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Compelling new stories from the psychoanalyst's consulting room; on desire, heartbreak and learning how to love.

When it comes to love why do we find things so difficult? Drawing on over forty years of candid and surprising conversations with his patients, Stephen Grosz asks, what gets in the way of our falling in love? And what must we do to stay there?

In the intimate space of the consulting room, we meet the woman who can’t post her wedding invitations but then, decades later, can’t decide whether to get divorced; the friendship group that explodes when an adulterous affair begins; and the man whose partner’s death is almost too much to bear.

As an analyst, Grosz’s unerring ability is to locate what ails the heartsick. As a writer, he elegantly shows how we can deploy the agonies of love as tools for understanding.

The labour of love is the work of a lifetime but in finally learning to see ourselves and our world clearly, we find we are truly ready to love one another.

Illuminating, beautiful . . . This is a special book, full of little epiphanies’ Natasha Lunn, author of Conversations on Love

'This is a beautiful book' Nigella Lawson

'You will be better at love after you read this book’ Andrew Solomon, author of The Noonday Demon

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Critic reviews

‘An exceptional writer and psychoanalyst … the poet laureate of human emotion’
'A profound meditation on love and healing. Powerful and important. Essential reading'
‘Love really is a labour: that's something they don't tell you in the fairy stories or the reality shows. But Stephen Grosz knows a lot about the pain and joy of human relationships and in this book he generously shares his wisdom with the rest of us’
'Full of moments of revelation that stay with you forever ... It would not be humanly possible for me to recommend his work more highly'
‘Reading Stephen Grosz is a deep sort of pleasure, and this book's movingly told true stories left me feeling wiser and more open to life’
‘This is a special book, full of little epiphanies. Grosz combines illuminating stories from therapy with such beautiful writing that you forget these people are his patients and not fictional characters. He reminds us how complex love is, how much it requires of us, and how many times we can misunderstand each other – and ourselves – in the process. It's a love story about the relationship between lovers, between a therapist and patient, and between us all, if we are brave enough to attempt it’
‘Grosz’s transfixing stories will increase your openness to and aptitude for the greatest of all emotions: you will be better at love after you read this book
'Stephen Grosz is a beautiful writer, a clear, compelling thinker, an observant, wise, and deeply empathetic human being'
'Full of thought prompts and ideas that resonate long after you finish the book ... It’s a strange, thoughtful, deeply compelling book'
'This is a beautiful book'
All stars
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Stephen’s style of story telling about his work is gentle but impactful. It’s a must read for anyone interested in expanding their lives into love

Genius and a must read

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Carefully set out stories with great attention to detail and poise from the position of a psychoanalyst but really applies to all human behavior, vulnerabilities and relationships. Engaging and very moving at times.

Philosophical and human

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I loved the stories and the insight and the poetic, elegiac style. I have been waiting for this book since reading “The Examined Life”

Wise, moving and wonderful.

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I simply loved the book
It felt like a deeper and more mature exploration of The Examined life

The author’s reading his own thoughts and of course his thoughts! and his understanding of human nature and relationships

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His last book was a fascinating view of the world of psychoanalysis for the lay person. This follow up was far too in depth, often depressing and enhanced by the writers heavy and stoic voice. It probably should not have been read by Grosz.

Disappointing

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