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Sissy

A Coming-of-Gender Story
Narrated by: Jacob Tobia
Length: 11 hrs and 21 mins
4 out of 5 stars (7 ratings)

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Summary

An Oprah.com and Time.com Best of March Pick

"Sensational." (Tyler Oakley)
"Jacob Tobia is a force." (Good Morning America)
"A necessary voice." (Time)
"Honest, funny, and poignant." (Bustle)
"A valuable dispatch from a new generation of queer activists and artists." (Washington Post)

A heart-wrenching, eye-opening, and giggle-inducing memoir about what it's like to grow up not sure if you're (a) a boy, (b) a girl, (c) something in between, or (d) all of the above. 

From the moment a doctor in Raleigh, North Carolina, put "male" on Jacob Tobia's birth certificate, everything went wrong. Alongside "male" came many other, far less neutral words: words that carried expectations about who Jacob was and who Jacob should be, words like "masculine" and "aggressive" and "cargo shorts" and "SPORTS!" 

Naturally sensitive, playful, creative, and glitter-obsessed, as a child Jacob was given the label "sissy." In the two decades that followed, "sissy" joined forces with "gay", "trans", "nonbinary", and "too-queer-to-function" to become a source of pride and, today, a rallying cry for a much-needed gender revolution. Through revisiting their childhood and calling out the stereotypes that each of us have faced, Jacob invites us to rethink what we know about gender and offers a bold blueprint for a healed world - one free from gender-based trauma and bursting with trans-inclusive feminism.

From Jacob's Methodist childhood and the hallowed halls of Duke University to the portrait-laden parlors of the White House, Sissy takes you on a gender odyssey you won't soon forget. Writing with the fierce honesty, wildly irreverent humor, and wrenching vulnerability that have made them a media sensation, Jacob shatters the long-held notion that people are easily sortable into "men" and "women." Sissy guarantees that you'll never think about gender - both other people's and your own - the same way again.

Named a Most Anticipated Book by HelloGiggles, PopSugar, SheReads, A.V. Club, Pride.com, The Daily Utah Chronicle, Read It Forward, Ms. magazine, and Eligible

©2019 Jacob Tobia (P)2019 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

Sissy bravely moves the needle forward, boldly advocating for a world where people of all genders are treated equally and with dignity. A story of audacity and courage, Sissy is not to be missed.” (Billie Jean King) 

"Across this country young boys are shamed and humiliated for expressing femininity, as well as young girls for expressing masculinity. Jacob bravely seeks to end this culture of shame.” (Monica Lewinsky) 

“Sensational. Gut-punchingly hilarious and full of heart, this is a book that’s sure to change your outlook and how you relate to others. Sissy is guaranteed to make your mascara run from happy and sad tears alike.” (Tyler Oakley) 

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  • Maggiebeth39
  • 19-04-19

Well Done Jacob

Enjoyed every minute of this book and performance. Jacob told us who and how people hurt them in a heartfelt and sometimes funny story. Yet, I could feel Jacob's pain during the reading of this story, the invariable reliving of their story. I just wish Jacob could tell us the 'why'...

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  • Larry
  • 12-04-19

Brilliant

Everyone should read this book - every single person alive. It should be mandatory reading for junior high or high school students.

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  • Clarissa Cerovski
  • 10-04-19

Read it now

This book is an absolute must read for anyone and everyone. Read it now. Periodt

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 30-03-19

Surprised!

Thank you Jacob for writing a ‘real’ story of a person coming to understand their gender with all the bumps along the way. It was easy to listen to , although truth be known I did winch in a few spots due to my own perceived failings. You are to be congratulated for all your accomplishments in the face of discrimination and adversity.
My daughter started living her true gender about 6 years ago. She is fierce, strong, determined, loving, and funny. Her journey started when she told me she was gay at 11years old. She turns 27 yrs old this year. I love her now just as much as I did the day she was born. We’ve (parent/child) shared our own bumps in the road but our love for each other helped us through it. Your book has given me a glimpse into my daughter’s perspective (which she finds hard to share because she never wants me to worry) and will help me to understand her anger that pops up sometimes. It has also helped me to see that I may feel I am being supportive and inclusive to ALL but I can be so much better.
I am not perfect but I want to be perfectly supportive to my daughter, my family, and myself as we continue down this journey together.
I have no idea if you’ll see this review but thank you Jacob for taking the time to write and read your book. All the very best.

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  • Julie Coulter
  • 20-03-19

Groundbreaking

A voice and story that was so badly needed, and is now finally being heard.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 25-03-19

Thanks Jacob

Amazing. Simply amazing. Your words are fuel for my soul and driving my transition. Sorry I may borrow some to come out to my family.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-03-19

Interesting

This was interesting. A new way to think about gender labels. This was very enlightening. A courageous proponent for the equality of all genders.

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  • Charles
  • 26-03-19

fabulous!

I loved it. aresonant, Touching, and Brilliant! Thank you for this well-thought-out, life experience book! Thanks for opening up to yourself and to the readers!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 15-03-19

Grammy Bound!!

This audiobook is mind-blowing. I couldn’t stop listening. Someone nominate Jacob for a Grammy award right now!

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  • Lisa Cartier
  • 30-05-19

Loved it!

Don’t think twice, this book is amazing. My favorite audible book ever. Thank you Jacob.