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Summary

As a mother, are you comfortable in your skin? Want to know how best to be a working or stay-at-home mum? Babies have very simple needs, yet many parents are overwhelmed with elaborate advice on how to meet them. In How Not to F*** Them Up leading child psychologist Oliver James argues that your under-threes do not need training; it's getting your head straight as a parent that's important. Drawing on extensive interviews and the latest clinical research, James identifies three basic types of mum: the Hugger, the Organiser, and the Fleximum. Outlining the benefits and pitfalls of each, How Not to F*** Them Up shows you how to recognise which style suits you best and outlines simple strategies to reconcile personal ambitions with the needs of your family.

Empowering and provocative, Oliver James will help you make the best choices for bringing up a happy, confident child.

©2012 James Oliver (P)2012 Random House AudioGo

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Excellent beginners guide to parenting

What did you like most about How Not to F*** Them Up?

The advice and case examples.

What other book might you compare How Not to F*** Them Up to, and why?

It's the first parenting book I have listened to.

Have you listened to any of Paul Blake’s other performances? How does this one compare?

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Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

It was wonderful to hear that postnatal depression is not genetic.

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The messages the author wants to give across are repeated as themes throughout the book. This book has influenced my plans for parenting and child care options.

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Not bad but very bloated

Basically, good is good enough, comprise is OK and there's no "right" answer. Just do what's right for you and your circumstance

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