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Why Won't You Apologize?

Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

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Why Won't You Apologize?

By: Harriet Lerner PhD PhD
Narrated by: Cassandra Campbell
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 “If you want to know why Harriet Lerner is one of my great heroes, Why Won’t You Apologize? is the answer. This book is a game changer.” —Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Rising Strong

“Harriet Lerner is one hell of a wise woman. She draws you in with deft and engaging prose, and then changes your life with her rigorous intelligence and her deeply human advice. I promise that you will never see ‘the apology’ in quite the same way.” —Esther Perel, MA, LMFT author of Mating in Captivity

Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the two most important words in the English language—I’m sorry—and offers a unique perspective on the challenge of healing broken connections and restoring trust.

Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies—and why some people won’t give them—for more than two decades. Now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that bring home how much the simple apology matters and what is required for healing when the hurt we’ve inflicted (or received) is far from simple. Readers will learn how to craft a deeply meaningful “I’m sorry” and avoid apologies that only deepen the original injury.

Why Won’t You Apologize? also addresses the compelling needs of the injured party—the one who has been hurt by someone who won’t apologize, tell the truth, or feel remorse. Lerner explains what drives both the non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, as well as why the people who do the worst things are the least able to own up. She helps the injured person resist pressure to forgive too easily and challenges the popular notion that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With her trademark humor and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving guide to setting things right. Conflict Resolution Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences Sociology Witty Science Communication

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Another great book by Harriet Lerner. I’ll be listening many times over- I wish I’d been taught this stuff years ago.

Great, great, great

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A life changing book, gentle, packed with wisdom, provoking deep reflection and bringing clarity to previously puzzling situations and behaviors.

Extraordinary, transformational!

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This book is fabulous. I love Harriet's work and this one does not disappoint. once you know the difference between a genuine apology and a fake one you won't be able to unknow that. so don't read if you don't want to learn this stuff. lol.

Well done and thankyou

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Insightful discussion of what to say and how to speak to the hurt caused. No excuses.

Dealing with difficult conversations

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I highly recommend this book. It has helped me a lot to make sense of a bad relationship and broken relation with family members. i have been recommending this book to a few people. I have learnt a lot!!!

This book is AWESOME!!!

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