The Three Rules of Criticism

We all know criticism rarely works, yet it's one of the easiest habits to fall into. In this eye-opening shmuz, Rabbi Shafier reveals why even well-intentioned criticism so often pushes people away instead of inspiring change. Through powerful Torah sources, real-life examples, and practical guidance for marriage, parenting, and everyday relationships, you'll discover a more effective approach to helping others grow, one that strengthens relationships instead of damaging them.

It's easy to believe in Hashem in theory. Living with the awareness that He is with you every moment is something else entirely. In this powerful Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier explores the difference between knowing about Hashem and truly feeling His presence. Discover why tefillah can sometimes feel routine, what real yiras Shamayim looks like, and a few simple, practical changes that can completely transform the way you daven and connect with your Creator.

What if the biggest obstacle to your growth isn't your circumstances, but the stories you tell yourself? In this eye-opening Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier reveals how your mind can blur reality, distort your priorities, and subtly lead you away from your values. Through a remarkable Gemara, powerful real-life examples, and practical tools you can start using today, he shows how to break through self-deception, see life with greater clarity, and make choices you'll be proud of for years to come.

What does genuine bitachon really mean? Is it believing that everything will work out the way we want? Drawing on the righteous women who left Egypt carrying tambourines in anticipation of future miracles, Rabbi Shafier explores the true meaning of trust in Hashem. This uplifting Shmuz offers a powerful new framework for understanding Hashem's love and finding genuine peace, no matter what life brings.

Why did Hashem put us in this world? And how would your life change if you truly understood the answer? In this thought-provoking shmuz, Rabbi Shafier explores one of life's biggest questions, revealing how every person is given a unique mission, carefully chosen challenges, and the exact circumstances they need to reach their potential. Through powerful stories and timeless Torah wisdom, he offers a perspective that can transform the way you view success, suffering, purpose, and every decision you make. Once you see life through this lens, you'll never look at it the same way again.

Have you ever heard the three rules of criticism?

Don’t do it

Don’t do it

Don’t do it

Ok, everyone knows how it feels to be criticized. Everyone agrees that it’s damaging to our most precious relationships. Some people have lived under the shadow of criticism their whole life, and have the arduous task of trying to rebuild their self-esteem and confidence. So if it’s so incredibly obvious as to why we shouldn’t do it- why do we? In this week’s Shmuz Live, I’ll be deconstructing the science behind the scorn, and give some real-life, practical advice on how to overcome this destructive habit.

Have you ever wondered why, if Hashem loves you so much, you don't always feel it? This powerful Shiva Asar B'Tammuz shmuz explores a question that touches every Jew. Through the remarkable story of Bilam and his donkey, Rabbi Shafier uncovers a profound insight into Hashem's relationship with you, challenging many of the assumptions you may carry about His love, patience, and expectations. You'll come away with a deeper appreciation of what it truly means to be part of Hashem's chosen people, and why that understanding can transform the way you see both your struggles and your potential.

Why do we mourn the Beis Hamikdash... if we don't even feel what's missing? In this thought-provoking Tisha B'Av shmuz, Rabbi Shafier explores a question that will turn your perspective upside down. What if the anxiety, confusion, and emptiness so many people experience today aren't simply part of modern life...but symptoms of a world that is fundamentally broken? Discover why Chazal cried for the Churban, why we struggle to, and how understanding what you've truly lost can change the way you view yourself, your purpose, and your longing for the Geulah.