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Want to build stronger relationships and connections or find a more compatible partner? Attached examines the science behind love, resulting in a title that is equal parts fascinating, insightful, and life-changing.

Together, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of science — specifically, attachment theory — can help us find and sustain love. The theory focuses on the importance of the early child-parent bond to a person’s social and emotional development. In Attached, you’ll learn how to apply this theory to improve your romantic relationships.  

Attached offers psychological insights, quizzes and case studies to guide listeners in understanding their own attachment style and the attachment styles of significant others. This audiobook will leave you equipped to build stronger and more fulfilling connections.

Narrated by Robert Petkoff, Attached enables listeners to become fully immersed and emotionally invested in the material. With more than 100 audiobooks to his credit, Petkoff speaks in a clear and well-paced manner that’s also personable and reassuring. 

Summary

An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers listeners a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.

Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking audiobook, Psychiatrist and Neuroscientist Amir Levine and Psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory - the most advanced relationship science in existence today - can help us find and sustain love.

Pioneered by Psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment explains that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

  • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back.
  • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimise closeness.
  • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

With fascinating psychological insight, quizzes and case studies, Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller help you understand the three attachment styles, identify your own and recognize the styles of others so that you can find compatible partners or improve your existing relationship.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. 

©2010 Amir Levine and Rachel Heller (P)2010 Penguin Random House LLC

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"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

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Shallow and imbalanced.

I found out that I have an avoidant attachment ok, I mean the author wil let you know repeatedly! The book is dragging, with this repetitive story of an anxious girl meeting an avoidant guy. I guess that the msg conveyed is that there arent many avoidant attached women out there! Boq ! And did not talk theoretically on how to handle such insecure people or heal oneself in this case.

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Engaging, informative and practical guidance. Recommend reading/listening

I’ve recommended this book to my anxious friends who loved it (the avoidant ones were not keen on taking a look) which is a real shame.

As someone who has fallen in all 3 attachment styles, anxious, avoidant and now secure, I still found it useful. I think one’s partner can influence us in ways we can be unaware. This book and it’s clear concepts shows how to identify unhealthy traps and recommends effective communication principles to work towards a secure relationship.

Ultimately I personally believe we should strive for respectful dialogue - both as the communicator and listener, and that you should treat your partner with love, openness and honesty and expect the same in return. We should all be treated with love, respect & honesty, especially from our life partner.

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Dangerous book

Nice ideas but promote really dangerous narcissistic destructive patterns instead of empathy and personal development

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great book

great book, opened my eyes. i'm an avoidant and anxious person and I really need this. thank you

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better understanding

i now have a better understanding about my needs in my relationship and how to communicate these effectively. thank you to the authors

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Very insightful

Great way of breaking down the science & psychology of how we get attached & practical for moving forward with your current or future romantic relationships. Would recommend to most.

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The book I was looking for!

I think everybody should read this book and I certainly wish I had read it sooner. I'd done a little reading about attachment theory before, but this book really spells it out to you with clear examples. It does a great job of letting you know that there are reasons behind your behaviour and they are not your fault, but shows you ways to change them for the better. It's made me feel more confident about dating and about being in relationships and asking for what I need rather than trying to hide it.

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Mind blowing!

This book is so helpful in many ways. Understanding my attachment style already helped me communicate better with my loved ones. I also feel more tolerant about others. About to re read (or rather listen) again! Great work.

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Excellent book! Compulsory reading!

Very well laid out and concepts explained clearly. I am a massive avoider and this has helped me a great deal in understanding how I can be a much better partner and become my true authentic self.

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Very interesting and informative

I personally thought this book was great. It gives an understanding as to why we act the way we do in dating and relationships shops and provides real world examples that are easy to relate too.

I would recommend this book dating, in a relationship or married :)

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The only book you need to understand relationships

I found the information extremely useful and true to my experiences in love. Realized that a lot of the problems I have run into were because of attachment issues. The advice offered such as about the importance of good communication is straightforward and easy to apply. I have read a lot of books and listened to a lot of shows about love and relationships and so many seem to contradict each other. This book seems to make so much sense and the reading was so great and made it an easy listen.

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Briliant and fascinating!

Loved the narrator and could not stop listening until the end. Understand my own behaviour as well as previous partner's behaviour towards our relationships so much better

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Life changing

Highly recommended if you or your partner struggle with attachment issues. The book combines science based research with practical steps for the layperson. Truly life changing.

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Incredible!!!

If only we learnt this stuff at a school... and if only id got my hands on this sooner! WOW! Don’t hesitate, snag it! ;)