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Summary

For every woman that has ever felt trapped; a funny, raw, and empowering mid-life-crisis.

Creator, mother, lover, and social media phenomenon Tova Leigh explores what the hell you are supposed to do when you find yourself living a life you don't remember signing up for.

I was bored, angry, tired, and sad. I felt all alone yet I had nothing to complain about. I had a good job, a husband who wasn't shagging his assistant, three children who apart from being the occasional a**holes were pretty good kids; a house, a dog, and everything else we are told as little girls we should aspire to. But inside, I was growing restless. I didn't want to be looked at as just a "mom". I wanted to be desired, to make someone's hair stand on end and go crazy for me. I didn't want to live by some label that didn't represent me. I looked at my messy minivan one morning and I wanted to vomit on it all. I panicked, thinking about how I am slowly approaching middle age and menopause, and I wondered how many years do I have left of being "f--ckable" before everything starts going downhill?

In her first book, Tova takes the listener on her journey of rediscovering who she is after motherhood and beyond the norms society forces upon women, whilst encouraging them to break free and just be themselves.

When you find authenticity it's hard to go back. It's like opening a door to the truth and starting to breathe a new type of air. This discovery is what prompted me to write. It's my way of saying HERE I AM.

©2020 Tova Leigh (P)2020 Watkins Publishing

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A resounding YES!

Just what I needed to hear! A breath of fresh air! Tova has spoken to my heart and in a way given me the permission (not that she would say I needed it) to be who I truly am, no labels, just me. Thank you.

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brilliant

loved it! made me laugh but also made me feel so normal.

thank you Tova can't wait for your next book.

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If you read or listen to it, try not to judge

If you like to read a broad spectrum of opinion on life, philosophy and psychology, you will enjoy this book. If you focus on the story, appreciating that people and their relationships are diverse, then there are take-aways and insights for most. This is an often funny, sometimes sad but relatable story about a woman and her family with all the challenges, victories, happy and tragic times she and they have encountered on their journey, laid bare. Tova appears sincere and honest in her narrative and presents her life dilemmas in simple terms. I enjoyed the read.

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Some stuff you just need to hear!

This is a great listen. I love Tova's work, I think everyone can take something away from this book, over 40 or not.

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relatable and empowering

I feel I had a voice when I listened to this book, so many times I gave had the same thoughts and revelations. this is a very relatable book for anyone who is in a long term relationship or married with kids, its open and offers an empowering view on life.

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Tova great sense of humour on life

Tova's reading of her book made it so easy to listen too.
Giving her point of view on life. Funny, true full and eye opening.
Wonderful way on how to see life.
I did have a problem with my down load of the book.

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Amazing. Must read ❤️

Brilliant book, perfectly read by Tova and I have already recommended to friends and family!

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Thank you!

Enjoyed every minute of this book, made me laugh and cry,cringe and think about life in such a different way. Cannot wait to listen again!

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F_ _ked @ 40

Really enjoyed listening to Tova narrating her book, so witty, matter of fact, balshy, brutally honest and liberating. Roll on your 2nd release.

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This book was even better than I thought it would be!

Tova reads her story brilliantly. I really enjoyed this book and would recommend for anyone who is having a form of a crisis (mom, midlife, thirties)

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  • 09-10-20

awesome

She puts into words what many women feel but don't know how to say. I loved it!

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  • 12-06-21

Great Listen

Loved it. Great story telling, very entertaining. She did a great job reading it so as to keep you wanting to listen on.

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  • 18-04-21

Great Read

I have never related to something so much in my entire life. Very good read!

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  • Amanda l hale
  • 18-04-21

Disappointed

This book I expected hilarity. What I felt was depressed for the author. What a sad life! She needs to figure out her daddy issues I think.

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  • 07-10-20

Love hw woman are getting to this fuckit lifestyle

I loved this book....I love how woman are able to be more than just a mom.....we are more

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  • April Conklin
  • 27-09-20

Great Story

very good book full of such raw realness really wanted more. Only note is was a bit repetitive

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  • Russie82
  • 05-09-20

Had it all!!

I laughed ,I cried, I related!! To sum it up I loved it !!! This book has it all for mothers who feel like they are invisible:) can’t wait for book two!!

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  • 27-08-20

Captivating

Honest loved every word. Thank you for putting into words how is moms really feel. You are amazing.

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  • Mommy&FarmWife
  • 26-08-20

Relatable, even to a 27 year old.

I don't even remember how I found this book but I am incredibly grateful I did. As a young mother and wife this book spoke to all of the things I am feeling and experiencing and gave me a glimpse at even what might be to come. I cried tears of laughter and have already told all of my friends to read it. it has been a while since I did a quick 24 hour read and this was well worth the pick. Thanks Tova for putting words into paper (and audible!) for all of us to relate and give us the courage to do more.

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  • 21-08-20

SO relatable 😉

She wrote everything I was trying to figure out how to voice after my divorce!