At forty-four, Danielle Hanse became a widow and a single mother to two teenagers when her husband, Benson, died unexpectedly. The future they had spent years building disappeared overnight, leaving Danielle to navigate a life she never imagined.

Two years later, grief is still present in an empty side of the bed, family milestones Benson will never witness, familiar songs, and the simple question, “Are you okay?”

In *Nothing Is Fair in Love and Grief*, Danielle offers a raw, honest, and often darkly funny look at what life after loss really feels like. She explores the parts of grief people rarely discuss: jealousy, exhaustion, loneliness, parenting alone, fear of the future, and the challenge of rediscovering who you are after decades of being a wife and mother.

Through dating, relationships, parenting, friendship, faith, travel, concerts, tattoos, boundaries, and even adopting three cats, Danielle discovers that moving forward does not mean leaving someone behind. It means learning to carry the love, memories, pain, and unanswered questions while continuing to build a life of your own.

There is no perfect roadmap for grief and no deadline for healing. Sometimes, all you can do is face the next day, make the next decision, find the next laugh, hold onto the next memory and choose to keep going.

For anyone who has experienced profound loss or struggled to find themselves afterward, this deeply personal memoir offers an honest reminder: you are not alone.