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Summary

Break free from over-functioning, over-delivering, people-pleasing, and ignoring your own needs, so you can finally live the life you deserve!

Most of us were never taught how to effectively express our preferences, desires, or deal-breakers. Instead, we hide our feelings behind passive-aggressive behavior, deny our own truths, or push our emotions down until we get depressed or so frustrated that we explode, potentially destroying hard-won trust and relationships.

The most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. This ability is, hands down, the biggest game changer when it comes to creating a healthy, happy, self-determined life.

In Boundary Boss, psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life.

Since becoming a boundary boss is a process, Cole also offers actionable strategies, scripts, and techniques that can be used in the moment, whenever you need them. You will learn: 

  • How to recognize when your boundaries have been violated and what to do next
  • How your unique “Boundary Blueprint” is unconsciously driving your boundary behaviors, and strategies to redesign it
  • Powerful boundary scripts so in the moment you will know what to say
  • How to manage “Boundary Destroyers” - including emotional manipulators, narcissists, and other toxic personalities
  • Where you fall on the spectrum of codependency and how to create healthy, balanced relationships

This book is for women who are exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling. If you’re getting it all done but at the expense of yourself, give yourself the gift of Boundary Boss.

©2021 Terri Cole (P)2021 Sounds True

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“This powerful book is a clear path to deep healing work. If you’re ready for true emotional freedom, let Boundary Boss show you the way. And thank you, Terri Cole! Your brilliant (and often hilarious!) guidance is a blessing to us all.” (Kris Carr, New York Times best-selling author)

“Terri Cole’s advice is game-changing! After having her on my Off the Gram podcast, I went home and broke up with a toxic friend, then wrote about it in my own book! Terri is the ultimate boundary boss and communication queen and in this powerful book, she shows us how to become the same. The world needs this book right now!” (Meaghan B Murphy, content chief for Woman’s Day magazine, author of Your Fully Charged Life)

“With Boundary Boss, Terri Cole, powerhouse healer and transformational therapist, serves up the psychologically savvy medicine that you need to step out of destructive habits, stop people-pleasing, and set your soul free.” (Gabrielle Bernstein, number-one New York Times best-selling author of The Universe Has Your Back)

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Excellent step-by-step guide on boundary setting!

This audiobook is wonderful. I liked the balance between the information, the stories and the many exercises and tools to get better at boundary setting in all areas of life. I think anyone would find the content helpful, although it’s written directly for women. I was afraid the tone may be cheese (as some self-help can be) but I was happy to find out it’s rather witty and I felt validated and seen. The soothing author’s voice was a plus!

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Required reading for all!

Wish I'd had this sooner. It is the foundation for life. So simple and yet life changing. Thank you Terri.

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love it, love it, love it!

Have been waiting for months for this book. This book is about self-love as well.

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  • Luxor
  • 05-05-21

Buy the hard cover book

There are a lot of exercises that you need to stop and write down. You need a journal a pen a to get your he most out of this book. It’s good information and helpful. Just bad format for this information

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 29-04-21

Oh, ya! So worth it!

This is an amazing and very helpful book. First, I love that it is like a conversation. Second, the constant is great. I didn’t learn this stuff growing up and so it is great to learn now. I highly recommend this book!!

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  • CottonKandy
  • 28-05-21

A lifelong, life changing manual.

I had been waiting with much anticipation for this book to drop.
I come from all kinds of dysfunction, and have had immense pain, caused directly from not having boundaries, and loving myself enough to know I deserve to be happy, and not put myself in situations I want to not be a part of, for fear of being labeled all the things strong women, who know their worth tend to be called. It’s been a long road, but this book resonates so much, I listen to it daily. For anyone in recovery and needing affirmation that self care isn’t selfish, but mandatory.

Also, Terri’s voice is very calming, credible and soothing! Worth every cent!!!!!!

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  • Beth Stevens
  • 27-04-21

Fabulous book, life changing

Terri Cole has built on her brilliant podcast skills and produced a book which is beautifully organized and presents life changing strategies in easily-accessible ways. Even those of us who have some decent boundary skills benefit tremendously from this book. I certainly have! And those of us who haven’t thought about how problems in our lives stem from lacking boundary-setting skills need it now! Because of this book, I am well in my way to being a BB. Thank you, Terri!!

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  • JB
  • 31-05-21

WOW!! Not the same old-same old!

Great info! Extremely helpful, easy to read, I learned a lot! Super helpful for this former people pleaser!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 26-05-21

Best Boundary Book Ever

I have read and reread this book and I am looking forward to doing the bonus material at the end, too. So grateful that Terri had the grace and guts to say what needed to be said, even in circumstances where it may be hard to hear, and always with humor and directness to make sure that it resonates AND sticks.

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  • LB
  • 20-05-21

Most important book I ever read !

If you are a people pleaser, if you have trouble saying your mind and expressing yourself, if you have anxiety before confrontation or if you simply have an annoying co-worker who makes inappropriate remarks to you about your appearance, this book is for you !

This book has changed so many aspects in my life already, including the relationship with myself, with others and my overall mental and physical health.

Time to listen to it again !

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  • Anonymous User
  • 12-05-21

Amazing! So true so true

She perfectly described me! A high functioning co-dependent. Now I can better navigate my messy life from here. Thank you Terri!!

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  • Caroline Fernandes
  • 08-06-21

Highly recommend!

I wish I had read this book 30 years ago. I could have avoided a great deal of unnecessary pain and disappointment.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 07-06-21

Boundary Bible

I have read hundreds of self help books and never written a review before now. Everyone needs to read and practice these golden principles. It should be taught in school and if not, at the very least, in college. Even those who have good boundaries will greatly benefit from this material. For those with weak boundaries it is absolutely essential for a healthier and happier life, lived with integrity. I wish I had this many years ago. As a mental health counselor, I will recommend this book to my clients (and possibly require it at times). It not only explains but it also guides you in HOW to live in alignment with your own values and create more peace in the world, beginning with you.