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Trump Will Get More Dangerous Before This Ends. I Know, Because I Lived the Last Chapter

Trump Will Get More Dangerous Before This Ends. I Know, Because I Lived the Last Chapter

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I know how this story ends, and I want to tell you why that makes me more hopeful, not less.When people hear that someone like Trump will get more dangerous, they hear doom. I hear a timeline. Because I’ve read the last chapter of this book before.I’ve coached people for over 20 years, and I lived the pattern myself. What follows is my own read, from experience. I’m not a clinician, and I won’t pretend a pattern is a diagnosis. But I can tell you what the end of a controller’s run looks like, because I watched one end, and soon after, I left.Seven Traits on One ListLet me put the pieces on the table so you can see them together.Zero empathy.Lying as a habit.Cruelty for fun.Comfort with violence.Recklessness with other people’s lives.Rules and laws are for other people.No remorse.Seven things. Any one of them on its own, you might explain away. A bad day. A hard childhood. A style. Put all seven in one person, and the explanations stop working.That list has a name. It’s antisocial personality disorder, with narcissistic personality disorder right along with it, and sadism. Remember, that’s my opinion. I haven’t examined anyone. I’m reading a pattern the way a mechanic reads an engine noise: by having heard it before.Look at the list again and ask which one of them is a policy. None of them. They are not positions. They are ways of treating people, and they travel with a person from the boardroom to the bedroom to the podium.The reason I list them out is that you rarely see all seven at once in your own life. A person like this will show you one or two at a time, and hide the rest. But on a public stage, with a microphone, the whole list comes out.The Controller Who Is Strong and the One Who Is SlippingNow the typology that matters most to me. Not the good guy and the bad guy. The strong controller and the slipping controller.A controller who is strong does not need to name anyone. He doesn’t have to. His power is working. People are doing what he wants without being told, and he can afford to be calm, even charming.A controller who is slipping does something else. He starts naming who he can do without.That is the sign. A controller doesn’t name who he can do without when he’s strong. He does it when he feels like the house is slipping.So when I hear a president say that two American cities are a price worth paying, I don’t hear confidence. I hear a man who feels the room getting away from him. And I know what comes next, because I know what a person does when the only tool he has left is fear.Fear is the last tool in the box.It’s calculated cruelty. He knows exactly what it does to people. He has used it before and it has worked before. And that is why it’s the last tool: it’s the one he reaches for when the charm, the money, the flattery, and the promises have stopped working.The Room He Is Trying to FrightenWho is the target of a move like that? Everyone who might leave.This is the part people miss. The fear isn’t only for the people he names. It’s for the people who are watching and wondering whether they still belong in the room.He escalates because it has paid off before. Each time a threat got him what he wanted, he learned to reach for a bigger one.And when that stops working, the next threat is bigger. That’s the pattern I’m watching.Think about what that means for the person on the receiving end. When you are inside a relationship like this, each new escalation feels like proof that you need to behave better. You think, if I just stop upsetting him, it will calm down. But the escalation isn’t a reaction to your behavior. It’s a reaction to his own sense that his control is thinning.Picture it from the inside for a second. The tension in the house goes up. Everyone learns to read his face. You start to build your whole day around the mood he is in. And through all of it, the thing driving the noise is that he is afraid of losing what he has. That is hard to see when you are the one being frightened.I wish someone had told me that earlier. The louder it gets, the less secure he is.Mayor Bass, Governor Newsom and a Number That Won’t Stay PutNow let’s look at the record, because the record tells us the room is changing.A poll put his approval at 39%.Mayor Karen Bass said, “The role of a president is to protect the country, not to actively threaten it and encourage attacks on American lives.”California’s governor, Gavin Newsom, said, “He is deranged and dangerous.”I’ll leave the politics of those two aside, and tell you what I notice as someone who studies controllers. Both of them answered. Neither of them laughed along. Neither of them accepted the role of the price.That’s the first thing that happens when a controller’s grip slips. The people he names start to answer back. It looks small. It feels small. But it is the beginning of the end of the arrangement, because the arrangement runs on silence.And as the moments get faster and...
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