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  • Please Yourself

  • How to Stop People-Pleasing and Transform the Way You Live
  • By: Emma Reed Turrell
  • Narrated by: Emma Reed Turrell
  • Length: 6 hrs and 53 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (493 ratings)

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Summary

We are all people-pleasers in one way or another – even those who deny it.

Whether at work, home or in our relationships, we all know how it feels to want people to like us. The problem comes when we give up our own needs along the way.

In this life-changing book, psychotherapist Emma Reed Turrell explains the different ‘types’ of people-pleaser and provides practical, reassuring advice on how to better understand – and stop – people-pleasing behaviour when it starts to affect your own needs.

Please Yourself will help you care for others in the right way – and ultimately, help you take better care of yourself.

©2021 Emma Reed Turrell (P)2021 HarperCollins Publishers Limited
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"Utterly brilliant. Emma Reed-Turrell is a wonderful writer, a compassionate guide and the therapist we all long for. Every page of Please Yourself contains a truth bomb; every sentence a golden nugget of wisdom. If you're a people-pleaser (and you probably are) this book will change your life. My only regret is that it didn't exist earlier as it would have saved me - and everyone else a whole lot of bother." (Elizabeth Day, author of How to Fail)

"Realistic, non-judgemental and genuinely helpful: your one way ticket to growing a backbone. It took me decades to learn why I people pleased and how to stop. Thanks to Emma Reed Turrell, you don’t need to wait that long." (Sam Baker, author of The Shift)

"As a recovering people-pleaser who often falls back into its tempting trap, I absolutely loved this book. Informative, entertaining and empowering." (Emma Gannon, author of Olive)

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Tapped into my inner people pleaser

Thoroughly worth the listen. This book has given me the basics and I can now go forth and start the journey of pleasing myself

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Everyone should read this

Great book, extremely well written! If everyone read this the world would be a better place!

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I loved this book!!!

Everything made sense and has been well put together. This book has made me reflect on my personal and professional life.. I have notice a change in me and what I take on.. the book came at the right time in my life. Thank you

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It’s a great straight talking insightful book/audio

As a coach I teach this stuff everyday. It’s what is essentially at the heart of most standard mental health issues and create the common symptoms most people suffer who aren’t in the best mindset themselves. I often find that I’d like a resource I can give clients to take away, to prompt them and remind them that they are not their thoughts. This is going to be very useful.

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Wow

So incredibly eye opening, a difficult and emotional read but one well worth while. Absolutely worth the purchase if you think you’re a people pleaser

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Fantastic for self growth

Really recommend reading, it’s a vital book in my journey to stop people pleasing. Thank you

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My mind is literally blown

If you feel like you could be a people pleaser or feel resentful or that you go above and beyond for others and never get the same in return read this book!

You will not regret it!

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good listening

enjoyed this book was interesting and makes you think of life from different perspectives and gives good pointers

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Buy this book immediately!

I've been on a very intentional personal development journey for 5 years now and, because I've listened to so many self-help books, I've found recently that some have fallen flat. So the wisdom, practical suggestions, and brilliantly illustrated/relatable stories in this book have unexpectedly blown me away. I felt like the author was describing my life on a number of occasions. Her voice is both compassionate and firm. I urge you to get this book if have people pleasing tendencies.

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you dont have to have turkey at Christmas!

...daft but a realistic way to look at life & the expectations I put on my self. I hope to listen again in the future to see if I've implemented any of the empowerment suggestions. Wish all well who reach for this book.

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