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Fawning

Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves – and How to Find our Way Back

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By: Ingrid Clayton
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Fawning is the vital, newly-discovered topic in psychology. You've heard of fight, flight and freeze - but fawning might be the most common trauma response of all. Learn how to work through it and find freedom with the leading expert, Dr. Ingrid Clayton.

Do you avoid conflict?
Do you tend to take the blame?
Do you take care of others at the expense of yourself?
Do you live in a state of hypervigilance?

Fawning can present as being more of who someone is: smart, generous, successful, funny, or beautiful, while for others it's about being less: vocal, ethnic, creative, self-assured or boundaried. Fawning can be visible or invisible; it can manifest in our relationships to sex or money, or in the tendency to 'people-please'; but one thing remains constant: it is about finding safety in an unsafe world, often at our own expense.

Fawning expert and clinical psychologist Dr. Ingrid Clayton is here to bring clarity and support. The first book by a practitioner with years of experience, Fawning will shine a light on this under-represented but crucial piece of the trauma puzzle. Drawing on twenty years of clinical psychology work, as well as a lifetime of insight as a recovering fawner herself, this groundbreaking book brings this emerging concept into the mainstream conversation. Readers will learn WHY we fawn, HOW to recognize the signs of fawning and WHAT we can do to successfully 'unfawn', using Clayton's invaluable tools and resources to find meaningful, reciprocal connections - and finally be ourselves. Conflict Resolution Mental Health Personal Development Personal Success Post-Traumatic Stress Disorders Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Funny
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I saw myself in so many of the behaviours described in this book. it was really eye opening.

hopefully life changing

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I found listening to the book incredibly moving and emotionally healing on many levels.

complex post traumatic trauma the many layers

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This book has catapulted my self-awareness into a new realm. I am so, so, grateful for Ingrid and the path she has opened here. This book perfectly describes a lesser known trauma response and facilitates a new level of self understanding and compassion. I firmly believe this book with become hugely significant for many people. This book deserves the same recognition as Mel Robbins 'Let them', and I'm sure in time, this book will inevitably gain huge traction. I can't overestimate the value of this book for me personally - suddenly, everything makes sense, and now I am trying to assimilate the words on the page into the real world of my messy life.

Thank you so much Ingrid.

Perhaps the most important book of my life.

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Dr Ingrid has brought a whole new outlook to this trauma response. Her own approach to the understanding comes from her personal life experiences which I feel is the most intrinsic aspect to her book. Ingrid knows, has been there and with great empathy she is able to subtly navigate a way we can see how Fawning shaped who we show up to be today. How we can Unfawn with kindness, bravery and create a new future without the old emotions, behaviours and coping stragies that were created in our early years. It was in our relationships we had with people who held power and situations over us where my Fawning began. I feel this is such an important book which will definitely provide wisdom for those of us could do with some right now. Thank you Ingrid x

I am looking forward to meeting the person who I was supposed to be❤️🩷🧡

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I enjoyed listening to this book for demonstrating what fawning can look like, its function and the process of recovery.

An open discussion around fawning.

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