career understanding why men suffer in silence and how to break the pattern. 🔗 Instagram: @drchrislee 🔗 Website: drchrislee.com

About Adam Lane Smith: The Attachment Specialist. 17 years married. Six children (number six on the way). Helping one billion people become securely attached. 🔗 RESOURCES: 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 3 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=retreat 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/ 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/

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🔗 Attachment Assessment: Dr. Orion Taraban returns to break down what most relationship advice gets completely wrong.

We dive into the neurochemistry behind attraction and commitment: dopamine, oxytocin, vasopressin, cortisol; and why chasing "good feelings" is destroying modern relationships.

Adam reveals the Secure Loyalty Equation he and Andrey developed, explaining why purpose and shared challenges create bonds that last decades.

We cover: → Why "love bombing" actually works (and what that reveals) → The 58 to 63 day window for rewiring attachment patterns → What the prairie vole experiments teach us about human monogamy → Building a 1000 year family legacy vs. optimizing for immediate happiness → The spiritual case for non;attachment in relationships

🔗 Dr. Taraban's new book Starry Night: https://amzn.to/4sGcqOY

Find him: youtube.com/@OrionTaraban

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