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It's Not You

How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People

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From clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr Ramani Durvasula, discover the inspiring guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissism.

REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION

Dealing with a narcissist is hard.

One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help.

Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, It’s Not You will show you how to:

  • Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist
  • Confront toxic cycles
  • Protect your energy
  • Create realistic boundaries
  • Reclaim and embrace your true self


Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal and take back your life.

'A compassionate road map and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships' Jay Shetty, bestselling author of Think Like a Monk and The 8 Rules of Love
‘A must read. Dr Ramani will teach you how to heal from any toxic relationship’ Mel Robbins, bestselling author of The Let Them Theory

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“A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships, helping them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.” - Jay Shetty
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Amazing book to support survivor’s journey in understanding the path of healing within and out of a narcissistic relationship. Explores grief and the possibilities of rewriting our narrative as people in our own right. Well worth being read twice.

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Probably one of the most important books on the market, not just about psychology, but about life...life saving

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Such an amazing work from Dr Ramani. We’re used with the idea that antagonistic people are only found in relationships but unfortunately we get surrounded by them in our daily life. I have been watching Dr Ramani on her youtube channel for months now , so im very familiar with her way of explaining ‘ narcissism’ ,, This masterpiece will help you see the world & people around you differently. I haven’t finished the book yet , just wanted to give a quick review ,, if you haven’t purchased it yet what are you waiting for ??? ,

A must-read !!!!

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I listen to a lot of podcasts and read a lot, particularly on psychology and self help genre. Dr. Ramani is cut above anything I have come across and she is a beacon of humanity. It’s wonderful to see how her expertise and work seem to be acknowledged more and more in the wider sphere. Thank you for all your work - your experience has not been wasted.

Must read for those who have been wronged

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Brilliantly written and informative. I couldn't put it down, This book will save lives!!

Best book on narcissism I've read

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