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Children are born neurologically and emotionally fragile. They're born feeling frightened and unsafe. And somewhere along the way, we decided that was someone else's problem to solve.

Erica Komisar joins Adam Lane Smith for a conversation about what we've lost: the understanding that the first three years of a child's life shape everything that comes after.

In this video: → Why 85% of your child's social-emotional brain develops before age three → The attachment foundation that determines mental health for life → How we told women that careers matter more than shaping the next generation → What chronic absence does to a child's nervous system (and why we're medicating the result) → The feminist message that backfired: "Women should be more like men" → Why 60% of mothers would stay home if they had financial and emotional support → The father's role: vasopressin, protection, play, and teaching risk → How fatherlessness connects to the behavioral crisis in young boys → The deathbed question: who will be holding your hand when you die? → Why sibling rivalry spikes when parents aren't present enough → The CEO/CFO model of marriage: equal value, different specialization → How wives can pull workaholic husbands back into the family

ABOUT ERICA KOMISAR: Erica Komisar is a psychoanalyst, parent guidance expert, and author of "Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters." Her new book on raising healthy children through divorce releases March 2026.

🔗 Erica's Website: komisar.com 🔗 Attachment Circles (Nonprofit): attachmentcircles.org 🔗 Instagram: @ericakommisar

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She's won races most people can't finish. Built businesses. Commanded stages. But relationships? That's where the pattern kept breaking.

Danica Patrick joins Adam Lane Smith and Andrey Korikov for a raw conversation about why high-achieving women keep attracting emotionally unavailable men: and what actually has to change.

In this video: → The "quiet disorganized" attachment pattern most successful women don't know they have → Why making life easy for men destroys the bond you're trying to build → The four levels of safety men must provide: and where most fail → Adam's three-date method for filtering out avoidant men fast → How to stop erasing yourself in relationships → The CEO/COO model that lets you stay in your feminine at home → Why male discomfort is actually a good sign

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🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 3 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?ut...

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Why is dating broken?

Why are young men flooding back to church?

In this conversation, I sit down with Patrick Coffin: Catholic broadcaster, close-up magician, and host of The Patrick Coffin Show. We go deep on the real reasons relationships are falling apart: and it goes back further than you think.

We cover: → Why dating is a failed concept (and what humans actually need) → The 3 "divorces" that broke Western civilization → How your image of God shapes your attachment style → Why empaths and narcissists can't stop finding each other → The difference between emotional permanence and emotional impermanence → What the Traditional Latin Mass has to do with secure attachment → Why "spiritual but not religious" is code for "I don't want to be challenged" → The biochemistry of feeling loved (oxytocin, vasopressin, and cortisol) → How to repair after conflict: the skill most families lost 120 years ago Plus: Patrick performs a live magic trick that lands.

This is the intersection of faith, neuroscience, and attachment theory: the stuff that actually changes how you bond.

🔗 RESOURCES MENTIONED: Patrick Coffin's Podcast: https://patrickcoffin.media True North Community: https://patrickcoffin.media

📚 WORK WITH ME: 🫂 RELATIONSHIP MASTERY INTENSIVE April 23–26, 2026 | San Diego, California 3 days of real skill-building with people who understand exactly what you're going through. Apply here: https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=retreat 💬 1:1 COACHING Work directly with my team: https://adamlanesmith.com/private-coaching/ 📋 FREE ATTACHMENT QUIZ Find out your attachment style in under 5 minutes: https://adamlanesmith.com/attachment-assessment/ 📬 NEWSLETTER Get weekly insights on attachment patterns: https://adamlanesmith.com/newsletter-signup/

🎙️ ABOUT THIS CHANNEL: I'm Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist. I've spent 16 years helping people understand how their brain learned to bond: and how to change it. I work with anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles to build secure relationships that actually last. Subscribe for weekly videos on attachment, relationships, and the psychology of connection.