"How do I know when it's time to leave?" Joey says it isn't when the relationship is difficult.

In this episode of The Connection Fix, host Joey Klein answers a question he gets asked often: how do you know when it's time to leave a relationship, and when is it a difficult season instead?

You'll learn why most people leave a relationship too soon, why relief is not the same thing as peace, and discover the two conditions that tell you whether a relationship can become what you envision.

Question of the Day 🗣️

Honest answer: is your relationship genuinely incapable of becoming what you envision, or are you in a season of difficulty you haven't yet learned how to navigate?

Key Take-aways

• Wait before you leave: most people end a relationship before they've fully explored what's possible
• Start with yourself: leaving to escape your own emotional patterns means they follow you into the next one
• Check your state first: anger, resentment, fear, sadness, guilt or shame cloud a clear decision
• Don't mistake relief for peace: imagining the absence of something painful isn't the same as love, compassion and acceptance
• Separate a need from a strong want: say the need out loud and invite your partner to participate

Timestamped Outline ⏱️

0:00 - When is it time to leave?
1:10 - Most people leave too early
2:00 - Difficult seasons are normal
2:41 - Your patterns follow you
3:00 - Condition 1: your emotional state
4:06 - Accessing a love-based state
4:25 - Relief is not the same as peace
5:14 - Condition 2: impossible, not inconvenient
5:49 - Examples of a true incompatibility
7:11 - A need vs. a strong want
7:58 - Communicate what you need
9:13 - The 90 / 5 / 5 breakdown
10:33 - The next step for most people
11:01 - So how do you know?
12:03 - A question to ask yourself
12:37 - Related episodes

Links & Resources 🔗

• Issue 039, The Person They Want to Come Home To -> https://joeyklein.com/the-connection-fix/the-person-they-want-to-come-home-to
• Issue 032, The Quiet Exit -> https://joeyklein.com/the-connection-fix/the-quiet-exit
• Relationship Alchemy: A Practical Guide to Getting Along Well With Others (free copy, you cover shipping) -> https://relationshipalchemybook.com/
• The Connection Fix on the Blog -> https://joeyklein.com/the-connection-fix
• The Connection Fix Podcast (Spotify) -> https://open.spotify.com/show/3oMvTF6uHxAh5QQ8JezjEH
• The Connection Fix (full YouTube playlist) -> https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLuuZmMSR_HqdY8vE6a0Kv2gi8sEBXkEJt
• Subscribe to The Connection Fix -> https://theconnectionfix.com

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