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The weather is getting colder, the holidays are approaching, and suddenly… somebody is looking GOOD! Welcome to cuffing season, when the desire for companionship can have you reconsidering people you wouldn't have given a second look in July!

In this episode of The Powder Room Podcast, Ivy Ashley keeps it fun while getting real about the difference between getting cuffed and getting handcuffed. We're talking seasonal dating, holiday boo-thangs, red flags, and how the desire for companionship can cause us to compromise our standards.

Plus, join Ms. Ivy for a little game of “Cuff Him or Cut Him Loose?” as we put some all-too-familiar dating scenarios to the test!

Whether you're single, dating, or entertaining a potential boo, don't let the changing season cloud your judgment. You can desire companionship without sacrificing your peace, your standards, or your discernment.

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We’ve been taught a LOT about sex — especially as women of faith. But what happens when messages of shame, fear, and “sex is nasty” follow us into adulthood and affect how we experience intimacy?

In the final Love Lesson of this three-part series, Ivy gets real about the messages she received about sex growing up, how those messages shaped her relationship with her own sensuality, and why sex and intimacy are NOT the same thing.

Because you can have sex with someone without ever truly letting them see you. Intimacy begins long before the first touch. It begins with trust, vulnerability, communication, emotional safety, and the courage to say, “This is me.”

And for the Christian woman, there’s another conversation we need to have: waiting until marriage is one thing — but are we actually preparing ourselves to communicate about sex once we get there?

Grab your tea and come into The Powder Room. We’re talking about sex, shame, vulnerability, marriage, and why you should never confuse sex with intimacy.

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What happens when we enter a relationship carrying wounds we haven't dealt with? We may think we're looking for love, but sometimes we're looking for someone to heal us, complete us—or worse, someone we can fix.

In this Love Lesson, we're talking about what it really means to “Don't Date Damaged.” I'll share why healing by partner replacement doesn't work, why when you date damage, you attract projects, and why we often attract who we are—not simply what we say we want.

But here's the good news: Being healed doesn't mean you'll never be triggered. It means you learn to recognize your triggers, understand where they come from, and take responsibility for how you respond.

You don't have to be perfect to love. But you do have to be accountable for your healing.

So before you ask God to send you somebody, ask yourself: Am I ready to receive healthy love without making somebody else pay for the pain of my past?

Press play. This Love Lesson might hurt a little—but it just might help you love a whole lot better.