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  • It's Not You

  • How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People
  • By: Ramani Durvasula
  • Narrated by: Ramani Durvasula
  • Length: 11 hrs and 31 mins
  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (194 ratings)

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REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION.

Dealing with a narcissist is hard. One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical Psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help. Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, you’ll learn how to:

  • Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist
  • Confront toxic cycles
  • Protect your energy
  • Create realistic boundaries
  • Reclaim and embrace your true self

Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal, and take back your life.

©2024 Ramani Durvasula (P)2024 Penguin Audio
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“A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships, helping them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.” - Jay Shetty

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Recommended reading for everyone!

One of the only books tackling narcissism from the victims point of view. Very well written and easy to follow, full of practical and helpful advice.

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Insightful and worth the credits.

I bought this so I could better understand the impact of my friend's vulnerable narcissistic mother and why she kept entering narcissistic relationships. I now get. I'm going to buy her a copy of this for Xmas. Check out Dr.Ramani on Lisa Bilyeu's Women of Impact podcast, that's how I first found out about the book.

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Thank you Dr Ramani!

To everyone reading this book - please know that you are not alone. I hope that this book can start a movement….know your truth, know your worth, find yourself!

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Everything. The accuracy is amazing!

It's changing my life. I still struggle to process all the information but I start to have hope that I can be better

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The constant rhythm of the story telling and its alignment with the main argument

I have been listening to Dr Ramani's youtube videos but listening her reading from her book is another experience. The overall content of the book "It's Not You" is convincing and those at whom the book fucuses can see themselves in it. It feels like a biographical account of your inner feelings. At least it made me feel that I am not delusional or crazy.
Thank you Dr Ramani, you are doing a meaningful work for humanity. More power to you. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

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Life changing!

I suspected I was married to an abusive narcissist and now I know for sure. So revelatory that I could even finish some of Dr Ramani’s sentences. This book has been life changing - highly recommend!

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educational

very insightful, well written, comprehensive and informative! written with compassion and kindness. also, a good gide to start your healing process!

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So eye opening

Thank you for this book it was the silent therapy sessions that I needed 🫶🏻 it’s definitely a must read for the ones who are not sure of being in a narcissistic relationship it will give you the clarity and assurance you deserve. Your not crazy, claim your true self back.

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A life changing book

Great content în how to heal from narcissistic relationships
The techniques are explained objectively

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One of if not THE most important book I’ve ever read!

Finally! A book that really says it how it is! This book has saved my life and my mental health..literally! If you want to be free from the tyranny of narcissism this is the book to read. The title is true and this book will definitely help you realise that ITS NOT YOU! I wish all of you readers safety, security, peace and happiness away from the narcissistic abusers in your life. It’s not us and we will survive and thrive together with our growing collective awareness of this toxic and damaging phenomenon known as narcissism 🙏🏻

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