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Learn the manipulator's game, so they can't play it with you. 

Identifying covert emotional manipulation is tricky. You sense something is wrong, but you can't quite put your finger on the problem. This powerful book will reveal to you if manipulation is at play in your relationships. It will open your eyes.

You will learn 30 tactics manipulators use to get what they want. You will also learn to spot the warning signs within yourself that expose covert manipulation is taking place, even if you can't identify the specific tactics being used.

This book is geared toward romantic relationships, including those involving a pathological partner. Even so, many of the manipulation tactics are the same as those used by family members, coworkers, friends and others.

Covert emotional manipulation tactics are underhanded methods of control. Emotional manipulation methodically wears down your self-worth and damages your trust in your own perceptions. It can make you unwittingly compromise your personal boundaries and lose your self-respect and even lead to a warped concept of yourself and of reality. With your defenses weakened or completely disarmed in this manner, you are left even more vulnerable to further manipulation and psychological harm.

Empower yourself and get your life back!

©2014 Adelyn Birch (P)2018 Post Hypnotic Press Inc.

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An Eye opener.

one of the best books I have read or listen to. I just wish I would have listen to the this earlier. I really recommend this to anyone who want to seatle down...and avoid being emotionally manipulated or abused. I am a survivor of the worst narcissist abuser ever met, my ex wife. From Kosovo , from Helsinki Finland.

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Really helpful

Such a helpful book, especially like the human rights list it's something I wish I had had a long time ago and will educate my kids with.

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it was good

I really enjoyed this book I learned alot about how people can manipulate me so I am not armed with defences

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  • 04-11-21

Invaluable

A relief to listen to. Thank you so much. Helps understanding and recovery. Especially the rights at the end.

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informative book

I like the book, it is quite informative and useful and not too long

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More of booklet, but okay if cheap

Quite short, but good information. Could possibly find a lot of this info on youtube. If it is on sale cheap then I'd say it is worth it.

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Excellent

Very helpful. We'll explained on different manipulations. Well worth listening to. I highly recommend listening to this.

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Great book for explaining

Good book for someone new to abuse
Puts things simple to understand.

Must read. Thinking of you all experiencing this terrible situation.

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  • 04-04-18

This book can change your life!

After more than a year of psychotherapy I still didn't know why I felt so insecure with my boyfriend of four years. It seemed like I was sabotaging the relationship, and I couldn't stop no matter how hard I tried. I was having emotional meltdowns I couldn't explain and I felt like I couldn't trust him. My therapist said I had an insecure attachment style but that didn't feel right because I'd never been that way before. I began searching for an answer that made sense and I stumbled upon this book, thank God, because the truth of the matter was revealed: my boyfriend was using just about every manipulation tactic in this book on me. I felt immediate relief and a sense of peace because I learned I wasn't crazy---my emotions were being manipulated. Now I'm free, and I can't thank the author enough! If you're feeling perplexed by the problems in your relationship, get this book. It can change your life.

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  • 14-04-19

it was good

Chapter 2 was the most useful. everything else was all right. it needed more examples.

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  • Krisy
  • 04-09-18

Wish it was longer!

Very direct and to the point. Enlightening! This book really needs to be expanded with more examples of manipulation (such as the detailed list of invalidating statements) along with ways to counteract each manipulation tactic.

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  • keri
  • 08-05-19

very helpful

I got alot of useful information. loved it. I like the way it breaks it down so its easy to reflect and see things in ur relationship.

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  • Lis Carpenter
  • 28-11-18

Very Useful if You Had Controlling Parents Me

I bought this book to see why I kept ending up in one-sided relationships. I had a lot of healing to do which started with Co-Dependent No More and continued to this book where I learned a person who habitually lies is a manipulator. A person who invalidates how you feel when they are constantly saying hurtful things may have a personality disorder and is a manipulator.

Putting you down is never for your good. My dad is this way. So, by default I invalidated my own feelings in relationships. No more. Get rid of the liars in your life, and build your self-care and self-love routines so you can tell them you don't want or need them around.

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  • 14-12-18

Good to know

Knowledge is power. Good explanations for how and why manipulative behavior works and how to know if you are a target. Resources list.

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  • Nancy
  • 02-11-18

interesting

very interesting, gives a short but very informative cue on manipulation, and ways to relate to that behavior...

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 18-08-18

Basic, yet key, tenets to living with people

An excellent self-check and recalibration to evaluating your feelings to the behavior to others. Questions to ask yourself when you are troubled in a relationship. It is all part of the tool box of living with others in relationship.








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  • R. Williams
  • 18-02-21

So engaging...

An excellent source of information for self empowerment! Couples should even hear this together as I believe it will change behaviors and strengthen relationships.

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  • Tish
  • 16-07-20

The best I've listened to!

I listened to this book twice in two days. So much information is packed into just a few short chapters. I've learned about who I am, from tbis book, but what's more is that I knkw why I am tge way I am. I've felt this disconnect from life for so many years and listening to this book (The narrator is excellent and easy to listen to, by the way.) has, unfortunately revealed the horror of my relationship to my husband. It's helped to give me back some of my control and had helped me feel much less lonely.

If you're unhappy in your relationshio and can't punpoint exactly why. If you'reblamed for all the problems in your relationship and feel that none of your concerns are being heard. If you exhaust yourself trying to make your partner happy, but it appears that they never will be, no matter what you do. You need this listen! It could literally save your life!

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