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It's Not You

How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People

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It's Not You

By: Ramani Durvasula
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INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES AND SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER

From clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr Ramani Durvasula, discover the inspiring guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissism.

REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION

Dealing with a narcissist is hard.

One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help.

Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, It’s Not You will show you how to:

  • Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist
  • Confront toxic cycles
  • Protect your energy
  • Create realistic boundaries
  • Reclaim and embrace your true self


Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal and take back your life.

'A compassionate road map and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships' Jay Shetty, bestselling author of Think Like a Monk and The 8 Rules of Love
‘A must read. Dr Ramani will teach you how to heal from any toxic relationship’ Mel Robbins, bestselling author of The Let Them Theory

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Critic reviews

“A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships, helping them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.” - Jay Shetty

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Amazing book to support survivor’s journey in understanding the path of healing within and out of a narcissistic relationship. Explores grief and the possibilities of rewriting our narrative as people in our own right. Well worth being read twice.

Insight and support

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Probably one of the most important books on the market, not just about psychology, but about life...life saving

Knowledge

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Dr Ramani is THE expert on narcissism! This book is a must for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced narcissistic abuse!

Liberating

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Brilliantly written and informative. I couldn't put it down, This book will save lives!!

Best book on narcissism I've read

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This is an essential read to understand what you’ve been through! I feel like Dr. Ramini has been a fly on the wall during my relationship. Some brilliant healing techniques discussed. I especially like the ‘ick list’ idea!!

I understand. I feel validated.

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