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The Gay Monogamy Coach.

The Gay Monogamy Coach.

By: Alan Cox
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The Gay Monogamy Coach podcast is hosted by the life coach, CBT practitioner, workshop facilitator and author Alan Cox.

He supports gay men in understanding the emotional, psychological, and practical aspects of transitioning from casual dating to a committed, monogamous relationship, while fostering clarity, confidence, and alignment with authentic relationship goals.

Each episode will investigate an area that surrounds monogamy and is reinforced by practical life coaching techniques.


Alan can be contacted via:

gaymonogamycoach@gmail.com


Website:

www.lifecoachingempoweringgaymen.com



© 2026 The Gay Monogamy Coach.
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Episodes
  • The Power of “No”: Setting boundaries without guilt.
    Apr 26 2026

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    The power of “No”: Setting boundaries without guilt.

    So many gay men move through life saying yes when every part of them is whispering no. Not because they’re weak, not because they’re indecisive — but because somewhere along the way, they learned that their value came from being agreeable, flexible, and easy to accommodate.

    In this episode of The Gay Monogamy Coach, Alan Cox breaks down the emotional habit behind the “soft yes,” the guilt that follows, and the quiet self‑abandonment that accumulates over years of people‑pleasing. Through real client stories and CBT‑based tools, he shows how boundaries aren’t walls or ultimatums — they’re acts of clarity, self‑respect, and emotional maturity.

    You’ll learn:
    • Why saying yes when you mean no erodes your confidence
    • How childhood and early experiences shape your boundary patterns
    • The “Micro No” technique that rewires your emotional autopilot
    • How to rehearse boundaries so they feel natural, not confrontational
    • Why authentic intimacy is impossible without honest limits

    If you’ve spent years avoiding conflict, softening your no into a maybe, or prioritising everyone else’s comfort over your own wellbeing, this episode will help you reclaim your time, your energy, and your emotional space.

    Because when your no becomes clear, your yes becomes meaningful.

    Ready to build boundaries without guilt — and finally date from clarity instead of exhaustion?
    Book your free 20‑minute discovery call: https://calendly.com/empoweringgaymen/new-meeting (calendly.com in Bing)
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    13 mins
  • Emotional Resilience — Bouncing back from a string of bad dates.
    Apr 26 2026

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    “Emotional resilience: Bouncing back from a string of bad dates."


    There’s a particular expression men get after a run of bad dates — not despair, not anger, but that quiet, resigned exhale your script describes so perfectly: “the kind a man makes when he opens the fridge and realises he’s out of milk again.” It’s the look of a grown man who’s emotionally intelligent, self‑aware, and frankly tired of hearing about someone’s ex, gym routine, or star sign for the third date in a row.

    In this episode of The Gay Monogamy Coach, Alan Cox explores emotional resilience in dating — not the glossy, motivational kind, but the grounded, grown‑man kind that helps you bounce back without turning disappointment into self‑blame.

    Through vivid, often hilarious client stories — Jonathan’s “biblical run of bad dates,” Peter’s sixth sense for emotional unavailability, Michael treating every bad date like “a referendum on my entire personality” — Alan reveals how even the most stable men can start to wonder whether they’re the common denominator.

    This episode introduces two powerful CBT tools: The Emotional Autopsy, which separates facts from the harsh stories men tell themselves, and The Resilience Reset, a structured pause that restores emotional equilibrium.

    As Oliver, 48, puts it: “A bad date doesn’t mean I’m failing. It just means I’m filtering.”

    If you’re a gay man in midlife who’s tired, discouraged, or quietly irritated by the dating process, this episode offers clarity, humour, and a grounded path back to confidence.

    🎧 Music: “Going Somewhere Good” by Rest and Settle 📞 Discovery Calls: +44 20 4509 9804 📧 empoweringgaymen@gmail.com 🌈 patreon.com/empoweringgaymen

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    12 mins
  • Core Beliefs — Healing the “I’m unlovable” narrative.
    Apr 26 2026

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    Even the most accomplished gay men can carry an invisible story — one that quietly whispers, “I’m unlovable.”
    In this episode of The Gay Monogamy Coach, Alan Cox unpacks how that belief shapes who we choose, what we tolerate, and how we show up in love. Through real client stories and CBT‑based insight, he explores how to rewrite the emotional software that keeps men chasing unavailability and performing for affection.

    You’ll hear how men in their forties, fifties, and sixties have transformed their dating lives by healing the deeper wound — moving from earning love to receiving it. This is the shift from usefulness to worthiness, from auditioning to belonging.

    If you’ve ever felt unseen, undervalued, or stuck in the same dating patterns, this episode will help you understand why — and how to change it.
    Because you’re not unlovable. You’re just unpracticed at being loved.

    🎧 Listen now and start your transformation.
    📞 Book your free 20‑minute discovery call: calendly.com/empoweringgaymen/new-meeting (calendly.com in Bing)
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    14 mins
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