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A Millennial Mind

A Millennial Mind

By: Shivani Pau
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A Millennial Mind is a podcast about perspective, because when you understand someone’s mind, you understand their world. But we all live with limited data. Our beliefs, experiences, and knowledge are just a few dots. And if you don’t collect enough dots, you can’t connect them and you can’t grow. That’s why this podcast exists: to gather those dots. Each episode, I invite experts, thought leaders, and change makers to challenge how I think, on everything from mental health, hormones, and habits to relationships, identity, and success. We bust myths, reframe narratives, and explore what it really takes to shift your mindset. Because when you change your mind, you change your thoughts.And when you change your thoughts, you change your life. So if you’re ready to think differently, welcome to the reimagined A Millennial Mind. Hit subscribe and let’s start connecting the dots together.Shivani Pau Hygiene & Healthy Living Psychology Psychology & Mental Health
Episodes
  • Lost After Motherhood: I Walked Away From Victoria’s Secret and It Destroyed Me | Vita Sidokina

    Lost After Motherhood: I Walked Away From Victoria’s Secret and It Destroyed Me | Vita Sidokina
    Oct 27 2026
    When was the last time someone asked who you actually are? Not your job, your title or your role, but you? In this episode, I sit down with former Victoria’s Secret model, content creator and mum of two Vita Sidokina for a conversation she’s never had in an interview before. Vita opens up about walking away from a modeling career she thought would last forever, the postpartum depression that forced her to start from zero, and how motherhood healed her relationship with her body. We talk about the painful “in-between” stage of any life pivot, why she calls herself a selfish mum, and how the tough-love parenting she grew up with shaped her drive. This conversation is for anyone outgrowing an old version of themselves and wondering who they are underneath it. We talk about: - Losing your identity after a career change or motherhood - Why the “in-between” stage of a pivot keeps you stuck - Postpartum depression and learning to start from zero - Healing your relationship with your body through motherhood - Why putting yourself first makes you a better mum - Tough-love parenting, unconditional love and high standards - Letting go of the victim mindset - How to find out who you really are, and why half effort never works - Why no phase of your life is permanent - Choosing friendships wisely in your 30s If you’ve ever felt like you don’t recognise the person you’re becoming, or you’re grieving who you used to be, this episode is your reminder that you can always start again. Make sure you’re subscribed and have notifications on so you never miss an episode. Follow Vita: @VitaSidorkinachannel #AMillennialMind #IdentityShift #MotherhoodJourney Chapters 0:00 Intro 1:00 Who are you, really? 2:10 Welcome Vita 3:08 From Russia to Victoria’s Secret 4:50 Why she walked away from modeling 7:18 Grieving the old version of yourself 9:11 Accepting life changes without resentment 10:08 The danger of being “in-between” identities 11:02 Postpartum depression and starting from zero 12:18 Vegan chef, ice cream brand and finding her thing 13:15 Pivoting your content and your audience 16:36 Staying motivated when nobody engages 19:06 Is the algorithm the new rat race? 20:49 How motherhood healed her relationship with her body 24:49 Best shape of her life after two kids 26:43 Why she’s a “selfish” mum 29:18 When being at home isn’t enough 31:00 Kids copy what you do, not what you say 33:20 Career sacrifices and dropping the victim mindset 35:51 Raised on “Okay, what’s next?” 39:40 Unconditional love with high standards 41:16 Life is on your side 42:47 Ignoring other people’s opinions 45:55 How to find out who you really are 47:32 Why half effort never works 48:55 How to stick with something new 49:29 The biggest lesson from changing identities 50:17 No phase of your life is permanent 53:15 Choosing friendships wisely in your 30s 55:05 Outgrowing friends and being direct 58:06 The quote she lives by 58:38 Next week’s episode 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    1 hr and 1 min
  • Couples Therapist: Why the Spark HAS to Fade & What Actually Destroys Relationships | Maria G. Sosa

    Couples Therapist: Why the Spark HAS to Fade & What Actually Destroys Relationships | Maria G. Sosa
    Oct 20 2026
    Is the spark in your relationship supposed to fade, or is losing it a sign that something’s wrong? In this episode, I sit down with Maria G. Sosa, a licensed couples therapist (you might know her as Holistically Grace) who has been through divorce herself. We get into why the spark fades in every long-term relationship, the small resentments that quietly pull couples apart, and what healthy love actually needs once the honeymoon stage is over. If you’re ready to launch your business before Black Friday, go to shopify.com to start your free trial. We talk about: Why being a “divorced couples therapist” kept her in her marriage longer than she should have stayed. What the spark really is, and why it has to fade. How to tell if feeling disconnected is a hard season or a real problem. Why there’s no “normal” amount of intimacy, only what works for you two. The early warning signs couples miss (it’s usually what’s been left unsaid) How to bring up hard conversations without your partner getting defensive. Why emotional safety is the most underrated part of any relationship. Why communication isn’t always the real problem. What to do when you’re the only one trying to change. How she finally knew it was time to leave. If you’ve ever felt disconnected from someone you love and wondered whether it’s normal or the beginning of the end, this conversation will help you understand what that feeling is really telling you. Subscribe and turn on notifications so you don’t miss the next one; it genuinely helps me bring on more incredible guests. Follow Maria G. Sosa: [add her @holisticallygrace] AD: This episode is supported by Let’s Save Water. Small changes, repeated by enough of us, add up. Search “Let’s Save Water” or visit letssavewater.com for simple ways to save water every day. #AMillennialMind #RelationshipAdvice #CouplesTherapy Chapters 00:00 Intro: can divorce teach you more about love? 02:05 Welcome, Maria G. Sosa 02:54 Who is Maria? 03:17 Being a divorced couples therapist 05:51 What is “the spark”? 07:42 Does the spark have to fade? 09:28 Is it normal to feel disconnected? 10:33 How to know if it’s a real problem 12:04 Is there a “normal” amount of intimacy? 13:43 The early signs couples miss 17:13 How to start difficult conversations 24:51 Why you should never start with “you” 28:21 It’s not conflict, it’s the lack of repair 29:06 Ad break 30:00 Why safety is the most underrated part of love 34:46 How to build emotional safety 38:05 When your partner says “you’re always complaining” 41:12 When work and ambition strain the relationship 44:03 Why couples wait 2.68 years for therapy 47:37 Why communication isn’t the real problem 52:13 The stories we tell ourselves 53:39 How resentment quietly builds 54:38 Can you break the cycle? 55:26 When only one partner wants to change 57:00 When is it worth fighting for? 59:07 Why breakups shake your identity 59:48 How Maria knew it was time to leave 1:02:02 There’s no certainty in love 1:03:53 One piece of advice if your spark is fading 1:05:27 Coming up next 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    1 hr and 10 mins
  • You Don’t Owe Anyone Your News: Why I Hid My Pregnancy Online

    You Don’t Owe Anyone Your News: Why I Hid My Pregnancy Online
    Oct 13 2026
    Do you owe the internet every part of your life? In this solo episode of A Millennial Mind, I share why I didn’t tell anyone I was pregnant until I was six months along, even though I share so much of my life online. I recorded this at the end of my second trimester, while our plans were still changing almost every week. In it, I talk honestly about the three reasons I chose to keep this chapter private. The first was protecting myself from unsolicited advice. The second was wanting to hold on to the sacredness of such a magical time. The third is the one I’m still unsure about: energy, and nazar (the evil eye). This isn’t me telling you what’s right or wrong. It’s simply my experience, and I hope it gives you a different perspective. Because this goes far beyond pregnancy. Whether you’re changing jobs, starting a new relationship, moving cities or making a big decision, you don’t have to tell everyone everything until you’ve figured it out for yourself. In this episode: - Why I kept my pregnancy private for six months - The growing pressure to share everything online - Why unsolicited advice can become noise - Listening to your own intuition during big decisions - The sacredness of pregnancy and telling family in person - What happens when everything becomes content - Nazar, the evil eye and protecting your energy - Radiators vs drainers: the people who lift you and the ones who drain you - Being mindful of those experiencing loss and fertility struggles - Why you don’t owe anyone your story If you’ve ever felt like you had to explain yourself, or share something before you were ready, I hope this episode reminds you that some things are allowed to stay just yours. AD: In England, we're using water faster than nature can replace it, and in Wales, wetter winters and drier summers are putting pressure on the water supply. We often use more than we realise, but we don't need massive lifestyle changes to change these stats. Everyday ways to save water: Cut your shower by two minutes to save 28L Use a washing up bowl instead of a running tap to save 10L per minute Fix a leaky loo to save up to 400L a day Use eco-mode on appliances to save 10L per wash Search "Let's Save Water" or visit letssavewater.com to see what small changes you could make, and maybe have a chat with your friends and family about this too. #AMillennialMind #PregnancyJourney #protectyourenergy Timestamps 00:00 Why I Kept My Pregnancy a Secret for 6 Months 00:51 Not Everything Needs to Be Shared Online 01:40 The Pressure to Share Everything to Be “Authentic” 02:17 How I Hid My Bump 03:12 The 3 Reasons I Kept It Private 04:42 Reason 1: Avoiding Unsolicited Advice 05:42 Finding Out I Was Pregnant After Dubai 06:12 How the Pregnancy Changed All Our Plans 08:21 Why I Didn’t Want Anyone Else’s Opinion 09:53 Why Too Many Opinions Become Noise 10:34 Don’t Take Advice From People Who Haven’t Done It 11:24 Learning to Trust My Own Intuition 11:52 AD 12:52 Reason 2: The Sacredness of Pregnancy 13:58 Telling Our Families in Person 14:45 When Everything Becomes Content 16:49 Why I Don’t Share Week-by-Week Pregnancy Updates 17:30 Why I’m Ready to Share It Now 18:27 Reason 3: The Evil Eye & Nazar 20:05 Radiators vs Drainers: Positive & Negative Energy 21:19 Why I’m Still Unsure About Nazar 21:58 The Reactions I Didn’t Expect 23:44 Not Everyone Reacts the Way You Expect 24:15 Being Mindful of Loss & Fertility Struggles 25:34 You Don’t Owe Anyone Your Story 26:06 Only You Know What’s Right for You 🔔 Subscribe for more discussions on mental health, personal growth, and healing! / @shivanipaupodcast ✨ Connect with Millennial Mind ✨ Podcast Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amillennialmind Shivani Pau Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shivani.pau Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/shivanipaupodcast Performance Planner: https://my-performance-planner.myshopify.com/ Let Me Change Your Mind 🧠 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    31 mins
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