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Stop being a servant of the life you're living and become a creator of the world you want. Electrifying lessons in power, influence and persuasion to equalise women in an unequal world.

Why do so many women feel they're too much yet not enough? How can you feel 'good and mad' yet reluctant to speak up in a meeting or difficult conversation? What causes women to freeze at critical moments?

Kasia Urbaniak spent 17 years studying to become a Taoist nun. To foot the bill for her studies, she worked as a high-paid (and extremely successful) dominatrix in dungeons around New York City. What she learned in these two wildly different settings has turned into her life's work.

Unbound brings Urbaniak's unique teachings for women on speaking power, persuading others and navigating conflict to a mainstream audience for the first time. Part polemic, part practical, it opens women's eyes to why they frequently find it so difficult - personally, professionally and socially - to raise their voices, why they freeze in challenging circumstances and what they can do to change this. Too often women find themselves in the role of 'sub' when they need to be more 'dom' - in short they are paralysed by their Good Girl Syndrome and a deep-seated need to please everyone and anyone except themselves. 

Unbound offers precise, practical instruction in how to stand in your power, find your voice and use it well. Part manual, part manifesto, it will help you cut through layers of self-censoring and self-doubt to go after what you truly want, and live your wildest, best and most satisfying life.

©2021 Kasia Urbaniak (P)2021 Penguin Audio

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Useful and eye opening

I found this interesting, eye opening and helpful for understanding power dynamics in conversation. For instance, I never thought about how many uncomfortable questions I am asked that I feel obligated to answer. My significant other who is a man either never gets asked such questions to begin with or automatically deflects them. The book focuses on honing how women communicate so they can more easily get what they really want from others. Only problem is it often is not women’s conditioning or communication skills that are the main obstacle to them getting what they want or having power. Nevertheless this is a useful book.

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Nonsense and good points mixed

There are some good points, but so much unnecessary babbling and repetition. It could be much more concise. There were some useful things, but also much that felt made-up. The book was read with some effect, but it was in my opinion exaggerated at times.

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Amazing

I just finished this book and I will start from the beginning again to truly soak it all in. It is so well written, full of wisdom and practical tools for gaining more power in your life. Every woman should read this book.

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A must read for women everywhere

I think every women should read this.

Though this book is focused on women, men could benefit too in learning how to best communicate with their partners and understanding power dynamics between men and women that are engrained into society.

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Life changing

Honestly this book could be life changing for so many women! Good girl conditioning was so ingrained in me, having experienced the consequences of 'the freeze', this book has given me so many practical tools to speak up in a powerful way.
Definitely not just another one of those self help book.

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Every woman needs to read this

Couldn't get enough of it. I'm going to be telling all my friends about this one.

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learned about myself and Great tools

there were a few aha moments. Breaking the freeze and understanding tools to help me do that. learning different ways to step into power outside myself ie not inward thinking. I now have the book also.

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genuinely change-making and inspiring

excellent coaching material, really convincing. I found myself (an introvert & conflict avoidant) seeking out situations where I could practice assertiveness or asking for what I wanted, based on the altered perspectives gained in this book. she also has a lovely voice.

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Powerful. Refreshing. Release the Bad Girl!

The first audio book I have truly enjoyed.
Plenty of powerful exercises.
I love Kassia's voice. The power, warmth, gentless and play of it. Perfectly bringing to life the qualities she encourages her readers to embody.

If you want to unfreeze in uncomfortable conversations and situations. This is a must.