Less than 40 percent of adults in most churches are men, and 20 to 25 percent of married churchgoing women attend without their husbands. And why are the men who do go to church so bored? Why won't they let God change their hearts?
David Murrow's groundbreaking new book reveals why men are the world's largest unreached people group. With eye-opening research and a persuasive grasp on the facts, Murrow explains the problem and offers hope and encouragement to women, pastors, and men. Why Men Hate Going to Church does not call men back to the church - it calls the church back to men.
©2004 David Murrow; (P)2008 christianaudio.com
OK. I start by saying, I lead a church in the UK.
This is a very interesting read/listen. There are a few cultural differences as you would expect between a man living in Alaska and a man living in East Sussex, (Not too much bear hunting goes on in these parts), but this should not get in the way of the overall message.
David Murrow carefully and skillfully handles a broad range of sociological data sets and eloquently explains the conclusions he draws from it all. This is not a book that attacks the church, nor women in church, but it carefully explains what church has become and why it appeals to a predominately female audience. Murrow identifies the real difficulty of achieving a balance of genders across the congregation and offers some frequently uncomfortable solutions.
If you are a church leader, listen to this book and suppress the instinct to be defensive, or perhaps that is just me. If you are normally in the congregation, ask your leader if they have read it and if not gift it to them. :o)
Excellent book with a very good synopsis of why men don't go to church. As a manly man reading this it has given me insight as to why I struggle with church and have done for the past 35 years. David Murrow reveals masculine traits that even we men don't see but can instantly agree with. As he says it's not what men should be its what men are.
Men, read this book then seek out others to follow Jesus with.
Church leaders, read and digest this book. Act upon it and hey presto men will come back to church. Lose the nonsense that the church has become and look to the Bible as a church model.
Women, we are different, I am totally for women in leadership and having important roles but this book does speak truth even though it may be hard to accept. The book has the intention to get men back in church following Jesus. You man, your future husband, your brothers, your dad.
Only downside is it's a bit too American for British readers but worth the read!!
Curious about most things, passionate about God, good and organics.
I found myself nodding to statements regarding issues I hadn't thought of before. I now want other people I know to read/listen to it, urgently
"An honest view of church from a man's perspective"
I really liked this book. While I think it was not as bold nor did it go as far as I think it should have, at least it raised an honest point about how church is custom made for women with small children and kryptonite for men.
If you are a Christian man and wonder why you have a hard time getting amped up for church and how to fix it - this book is a great place to start.
Reader was a bit low key for the material.
"Yes, We Men Need to be Involved"
The author takes off the gloves and delves straight to the point even making me feel a bit uncomfortable at first. That, I found out quickly, was because I had been brought up in Church. Yet I was longing for this information.
David does tackle the subject but he keeps reassuring us readers that his intention is not to create a male-dominated church but to include men and so let the church grow naturally by their inclusion and involvement.
Erik reads very well. Keeps a good balance between not boring and not too expressive.
Perhaps, but once delving into the content I realized it's length was necessary to develop the topic and teach as well as lead me to a full understanding of it. This helped encourage and challenge me so that I wanted to read the whole while creating a list of what needed to be done by me and in the church.
A must read for all Christian men. Women, you really should read this too! My wife enjoyed hearing this and saw quickly the ways that the Church has left men out.
As someone who grew up going to church and would be considered faithful and active in the church, this book was an eye opener. When the author first mentioned that the church is feminine I was a bit defensive, but as soon as he started to describe why I was totally shocked that I didn't see it sooner. (Women are more relational and inviting, while men are more risk-takers and competitive. Which of those descriptions sounds more like the church?)
The book doesn't blame anyone (neither women, men, or clergy) for the current state of the church ... it simply states the way things are. It also gives suggestions on how to make church more man friendly. It also doesn't try to push women out of the church or roles of responsibility but to balance things more. It doesn't attempt to change the message of the gospel, but suggests to change how it's presented. (Why would a man want to have "intimate fellowship" with another man (Jesus)?)
"men need this"
loved this can't wait to read the updated version I can't wait to share this with our men's Bible study
"Worth every penny."
A serious, thoughtful, well written and well considered book on the problems the church faces with men. Highly recommend.
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