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By: Sarah Vine
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‘You think you’ve married a journalist, then, horrors, he becomes a politician.'

How Not to Be a Political Wife is an unflinching account of life at the heart of politics, and what it's like to have politics rip the heart out of your life. It’s a story of high hopes and dirty tricks, broken friendships and divided loyalties, laughter and glamour.

Recollections, as a great woman once said, may of course vary, but this is my story, the way I remember it, written with no fear, no favour – and no fucks left to give.

Buckle up.

I thought long and hard about writing this memoir. I’ve done so not to settle old scores or plead my case, but more because I hope it’s a tale worth telling, not just for those who are interested in the political events of the past few years, but also because it’s about the people and characters behind those events, and why things ended up the way they did.

For nearly 20 years I was inside the rooms of government, a sanctioned eavesdropper on the rise – and fall – of the Cameroon style of Conservatism. At the same time I was building a career in journalism, raising two children and doing my best to support my own husband, Michael Gove, on his political journey. I was both an insider and an outsider; an observer – via my journalism – as well as a participant in the cut and thrust (mainly cut, if I’m honest) of frontline politics.

After my divorce from Michael and the demise of the Conservatives’ Old Guard, that all came to an end. I’m no longer officially a Westminster WAG, but you won’t find me mourning. Politics trampled my health, my happiness, my marriage, my sanity; it placed intolerable pressure on my loved ones, especially my children; it twisted my sense of self, and others’ sense of me; it tainted everything I did or said. I can’t say I miss it. I do, however, miss the life and the relationships I had before it all. These are the recollections of a survivor, but they are also a love letter to all that was lost in the wreck.

'Sarah Vine is the Bridget Jones of politics.' Plum Sykes

'Everyone in Westminster is talking about it.' The London Standard

'I take it all back; she's fabulous. Nobody in Westminster can afford not to buy this book.' Rachel Johnson

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Critic reviews

‘Witty, wry and incredibly touching – a unique insight into the personalities behind the politics.’ Santa Montefiore
‘Moving and heartfelt – what a journey. I’m amazed she’s still standing.’ Imogen Edwards-Jones
'I take it all back; she's fabulous. Nobody in Westminster can afford not to buy this book.' Rachel Johnson
'Sarah Vine is the Bridget Jones of politics.' Plum Sykes
'Everyone in Westminster is talking about it.' The London Standard
‘We come for the political gossip and stay for the kabuki-style prose.’ The Guardian
‘An excoriatingly raw account.’ The Telegraph
'Brutally frank.' The Times
'Raw, unfiltered, painfully honest…the political memoir Westminster is dreading.' Daily Mail
‘Compulsive… every page delivering some mini-revelation’ The Observer
‘Exceptionally clever. An excellent writer. Insanely fast. And very very brave. In the tumultuous last 18 months Sarah Vine has become the beating heart of The Mail – the columnist readers turn to first to make sense of it all – and now, for the fourth time in five years, Tabloid Columnist of the Year, the only writer ever to win it so many times. What she provides is a masterclass in writing tabloid columns.’ The Press Awards 2024, Tabloid Columnist of the Year Award
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This is a raw, anguished. honest and disturbing book.

I feel very sorry for Sarah Vine desperately juggling her own considerable career, babies and children, her own ill health and Michael Gove, her her colossus of a husband. A good piece of advice to Sarah might be, don't marry a politician if you want to preserve your marriage.

The political milieu comes over as toxic and over-fuelled by gigantic egos and endless drinks. The Camerons, despite their selfless devotion to their disabled child until his death, are particularly treacherous and self-saving. Her own family background and what made her what she is, is extremely interesting.

Sarah is superbly articulate and doesn't hold back. She reads as though she is telling you the whole sorry story which is compelling but frequently makes it difficult to hear as her pace is too fast and words are almost lost (Hence the 4 for performance).

Rare insights!

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I like that this was clearly written as a personal take on the political situation leading up to leaving the eu. Perhaps gives some insight into the chaos and lack of planning that has led to what to me seems a sorry state of affairs. It’s a shame that given how it happened that we can’t try to put it right.

It always helps to see the human side of people and this book does give this.

Interesting view of the political world

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I liked how Sarah Vine told her story warts and all.
What she had to endure was heartbreaking especially when her children were targeted. But hopefully her life will go from strength to strength.

A strong woman

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Sarah tells the tale of a fairly normal woman married to a politician. The story is a comfortable recollection of a relationship and family life but a very disturbing recollection of politics. what that world demands/does to people and all those that surrounds them. Highly recommend.

Behind clothes, doors in politics

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This book felt honest and true to Sarah's experiences and conclusions about her life 'in politics'. The listener becomes absorbed in the realities, hurts as well as highs, of her life. The background of her earlier life seemed to predict the outcomes she lived through later on but, basically, I would say Sarah triumphed and honoured herself her family, and her friends by her behaviour and values. More than can be said for those who worked to undo her and Michael, by their discreditable machinations.

Truthful and fascinating

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