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My guest today is author Sam Frearson-Tubito, who published her beautiful memoir this summer: Beneath a Borrowed Sky: One Woman's Search for the True Meaning of Home.

Sam is a fellow expat empty nester based in Italy, with four young adults strewn across the globe, from Sydney to the US West Coast to Europe. Growing up as a TCK herself, in a dozen or so countries, and with stints at British boarding schools, Sam bears the scars of being raised with a stiff upper lip, and made it her parent mission to guide her children differently.

Of course, empty nesting is a big topic of our conversation, as is parenting in general. Other topics are grief, adjusting, transitions, and the importance of finding purpose at every stage in life. And then we finally talk about writing, and Sam's book, and about memoir writing, impostor syndrome, perfectionism and the need for authenticity and perseverance when it comes to publishing.

Books (and people) that were mentioned:

Ruth van Reken: "Third Culture Kids" (4th edition out October 6),

Megan Norton-Newbanks: "Belonging Beyond Borders"

Tanya Crossman: "Misunderstood: The Impact of Growing Up Overseas in the 21st Century"

I also want to mention Lauren Wells: "The Grief Tower", amongst others.

Sam's location timeline:

1971 | St. Kitts & Nevis

1973 | Bordeaux, France

1975 | Otford, England

1976 | Kinshasa, DRC

1977 | Lubumbashi, DRC

1978 | Abidjan, Côte d’Ivoire

1980 | Boarding School, All Hallows in Somerset, UK

1983 | Boarding School, New Hall School in Essex, UK

1984 | Hong Kong

1985 | Lusaka, Zambia

1989 | Cairo, Egypt

1991 | Angers, France

1994 | Marmaris, Turkey

1995 | London, England

1997 | Milan, Italy

1999 | Bologna, Italy

2001 | Bussum, Netherlands

2008 | Baarn, Netherlands

2009 | Tokyo, Japan

2013 | Portland, Oregon, USA

2020 | Modena, Italy

2023 | Madrid, Spain

2024 | Athens, Greece (7 months), then back to Madrid

2025 | Valencia, Spain

2026 | Modena, Italy

For more information, find Sam on Instagram, LinkedIn, or visit her website, Wandering Identity.

Beneath a Borrowed Sky is widely available.

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Today's episode comes with some extra material - my guest and I will be hosting a workshop for expat moms! If you feel like you might be ready to get unstuck and want to start building your new life with the help of a community, this might be the perfect opportunity!

I'm talking to Daniela, a mom of three, ontological coach and the founder of MomToo Coaching. We talk about all things expat moms, and how important and life-changing moving countries with your family can be - if you have the right support systems.

We talk about - among many other topics - the basics of ontological coaching, why it’s so important to include somatic elements, i.e. the body, in the coaching process, and the role of community in our self-acceptance. We also talk about AI and its role in decision-making, and why nothing beats human-to-human interaction and community.

Ontological coaching is a transformational methodology that focuses on a person's "way of being" rather than just their actions. It operates on the principle that shifting your underlying internal perceptions creates new possibilities. It examines how the interconnected domains of language, emotions, and the body shape your reality.

More information about ontological coaching can be found here.

Free Quiz: Why do you feel so "off" since moving abroad? Discover your expat mom pattern.

Find Daniela on Instagram, LinkedIn, or head straight to her website.

WORKSHOP Information:

Find Your Home Again!
3 Strategies for Expat Moms to Rebuild Identity & Belonging After a Move

September 15, 2026, 12:30 (EST).
$20 per person or bring a friend and pay $10 each!

Registration details can be found here.

To get in touch with me, find me on Instagram or LinkedIn, visit my website (and all the links), read my Substack and, of course, my book, Transcontinental Overload - a Memoir of Movement, Meltdowns & Making a Life In Between, available in both English and German.

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Today's episode is all about transformation and overcoming limiting beliefs - without an international component. This is what Get the Boots is all about.

In my guest's words: "Your success on the outside should feel the same on the inside."

I was so lucky to get Dr. Daryll Wharton, keynote speaker, mindset coach and hypnotherapist, to come on the podcast and share her own story to show how we already own everything we need to embark on our own path of transformation.

Dr. Daryll talks about being a certified EFT practitioner: a professional who guides clients through Emotional Freedom Techniques (often called "tapping") or Emotion-Focused Therapy.

Visit Dr. Daryll's website, or connect with her on LinkedIn.

To get in touch with me, find me on Instagram or LinkedIn, visit my website (and all the links), read my Substack and, of course, my book, Transcontinental Overload - a Memoir of Movement, Meltdowns & Making a Life In Between, available in both English and German.