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Summary

A wise and inspiring guide to creating a happy and healthy blended family by Mashonda Tifrere with contributions from her co-parents - Swizz Beatz and his wife, Grammy-Award winning singer and songwriter Alicia Keys.

In January 2010, founder of ArtLeadHer Mashonda Tifrere and music producer Swizz Beatz finalized their divorce. When Swizz married award-winning singer/songwriter Alicia Keys, a new dynamic was born - three adults who loved and were deeply committed to raising Mashonda and Swizz's four-year old son Kasseem. In Blend, Tifrere draws on the insights they gained from their journey as well as advice from family therapists, parenting experts, and other blending families, to provide an invaluable resource for blended families. 

Statistics show that one in three Americans is now a step-parent, stepchild, step-sibling or other member of a blended family. The number of first time marriages or romantic relationships that end in divorce or breakups and the high percentage of remarriages and new relationships that involve children demand a unique, life-affirming approach to processing the end of one relationship and the rebirth of a new familial dynamic with the well-being of children at its center. In this book, Tifrere shares intimate details on how she and her co-parents used communication, patience and love to create an environment where they were able to work as a team and all the children involved could thrive. 

Blend will inspire a generation of families.

©2018 Mashonda Tifrere (P)2018 Penguin Audio

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"Transformative! A paradigm-shifter for these families who are experiencing divorce or separation, this book shows parents how to reset their egos and enter their hearts. Blend reassures us: there is a way to reconfigure our families post-divorce in a way that is positive and life-affirming." (Dr. Shefali Tsabary, PhD, New York Times best-selling author of The Conscious Parent and The Awakened Family)

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useful.

The narrator spoke very softly and calmly. a different view to co-parenting. A Godly approach.

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Amazing book

This book tackled a hard hitting matter with love and humanity. Very relatable. Good read

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Amazing book

More than a self-help or parenting book it's such a beautiful story. I highly recommend it to anyone whose on a journey to find themselves or just to improve their lives.

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Inspiration with love and light

Opened my eyes to a new way of being; parking egos and concentrating on what really matters: how we treat people.

Having been raised with "step siblings" and now being a bonus mum to a teenager myself, I found these chapters so relatable.

Finishing this book made me take a reality check to my own created environment. Am I doing all I can? What would it be like to allow myself to relax and socialise with someone I'd never thought to before - I didn't realise that was allowed outside of weddings, christenings and funerals!

Now we have a social event in the calendar, our first and no doubt the start of a stronger blended family relationship. Thank you for sharing your love and light.

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  • sydney
  • 10-10-18

This book is a truly a Gift.

I just finished listening to the Blend audio book (completed it in two days), and felt deeply compelled to immediately write a review. I am 7 months pregnant with my first child, confronted with the pending reality of coparenting with my ex. While I wasn't married to my partner, the circumstances of our relationship's end were quite painful, and have felt endlessly triggering. Everyday I find myself working through wounds surrounding abandonment, unworthiness, and not-enoughness.

Learning from Mashonda's experience how these truamas could adversely affect my daughter, made it clear that I must tend to them with delicate patience + persistence. Though challenging work, the peace, love, and authenticity Mashonda exudes let's me know it is well worth it.

After one listen, I know Blend will be my blueprint for cultivating a harmonious family dynamic, predicated on a commitment to self-work + self-care. I'll be investing in a hardcopy so I can highlight, underline, and annotate its many gems.

If you're reading, Mashonda: Thank you for your bravery, candor, and for answering the call to write this book. Blend is truly a gift to the world, and it will heal fractured families today, for the continued benefit of generations to come.

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  • Maggie
  • 13-11-18

Breathtaking

This book got me into all kind of emotions and I couldn’t stop listening once I started.
Tears fell out my eye as I related to my own life as a child and as a mother of two beautiful girls that are blended family potential.
Thank you Mashonda for being vulnerable and sharing your truth with us.
With this life manual, I pray that I create a loving family for children and everyone involved.
This should be read by everyone because it covers multitude of lessons.
God bless you and your family.

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  • Courteney McMillan
  • 14-03-21

Just what I needed..

I absolutely love this book! I’m a newly married bonus Mom and attempting to blend my family has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to encounter. I absolutely hate division and I just feel so alone in this. This book reassured me that I was on the right track.

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  • Lara Wohlgemuth
  • 14-02-21

Enlightening and hopeful

I now have more hope that my family can successfully blend eventually. I also feel validated that it cannot be forced and boundaries are important. Thank you for setting a good example for all of us.

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  • t s.
  • 03-11-20

Close to my heart and forever cherished...

I loved this book, a lot. Mashonda has such a soothing and sweet voice, it’s so easy to listen to!
I listened to some parts a few times and would pause to think of my own family and how I can move in a direction lead by only love, with the intention of designing a joyful family unit. There was so much good information in this book, lots of moments I felt called out (in the best way), and I was moved by how beautifully so many families have blended by simply releasing control and moving as a unit. This is a must read for families who must contemplate a new family design, bio and bonus parents alike!

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  • Esperanza Baca
  • 27-10-20

Simply wonderful

Very inspiring work, I look up to them for the work they put into building a healthy environment and writing this book to share their wisdom and experiences, I really hope I can blend my family one day, the change starts with my and my healing, will try to reach out to my partner and co-parents to make this happen, I pray for us and for all of the families out there ❤️

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  • Vanessa
  • 07-07-20

Great

Loved it and the narrator was a great story teller and I felt like I was part of the story.

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  • Willis Household
  • 02-07-20

Living Word/k Testament to Families Living Love

This (audio)book is a gift!
The words + work shared by author and supporting players is Required Reading for blended families of all stripes (not exclusive to Divorce). I enjoyed and appreciated this on so many levels - spiritually, emotionally, existentially. Hit the marks! Will be sharing text copy and audio version with our blend.
Thank you!

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  • Rashidah Habeebullah
  • 21-05-20

Insightful, Honest, Beautiful.

I loved every minute of this book. Candid lessons, tips, and inspiration for all family dynamics. Even outside of blending.

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  • Nevija
  • 18-01-20

Excellent Read

Great book and story, I wish I had this book when starting my own coparenting journey. This is a great book and gives real life examples to help validate experiences and help guide coparenting perspectives towards fairness for the kids.

Also great takeaways and tips on co-parenting schedules and practices.