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  • By: Jay Reid
  • Narrated by: Todd Lewandowski
  • Length: 8 hrs and 15 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (11 ratings)

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Growing Up as the Scapegoat to Narcissistic Parents

By: Jay Reid
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Summary

This book is for those who suffered as the scapegoat child to a narcissistic parent. The scapegoat child is emotionally deprived, devalued and trapped by the parent. The child comes to believe they are defective and undeserving. These beliefs can plague the individual into adulthood.

Scapegoating reflects the narcissistic parent’s own emotional disturbance–not the child’s.

Healing is possible for scapegoat survivors! New healthy beliefs about oneself can be established. This book explains how to heal with the three pillars of recovery:

  1. Making sense of the narcissistic abuse so you know it was not your fault
  2. Creating distance from narcissistic abusers in your life today
  3. Living in defiance of the narcissist's rules

Listeners will learn to apply these pillars in their own lives and reclaim the quality of life they deserve.

©2023 Jay Reid (P)2023 Jay Reid

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Highly Recommended

Brilliantly describes the problems of the scapegoated child of narcissistic parents. Also offers practical steps to help reverse the damage caused. Well written and very well read.

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Problems with Narration

This is a very helpful book if you are looking to understand your experience as a Scapegoat, and are trying to do something about this.

Unfortunately there is a real problem with the narration, throughout the whole book.

Ok, there is a pause at the start of each chapter.

Unfortunately, within each chapter, as the text moves on from one topic to the next, there is no pause to indicate this. And this happens time and again.

Each new paragraph or subject just becomes a continuation of the previous one, with no pause to indicate a change of tack.

Because your mind is left confused by this, it disrupts the flow of ideas.

As with punctuation in written texts, pauses in spoken texts are crucial to creating clarity; especially in technical writing, such as this.

How has this glaring error come about?



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Jay Reid just gets it

I bought this book after watching jays YouTube videos on narcissistic abuse and was impressed by his knowledge on the topic.

This book is one of the best I’ve read that covers narcissism (and I’ve read most of them).

If you unfortunate enough to be a victim of narcissistic abuse by a parent and especially as a scapegoat, this book is important to read.

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outstanding

Fantastic book. really well thought through and structured.
incredibly helpful
highly recommend if it seems it might be useful

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Excellent

Already a huge fan of Jay Reid’s work and this book grasps it’s all in one fell swoop. So on point and haves you feeling understood at the deepest level. I am grateful that such a book exists that really gets to the heart of the suffering. Lots of relatable stories woven into the text, which reflect well on experience. 10/10 great read.

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brilliant and specific

it outlined behaviours I see in my self that before I listened to this never had a clue where they came from would highly recommend this book it is triggering and emotionally hard to listen to for the victim but clarifies everything for the scapegoat child

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