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Self Matters

Creating Your Life from the Inside Out
Narrated by: Phil McGraw
Length: 5 hrs and 59 mins
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Your life has a root core that, once understood, unlocks a powerful force to create the life you want. Key questions and an amazingly clear "map" are now at your fingertips so you can "live by design".

In this groundbreaking work, Dr. Phil challenges you to find your "authentic self": that person you have always wanted to be, but were too distracted, busy, or scared to become. Instead, you have created a "fictional self", taking on the identity of who you believe you are supposed be. The incongruence between these two selves is what leads you to feel that your life is incomplete, unbalanced, and more difficult than it should be.

In Self Matters, Dr. Phil helps you to demystify your self-concept and learn how to reclaim your authentic self. You can learn to think beyond the excuses and fears that have masked the person you want to be. By facing the cards life has dealt you, you can relearn how to best react to them.

Self Matters is one of the most forward-thinking works on self-concept and self-esteem ever published. We get only one chance in this world. Dr. Phil tells us all how to make the most of it.

©2001 Phillip McGraw, Ph.D. (P)2001 Simon and Schuster Inc.

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ANOTHER WINNER

I know that Dr Phil arrived on the scene and became an overnight sensation and I know that his TV show isn't as good as it could be but don't let that fool you. This man has an absolutely uncanny ability to peel away the nonsense and point you RIGHT AT the facts. This book is phenomenal on so many different levels they don't give me enough space to explain how good it is. Take it from somebody who has read pretty much everything from Tony Robbins and Marianne Williamson to Achaan Chah and Daniel Goleman... this guy knows what he's talking about and he actually cares whether you understand him or not. Do yourself a massive favour.... buy ALL his books and play them in the background when you're at home or in the car without TRYING to "get it." For me it took a full year of owning this audio book and listening to snippets before I actually "got him." Sometimes WE are not ready to move forward... it isn't him.... it's us. When you actually keep playing bits in the background... your subconcious soaks it up and leads you to the day when you SUDDENLY sit bolt upright and go WOW! This guy is one of the best. Invest in you.

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Pretty god, probably prefer to read it...

As I listen to books mostly in the car, this book wasn't ideal for me, as you are supposed to stop and do 'homework' of sorts, which obviously, you can't do in the car, so I gave up. But I do love Dr Phil, and his wisdom and warmth do come through in the book, its just impractical as an audiobook.

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  • Gadgetgurl
  • 04-08-16

Candid and straightforward

Dr Phil is and has always been very straightforward with his audience. Self
Matters does not disappoint. Want to get over that nagging inferiority complex? Got
any traumatic wounds from the past keeping you from being your best? This audio book lays out the steps needed to resolve these problems ,all while treating yourself with dignity and respect. This guy is brilliant and humorous. He includes his own personal
journey to personal fulfillment. I cried on
some parts, howled with laughter on other parts. Give it a listen for yourself.

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  • Kim
  • 19-12-11

Awesome!

What did you love best about Self Matters?

This book was not only inspirational but imformative and insightful. I learned a lot from listening to this book!

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What insight do you think you’ll apply from Self Matters?

Correcting my inner dialogue and my label that was made by other people when I was younger.

Any additional comments?

Love this book!! i learned a lot from this book. I reached back into my past and realized that there was a lot that has shaped me into who I am today.

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  • kbear23
  • 05-11-18

Dr. Phil is Great!

What a great self-help book that helps you to unlock hidden barriers that have been repressed in your mind! Dr. Phil guides you through each layer and helps you find your true self and release the hurt and pain that has been locked in your mind your whole life! He is a genius! A must purchase if you need help finding the real you! He helped me!

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  • Kirk Lavigne
  • 09-04-16

Overall Realistic

Absolutely addresses key factors for life resolutions through clear knowledge and practical steps to get the life you need and want.

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  • Jolie
  • 04-01-20

Victims Unite! This is your book

While I listened to his interview with Oprah on Super Soul Sunday, I was intrigued, not by the message, but by the man who is single-handedly creating a wave of nauseous schizophrenic victims who think everyone is out to get them. If she's after your husband, you better find a way to...fill in the blank. If he's cheating on you. If, if, if. All of the signs are there, Everyone and I mean EVERYONE is your enemy. I listened to as much as I could bear, and have to turn it off. The negativity this book is shedding on a consumer society who deems it necessary to compare themselves to Instagram and must look Fabletic is overwhelming. The message I get is that no matter who you are, everyone will take advantage of you. No matter what you do, your husband will cheat on you. No matter how many friends you think you have, you don't. And then I listened to some of these stories on the Oprah Show and thought, Wow. Why would you put yourself through the pain and suffering you do and then blame it on someone else? Why would you go through life blaming other people for your bad decisions in the first place? So. instead, I turned to something that made sense. TD Jakes. Dr Phil is talking to the victims. They are quintessential victims, who love to blame, shame, and judge. So, yeah, this book isn't for me. I'm not a victim.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 23-12-19

Good Work Mr. Phil

Changed my life. Hard work. But it was worth it. I'm happy now.

This book is not for the faint of heart but if you're sad and want to be permanently happy for the rest of your life, buy this book, do the steps, and in 3 weeks you'll find happiness. That's right it doesn't take a whole lifetime to find happiness. You can do it in less than a month.

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  • Mitzie
  • 14-05-18

Awesome Book

Awesome Book very clear and straight to the point , not alot of clinical terms more of understanding.

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  • Kelly
  • 15-06-16

Dr. Phil Nails it With This One!

This book will do so much to help you see that the Self Matters! Amazing in context and presentation! There is a reason this man is a NYT best selling author!
I used this book and the companion workbook to change my perspective on how I was living and wanted to live my life!
But folks, you have to listen, be willing to think and try new ideas! You have to be honest with yourself and give Dr. Phil's wisdom a chance!
The worst that can happen, you don't change. But the thing that actually will happen is you build an understanding of your self and the confidence you need to know that you matter!